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Originally Posted by eightiesbabe
You guys all sound so confident! I have full access to the hosptal gym where I work and a library of exercise tapes and perfect three and six mile running loops where I live. My problem (besides time and energy of course) is that I can not bring myself to exercise in front of anyone, especially my family, I know I should just say forget what they think but they make horrible comments and make me feel like going out and pigging out on something! Of course this is all under the guise of being "helpful" Summer is the worst because my daughter is out of school and it gets even worse when my husband is home (three weeks home, three weeks in Alaska) Its like I find time but I cant find consistant privacy! any tips? Jolene
Maybe have a serious conversation with your husband about how important this is to you and how hurtful his comments are. Those sorts of comments are inappropriate and show a real lack of support. I wonder if there aren't deeper issues involved here. Is your husband overweight? Does he feel guilty himself about not exercising? Is he threatened by you exercising? Maybe even seeing a marriage counselor for a couple of sessions might be beneficial.
I suspect that your daughter is taking cues from your husband and if he were to start being more supportive, she would too. But I also know that if I had ever said anything hurtful about either of my parents, I would have been punished severely. The next time she says something hurtful, maybe some sort of punishment is in order. I'm assuming she's still young enough that you are able to disclipline her. If she is an adult, then I think maybe you should have the same conversation with her that you have with your husband.
Also, I know that the gym can be intimidating, but after you go a few times, it is a lot less so. People at the gym are more self-absorbed than just about anywhere else in the world. After you've worked out there a few times, you realize that no one is paying any attention to you. I fell in a class last week, sat on the floor in such horrible pain that I could not speak for probably five minutes, and then hobbled around for several more minutes, and no one, not even the person working out less than five feet away, even noticed or asked if I was okay. Everyone is in their own little world.
This is another situation where hiring a personal trainer can be really helpful. Having a trainer made a big difference for me in terms of getting over my fears of working out in front of other people. You don't feel quite so stupid or self-conscious when you're just doing what someone is telling you to do. And if you are working out at the gym, then your husband and daughter won't be around to make comments. If you worked out at the gym at work, just before or after your work day, they might not even realize you are doing it.