I'm liking, well more than liking this guy in another city. We talk on the phone, but a lot of our communication is by email and chat. He's going through a tough time with his career/job. Things between us get hot then cold (meaning it feels more like just friends) then hot...on the cold downswing at the moment.

It's hard sometimes just waiting on his emails. I know I should concentrate on other things, and move away from it, which I do to a certain extent, but my feelings have really started to get stronger, and I just really like him.

I wish it were easier to sit with the feelings and see what develops. I don't want to drive him away. at the same time, I feel like I'd just like to chuck the whole thing. sigh.

Hang in there! I understand how you feel. I am in a new relationship and it seems like once a week I go through the "does he like me or does he not" thing?

I have to tell myself that he hasn't done anything that actively implies that he does not like me, and that I need to stop being so insecure.

thanks, I've spoken to him...and emailed and chatted, ha. yes, he's been busy. you're right, it never helps to be insecure!