Yes, I really do feel like a teenager asking her girlfriends for advise in the hallway between classes! Here goes. . .

I have been single since the fall. I am very happy about being out of the previous relationship and I have healed nicely. I have a friend (yes, a guy!) and we have gotten very close since then. We have been friends for years but always in group situations. Now we spend time alone together. He calls just to see what Im doing and he always manages to sit next to me when we are in a group situation. Should I be thinking anything of this? He smiles at me all the time and I people are always wispering that there is something going on between us, even though there isn't. I'm not opposed to it because he's a really decent person. But I don't want to assume wrong and cause tention in the relationship and make an *** of myself. What do you think?

Oops, there's the bell, we better get to class! Pass me a note in study hall, ok?

I wish I could help with this, but I am so off about relationships that I am having trouble trying to figure out the guy I'm dating..lol..I would say he digs you for more than just a friend, but I would wait until he says something to you about it....Just my opinion...

I'd say, try to chill out and just enjoy what's going on. No need to make it into something... If you are both interested in more, that will become clear as time goes on.

Jay

Passes note under the desk:
"It really depends. How do YOU feel about it? Are you okay just being friends? Do you have more intense feelings for him? If you're not sure, just give it more time to play out. If you're unsure of how HE feels, try and throw a curveball at him once and awhile. Do something small to flirt and see how he reacts. And in the end, have fun :P"

<3 xoxo
PS. See you at lunch

Pass him a note saying: "Do you like me? Check yes or no." ROFL

Seriously....just roll with it and enjoy it. Whatever will be, will be...if nothing comes of it, you still have a great friend. And that is more important than anything in my book...

Do you think you like him as more than a friend, or just the idea of the fact he might like you? Its one thing to really want more than friendship but another too just enjoy the attention he is giving you, and sometimes its hard to know the difference.

This really cracked me up! Of course, I remember passing notes, but if we were really trendy, we'd be texting each other between classes!! ha!

I think you should enjoy the "discovery" time. Rather than waiting to get to the answer, see how it plays out. He's probably trying to figure out if you want more out of the relationship, too. Give some extra hints or special attention! How fun!

Ok, Eileen brings up a good point. I might have to amend my previous statements!

I agree, i'd flirt with him a little and see how he responds. Maybe he likes you more than a friend, maybe he dosen't (if he dosent your still friends!), either way you have nothing to lose!

I agree with Eileen. You have nothing to lose by being direct, honest, and open.

"Hey, <name_of_male_friend>, you and I have been spending a lot of time together recently and I'm really feeling good about the closeness we've created. In fact, I'm finding you attractive as more than just a friend and would be interested in exploring that with you if it's something you want. How do you feel about that?"

Does anybody other than me think that would still be an adorable way to ask a guy out in a light-hearted way? Lol.

Amber....I'd totally do it.

Thanks for your responses everyone. Im gonna sit back and see what happens. I dont really feel comfortable enough with myself right now to jump into a relationship if thats where this is headed. I want to spend some time focusing on me and not someone else. Hopefully slow and steady wins the race in weight loss and love!

I think that's smart. If he really likes you, eventually he'll let you know. Make him do the work, lol.