do you even avoid hanging out with certain people becasue they make poor eating habits? and you find it harder to say no when you see them eating all your favourtie things? i have a friend who i often hang out with and everytime i eat awwwful ...like bags of candy and lets make brownies and eat them all awful, but lately i have been trying to be realllly good on my diet and i find everytime she asks to hang out i am saying no. i dont want to loose her as a friend but i simply cant control my eating when with her.

I think you should talk to her about it. Maybe she will try and eat healthier when you're around?

All my friends are like this, I have talked to my friends about this and none of them, must not have heard me cuz the still flaunt in in my face and I end up giving in. But in the past cpl of months I havent gave in and decided to get some self control. its very hard but u have to make the choice whether to put it in ur mouth or not. there not the ones putting the gun to ur head. if u truly want to change then dont give in, dont stop talking to ur friends, or make room 4 those bad things, but i wouldnt. i would end up feeling guilty. n ull move 1 step back. but thats just my opinion.

jahjah1223-if i told my friends that they would laugh in my face maybe cuz there all guys. lol But one of them did tell me after i told him that he should try to eat better cuz he has high blood pressure and everything. he said y should i stop eating the bad foods when they taste sooo good and im going to die anyways, so ill just be dying soon then later. im eating what i like to eat. i was like k. its ur life n ur decisions. lol

i dont notice this with friends but i find it next to impossible to eat well when im with family, they just keep offering me nice food! But its my problem and i cant avoid them because of that (and of course i love them to bits ) so im trying to learn to be stronger. I'm sorry i dont really have any advice, but i definitely sympathise!

yeah i call that "friend" my BOYFRIEND!!!! at least he used to be that "friend", since i got back onto counting weight watcher points to lose all the weight i gained since dating him, he has decided to diet with me! which is awesome, we both need to lose weight and its making going out easier when we encourage each other to make healthy choices now. However we both want to lose 30/40 lbs and its going to drop off him like that *snap* which frustrates me to death! he cuts out late night snacking for a week and loses +5lbs and i practically starve (not literally) for a week and lose 4lbs! i just have to remember that males and females are different in that aspect

Yes, yes, yes! There are polite ways to say no when friends offer you stuff (usually mine accept "no thanks") but sometimes it is really hard to give in. Why should they be on a diet just because you are? I get this from my family all the time too. What I usually do on pizza night with my friends is tell them I'll have two pieces (340 cals each so I really have to budget for this and eat smart the rest of the day) and ask them to agree not to offer me more than that. For the most part, it works. Not to say I don't have some major screw ups in willpower and moderation. When we go to movies, I sit on the end and ask them nicely not to pass me the popcorn, and I smuggle my own munchies into the movies.

Maybe your friend who likes brownies would like to try "experimenting" with healthier versions. Low cholesterol, applesauce instead of oil, egg beaters? Add walnuts? Splenda instead of sugar? I'm sure there are recipes for desserts that aren't AS bad for you, and it can be fun to try new recipes. But remember portion sizes! Take your piece and enjoy it slowly, and if she insists on splitting the whole pan with you, maybe you can opt to bring it home with you instead of indulging and then share it with family or stash it out of sight or (heaven forbid) chuck it if it's too much temptation.

It sounds to me like you and your friend were bonding over eating/making food. So even if you still hang out but you don't participate in the unhealthy eating it might seem akward or different. Maybe you could first tell her that you don't want to be eating junk everytime you two hang out. You should come up with other fun stuff you could do to replace that.

i would definitely talk to her about it. my best friend in the world is overweight and we would always get food, cook, whatever- but we were eating when we were spending time together. we do everything together but food was always a part of it. when i explained to her that i was getting healthy she was really interested and has actually totally changed the way she eats- even when i'm not around. maybe that conversation will be a life changing one for your friend!

I agree with Cherry!!

For the most part, my bf is my bad influence. He loves to take me out to eat, and I always feel like I have to keep up with how much he's eating. And we always splurge....appetizer, salad or soup, entree AND dessert. Ugh, makes me sick thinking about it. For that reason, I'm glad we're living in separate states right now, so it doesn't happen as often! LoL

BUT...recently, I've got his butt going to the gym. He and his buddies are even doing the P90X thing. He says he's gonna burn me the dvd.


And I do have one girlfriend that's very weight-conscious, but makes terrible diet decisions---chocolate, ice cream, cookies...definitely has a sweet tooth! We get together and man, it's over! LoL BUT...I have her doing the 30DS with me.



I say just talk with your friend...or opt for healthier choices when you're with her...I know it'll take TONS of willpower, but maybe she'll follow suit!

I find that I am surrounding myself with healthier people nowadays. That being said my adoptive mom and one of my closest friends are obese. I love them and that will never change. They encourage me on my own journey though. When we go to eat or whatever I am not tempted AT ALL when I see them overeating. It reminds me why I am NOT overeating.

I read somewhere that one of the best ways to be successful at losing weight is to surround yourself around people who are like minded about living a healthy lifestyle. In the beginning I wouldn't hang out with a friend who couldn't compromise for me, but as I get stronger I am more and more able to be around people who eat bad, without giving in to temptation.

At one of my old jobs I worked with a ton of overweight women, and they were SO hard to be around!! I would have cravings once a month, so I'd leave my money at home so I couldn't get anything.. but they would buy it for me when I was venting about cravings! I finally ended up telling them I had allergies to certain foods and that was the only thing that got them off my case about what I ate. It was not fun, so I quit my job. Thats a pretty extreme situation though.

-Aimee

I have a friend like that. She is obese and she thinks I'm crazy for wanting lose more weight. I was just up front with her, I told her I lvoe being with her but hate blowing my diet every weekend so if our friendship is to continue i need her support in helping me stay on track. Hope you have a similar relationship that allows you to be honest.