How can this happen already? Is it my total lack of willpower? Is it having no self control?

I started SB Tuesday, only Tuesday. I got up this morning with great intentions, but my DH's peanut butter toast smelled so good, so I made a piece for myself. Just one piece on ww bread. I thought that couldn't be that bad could it?

But then lunch came, and I had 3 more pieces of toast with Nutella. And then a had apple pie, then chocolates, then cookies, then fettuccine alfredo for dinner with 3 pieces of garlic bread. And then more chocolate. And now I'm typing while I'm drinking a Cafe Mocha. Ugh!!

So what do I do? I know I want to be healthier. I know I want to fit comfortably into my pants. I know I want to move around without becoming short of breath. So why can't I do this???

Help me, please. I'm in such despair right now...

To be honest, yes...it is a willpower issue. The first few days of a diet are the hardest.

The question you really should be asking yourself is why do you *not* want to do this. There is a reason why you sabotage yourself and finding it is the key to being healthy and happy.

I feel for you, I do...but I'm not one to pat you on the back and tell you that nothing is wrong. This place is great for support, but also great for a kick in the pants.

Have you looked into an overeaters anon. group? There is a group here if there isn't one in your area. I think it could really help identify whatever underlying issues might be present.

In the mean time....we're here. Cheering you on from the sidelines and wishing you all the luck and willpower in the world.

That is why I cant do 'diet plans' As soon as I tell myself I cant have something, a little voice in my head says 'yes you can, watch' and then its 'watch just how much of it you can eat' I am basically a calorie counter now, stick to around 1500 a day. I am working on a bunch of things right now like focusing more on portion control and eating more veggies. I normally don't like veggies but I am developing a taste for some. I try to remember that 1 trip to olive garden for my anniversary doesn't put back the 15lbs I have lost so far, it may stall any further loss for a couple days but big deal, I'm not in a race. I am just trying to make more healthy choices than I make bad ones. 1 decision at a time, 1 meal at a time. Since I went to Olive Garden over the weekend and ate bread with Alfredo sauce and some stuffed mushrooms, I made a better choice at O'Charley's tonight. A part of me really wanted the chili and cheese covered potato chips but I refrained and feel pretty proud of myself for not giving in. My previous excuse would have been "but I haven't eaten here in a long time and who knows when we will come back, they may not have this dish then" Changing my internal dialog makes a HUGE difference in my eating.

OK sorry this has went so long.

Sweetie, if losing weight was easy we'd all be thin. You have to make up your mind to commit 100%, and take it one day at a time.
I agree with Zeffryn, that you should get to the bottom of the reason why you are sabotaging yourself. Tell yourself that you CAN do this and succeed, and take it one step at a time, one day at a time. It helps a lot to make up a week of menus so you know exactly what you will be eating for each meal every day, and list your snacks on the menu, too. Check out the delicious recipes here in our forum, and choose the ones that appeal to you the most. That will give you tasty meals to look forward to and keep you from getting bored with your food.
We're all in this together, and we're here to help you and keep you motivated, so check in often. And if you do fall off the wagon, just hop right back on again.
Good luck!

hey steen huni.... you fell off the wagon... just dust yourself off and get straight back on 2moro. we've all messed up or we wouldnt be here. i find drinkin water helps me. i have 3 small kids at home all day that eat everything i cant have, i give it to them quick and run for the hills!! lol.... you'll be fine. when you go to bed tonight and every night, vision yourself thinner. i do it, then i wake up disappointed rotflol! just kidding, but the vision stuff really helps me stay focused. this is a long and troubled road on it, with alot of bumps, but stayin positive can help you get through it a little easier.

nice to meet you by the way, im stacy.
xxx

I think it is willpower too, dieting is really hard, but maybe you should try something like Weight Watchers or calorie counting where there's more flexibility built in and you can eat what you want, you just have to account for it.

I think you probably had the toast in the morning and thought, "well, I already blew it, so I might as well just have what I want." Don't do that. So you had some toast. Acknowledge it was a mistake and start again at the next meal. And, really, two weeks isn't a horribly long time to wait for peanut butter toast.

I find that when I'm craving something I can usually either make it Phase 1 friendly or I just remind myself that things will be a better in a few weeks.

It's not just one day at a time, it's one MEAL at a time. Remind yourself why you're doing this every single time you put something in your mouth. When you want something you shouldn't have, stop and get a glass of water and really ask yourself why you want it and if it's worth it. If you don't just react automatically, you can generally talk yourself out of it.

You can do it. Start again tomorrow and just move on.

mompom.. i agree... if i cheat just once, i figure i already screwed up for the day, why not keep it going... so i literally throw stuff out. b4 if one of the kids didnt want their cookie..... i would eat it.. now i quickly trash it or give it to the dawg lol....

sounds like you got a lot of really good advice so far! I, like you, tend to plummet from the wagon, rather than just slip a little. One off plan item, and I go for the all or nothing mentality. All I can say is that if you are strict with yourself, and don't allow that first little temptation to sneak its way in, then it becomes easier to say no again and again. Toast is actually my downfall, my mnemesis! I let myself have 1 p2 approved slice of toast on sunday mornings as my treat for not eating an entire loaf throughout the week. planning my rewards helps me be good also. And knowing that if i stick to my plan, my scale will show me weekly results really helps motivate me. and when i slip up too much, i come here for a reminder and a boost of confidence

yup. dont let a bad meal turn into an entire bad day

You've received some very good advice so far. I find that if I drink the required water and have a good variety of vegetables during the day I am more able to stay on the beach. Some items I just cant trust myself to have in the house no matter what . I have two teenagers so there are some treats I do have here for them, but I try to choose items that I dont care for. They are happy and I am not tempted. The great variety of recipes on our site also make this a no brainer for good filling meals that your whole family can and will enjoy. Good luck from a P 1.5 beacher. Linda