my second reason is just about as important. I want to lose weight for my husband. He is 6'5, 200 lbs soaking wet, and gorgeous. He is very supportive, but almost to the point of making me uncomfortable. You know how even in love, you can think others, esp celebs are attractive? well, one of his is kate hudson.. and she is a pretty woman.. today he told me that im much prettier than her.. poor thing lmao.. i just feel he got a raw deal sometimes..
when he wears certain pants, it makes his bum look sooooo nice.. certain color shirts bring out his eyes, and make him so attractive. when i feel the muscles in his arms, or he just walks across the room he still makes my heart flutter.. and with me he gets... a huge belly, a fat bum, flabby arms, double chin, thighs the size of his waist, and boobs im probably gonna start tripping over soon lol...i know he loves me.. and our sex life is great, so i know im not a 'turn off' to him, but... i just want him to have a woman that if she isnt sexy, is at least physically attractive. when we are out in public i see other women looking at him, and it kinda gives me a sense of pride that others find my baby so attractive, but that i have him and he loves me... i know when we go out in public, NO ONE else looks at me.. and i often wonder if he thinks about it.. i want to be someone he can be proud of in ALL ways... am i weird for feeling this way? lol.. what are some of the 'other' reasons you want to lose the weight?

Even though my hubby is also a very big guy, he's dated some very pretty women (one could have been a model). He's also very friendly and outgoing, so some women besides me find him attractive. Once in a Walmart a woman gave him her phone number, seeing he was with me, but apparently considering me no threat. I was in another aisle, but heard the exchange "you'll have to give that to my wife, I would lose it." She stomped off in a huff.

Another time in a chinese restaurant a waitress (asian, petite, and very pretty) asked if we were brother and sister, and was quite disappointed when we told her we were husband and wife.

Hubby laughs that it has actually gotten worse since he has to walk with a cane (he finds it odd that anyone would consider him a "catch"), and now needs to "beat 'em off with the stick."

He met me at nearly my highest weight(dating put on a few more until I was at my largest on our wedding day, as he was a real wine-her-and-dine-her kind of guy).

His nickname for me (even in public) is "hottie wife." I'm sure it makes most people laugh (and others puke), but he means it. His celebrity crush is Drew Barrymore, so curvy but small.

I don't know why I'm not insecure. Maybe it's the puppy-dog adoration he has for me, that makes me feel like I deserve it. Or maybe it's that he has been so insecure and afraid of losing me, that I'm not afraid of losing him. But I figure we both got exactly what we were looking for, even though neither of us resemble our celebrity crushes.

I guess I do consider myself beautiful, because when my husband sees it, I can see it too. (It's the rest of the world that is blind).

jimaterry, I hear you sister! My husband is 5'9" he weighs 170 lbs, and he has a light frame. I feel so guilty when I meet his co-workers, like some how he is judged on me. I know he isn't, but I feel like he deserves more that some fat old woman! He is suportive, and I know he loves me.

Hi there!
Um, yeah...while I'm trying to shape up and slim down, my husband struggles to get "up to" 145 lbs.--he's 5'10".
He loves me no matter what, and I know he still finds me attractive, but I've put on those 60 pounds since we've been married . While I'm not trying to be "the girl he married," I miss the vitality that "the girl he married" had, and I think in some ways he does too, although he's far too kind to ever say it.
I just worry that I sold the poor guy a bill of goods.

Honestly.....

I only want to loose weight for me. I am the one that doesn't like what she sees in the mirror. I am the one that is always affraid of what people are saying. My hubby actually gets upset with me. he is always telling me how sexy i am and how no woman can ever measure up to me. I know he looks at someone like Jessica Alba and thinks she is hot (who wouldn't) but then i wonder if you think she is hot there is NOOOOOOOO way you can think i am hot too. lol. I always ask him who he is looking at. But in the end it is nme who has the problem with my self image. Not him. So i guess all i can say is that the only reasons i want to loose weight are my reasons and noone elses.

Is that your hubby in your avatar? If so, then you're right ... he looks like the cat that got the canary .

I am right there with you too!! My SO is a heartbreaker and I am a "Little Butterball" as someone once told me!!

My SO is supportive but says he loves me just the way I am but I want him to be proud to have me on his arm when we go out!!

LMAO.... yes that is him. He is always making some kinda face in our pictures. I rarely get picture with just a smile, it is usually something to make me laugh later when i see it.

dlphnmomva Wow your hubby and mine must be seperated at birth, or maybe you and I were lol! My husband never complains about my weight, in fact he complains cause I don't embrace my "hotness" and is telling my how everyone else thinks I am hot and they are jealous of him ROFL! Although I must say his boss does give me a very hard time, he gives me outrageous compliments and will not shut up til I accept them graciously!

And yeah I totally don't get how a guy can look at a magazine or movie with some hot airbrushed girl in it and then look at me and say how I am just as sexy! Umm no...I sag....everywhere without support and am not nearly that pretty. I know I have self image issues and I also KNOW that my weight is not healthy enough so I am going for the inbetween! Find a body I can like and fix my image issues. Be healthy and be sexy and when I am happy with both I quit losing and start maintaining!

Because I want to learn to love myself, therefore I can love someone else. I'm not comfortable at this weight to date (hey, that rhymes!). I want to get married eventually, and I'd like to look seeeexy on my wedding day.