Ok, besides the obvious hang ups we tend to have with body image, ect. I have found that I have a bigger issue at hand. I have a BIG BUTT! My butt and thighs are easily a size 14, HOWEVER, my waist is a 10! So I either have pants that are SUPER TIGHT across my rear or they fit great there and are FALLING OFF around my waist. I used to be a great HOUR GLASS! But as I age gravity is causing all my weight to FALL..lol I never had a BIG waist, more of a flatter tummy (thank god!) but always THICK through the rear/thigh area. What, besides liposuction..lol, can I do!??!?!?!?
I need work pants (WILL NOT WEAR COTTON STRETCH PANTS!!) and jeans!
PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

Go to www.zafu.com this site can help nearly anyone find the right jeans.

And don't forget tailoring.

I'm a What Not to Wear nut ... and they often talk about this. Find a garment that nicely fits the biggest part of you, and get it tailored to fit the rest.

I have best luck with medium rise with no waistband.

Try Lane Bryant.. I used to HATE their pants since I'm short and not as curvy as some, but not without shape either.. They have a new line of pants made for different body types where they measure you and tell you which size to try. I was a '2 Red' and they fit like a freakin' glove, which was really weird for me as nothing seems to fit me well. Might want to give it a try?

My sister has this problem as well. She has to either wear a belt or have things tailored like Susan mentioned. She does occasionally find pants that fit her correctly though, so keep trying, you just never know.

In fact, I have to have things tailored as well, but for different reasons (pant length and containing "the girls.")

I am in the huge butt category as well...I usually just have to find stretch jeans in a happy medium. It's hard!