Hi Everyone,
I went to my cousins baby shower recently and was mistaken by another guest as the mother to be. We're talking the full tummy rub along with "when are you do?" in front of a huge room full of people. I was completely mortified. Once I got over the initial embarassment I realized that I needed to take control of my weight gain. So here I am! I've got a pretty good sense of humour and can see the funny side of it... ok maybe not just yet but I hope to once I start to lose the weight. I'm looking forward to chatting with others who perhaps can relate to the challenges of trying to lose weight.

OMG! A few years ago I was working a jewelry counter at a casino in Reno, and I was leaning back, talking it up with my co-worker, and this (handsome) guy came up and flat out asked me, "are you pregnant?" No, I guess my tummy's just fat! I can totally relate to the mortification. You will find lots of support here, my friend. Good luck, and eat your veggies!

Oh dear! I'm sorry that happened to you. It happened to me too!!! After I had my second child a woman asked me when I was due with the next, as she pointed to my belly (gasp). It was then when I, like you, took hold of the reins and decided it was time to buckle down and lose some weight.

You have found a wonderful place for support and encouragement. We're glad you're here. Good luck to you.

I can relate too! My 9 year old niece asked me if I was having a baby during Christmas dinner last year. Followed by a huge awkward silence as everyone heard!

Welcome to the forum, lots of nice people here who know exactly how you feel.

Sorry you went through that! I've had a moment with my great (who likes to point out to other women in our family that have gained weight) and it was horrible. Everyone has had some kind of "moment". Good luck and this is a really good place for support!

I'm sorry, that is one of the worst feelings in the world. The other day in Target my son said, "Are you sure you're not going to have another baby? Your stomach kind of looks like it." Last night I was at a fundraiser wearing a cute new top, but I got to thinking about what my son said and started thinking my top could be confused with a maternity top. I got a glass of wine real quick so people wouldn't have to wonder. Hang in there, and eventually this will be a long way behind you.

yeah, i know what it feels like. i got it once at a birthday party... and the person so conveniently asked it out real LOUD aaarggghhhh
but then, we're working towards getting to the other end of this

Me too! About 7 times! My tummy is the first place to gain and last place to lose. Discouraging, I like how you are turning the incident into a positive. I have had a difficult week and can use a good example like you. Thanks for sharing.

i think some people are just crazy. i've been asked *twice* in the last year if i was pregnant. i do tend to carry a little bit of weight on my stomach, but as of today i'm 6 feet tall and about 159 pounds...pregnant, please. i've been assured many times that i do NOT look pregnant.

I gain weight in my stomach, I was wearing a gap 3/4 sleeve shirt one day last summer, I thought that shirt was slimming and some woman came up and asked how pregnant I was. I was stunned, she mumbled something about confusing me with someone else but NOPE I think she didn't know someone pregnant at all - I had a fat stomach. Now when I see women I THINK might be pregnant I don't say a thing unless they bring it up! How embarrassing.

You would think people would hear about these stories and realize that unless you are pretty sure you shouldn't ask someone. It would be much better if someone stopped to think about what they were going to ask and the chance that they aren't pregnant. I think either some people just don't care or just don't realize. My bf's cousin was in Belk one day and a man actually came up and asked if she was breastfeeding her twins?! She was motified, her husband nearly smacked the guy, but I just couldn't believe the things people ask

At my high point though I thought it would be better to camoflague and I got this shirt that was fitted at the top and floofy at the bottom (floofy is my word for flows away from the stomach) and I got to work and looked in a mirror and realized I looked pregnant. As soon as I got back to my bf I told him about it and he said 'yeah i realized that but I didn't want to hurt your feelings' I told him if I ever wear something that makes me look like that again to speak up!

I think the opposite can almost be just as bad. The girlfriend of one of my coworkers several years ago was a bigger girl. She came crying into the store one day because she went to her boss to let her know that she was going to be due in the next couple weeks, and her boss completely did not believe she was pregnant.

She didn't look any different and she was having a huge baby (he was just shy of 11 pounds). I wouldn't have known if Joe hadn't brought in the ultrasound pictures.

I'm sorry you had to hear that....It amazes me what people will say! Hang in there you are doing great!!

I had an experience like that too. Only I was like 13 years old! I was walking over to the gas station and some lady yelled out across the parking lot "ARE YOU PREGNANT?" Omg, that hurt soooo bad and i've never been able to forget it.

So, you see a lot of people on here have had the same thing happen to them. It's good to know we're not alone!!!!

Welcome to 3FC!

Christina

I've had a couple of children ask me if I was pregnant when I was interning. One kid yelled it in the hallway, how embarressing. The other one was my down's cousin and she went all the way with the belly rub, "baby in belly", etc, etc. That's with being 22, 5'9 and 155 lbs. Ugh!

For children, (who will one day be those idiots that ask if you are pregnant) I tell them that it is impolite to ask people if they are pregnant and that they will tell you if they are.