..................This really upsets me,I can not get enough food in me....I just ate a bag of popcorn,now I am going to go make some sushi,I am sitting here literly crying right now,After I ate lunch I had to eat a bag of hershy kissies..... I had thoughs 100 cal pack of cookies I probbly ate 4 in a row,then some goldfish crakers.......Its never ending with what goes in my mouth everyday its like I want to keep eatting its like its hollow in my tummy and it cant be filled I want to eat till I snap and cry...I used to be anorexic and bulimic about 7 years ago,I probbly weighed a whole 70lbs.... Now I am a single mom of 2 kiddos both men didnt think I was good enough DS 1 father is who know's where!!!!!!! father # 2 is supportive but not while preg I didnt here from him once when I was preg,but he lives in another town and talk on phone,I still very much care about him and have told him only to be rejected,sounds trashy but I promice I am not I come from a middle class family parents still married and in love very conservitive...What is my deal with eatting is it bfing or my issues with men what is it??????Sorry to get off topic

Darlin, it sounds like you are eating yourself out of a deperession, which only makes the depression worse. You seem to be lacking any support for any thing in your life. I think you should find a therapist, and start there.

Hey there pink-

Yep, we call that emotional eating. Compulsive overeaters don't eat because we're physically hungry. As a matter of fact, we don't stop eating long enough to actually get hungry. Instead, we eat to stuff down our feelings because they don't feel good. We eat because we're angry, lonely, tired, hurt, depressed, anxious, irritable, discontent, bored, and on the flip side, we also eat when we're happy, celebrating, socializing, and entertaining.

Basically-- it's always time to eat. We turn to food to cope with life.

What we find is that no amount of food can fill that empty hole inside of us. We keep trying...we go from popcorn to candy to goldfish to cookies... Nothing makes us feel okay.

Overeaters Anonymous shows us a different way. The OA program gives us tools to use instead of food. We find support in the group, our sponsor, our higher power, our abstinence, and in our literature. We go to meetings, we read about program, and we work the 12 steps. We learn how to live without using food as a coping mechanism.

It's simply miraculous.

You can check www.oa.org to find a local meeting. You can also order the book 12 Steps and 12 Traditions of Overeaters Anonymous.

There is help. You don't have to be alone. You don't have to eat over life ever again.

I'm, unfortunately, right where you are at -- and I agree -- it's not about the food. I've been having serious marital problems since June and that's when I seemed to open my mouth which hasn't closed since -- I'm eating EVERYTHING -- whether it's something I like or not, after the "good stuff" is gone, I'm eating cheese slices, crackers, anything.

Eating will not make someone love you that doesn't, it will not make you a better person, better parent, heck it won't even make you feel better -- it only adds to your problems.

I'm off to counseling in two weeks, because I know that I'm trying to fill a void with food that it can't do. I have had my share of bulemia in my day and I know what is causing this eating, I just can't seem to figure out how to stop it either -- try OA, try counseling, anything to get yourself out of this -- we can't do it alone.

Thank You,the links were awsome and the support from you gals that are going through this aswell...I think someone to talk to about this would help I seem to go from one extrem to another with food.......I hope this is ok to post but I wonder if not being intimate with someone for about 2 years would cause this aswell I think I seen something about that on Oprah with Dr.Oz .................

I've noticed you can post just about anything on here -- it's like a big, old slumber party on here!! I have not been intimate with my spouse since probably May (not quite two years, but who knows, it's looking like that's possible!!!) and I have been eating nonstop since and I know it affects me. We haven't gotten along like we used to since I started gaining weight, but I've noticed that since the intimacy is gone, I've been completely out of control. Hard to pin point, but I feel SO alone even with a family. I absolutely adore my two boys, but there is just a void where I think a loving relationship belongs. I hope you find someone to talk to that can help you work through this.

I'm so astonished, I didn't think...oh my goodness! And here I thought it was just me! You'd think by now I'd realize there's really nothing new on this earth, and if I'm going through it it's likely someone else is, too.

My husband and I have had a very rocky relationship on the physical side, combined with being best friends on the other side. Huh?? I've steadily put on weight over the years, and I've had to clamp down very, very hard to either maintain or scrape some of this weight off. Seriously--it took me 11 months when I first started to take off the first 18 pounds!

We've been through counseling and have made some progress, but my decision to find OA was the thing that tipped things in my favor and finally had me addressing issues I was hiding from. Very recently I've seen that the lack of physical intimacy has been the undercurrent of frustration and anger throughout our relationship. I can trace it, looking back, through all my gains. This about shocked the pants off me when I realized it! I had so many other excuses/reasons that seemed plausible enough. This one is like a click, though--this feels RIGHT. I keep listening for a correction from my HP, and it's not there. Honestly, I feel more settled and more comforted and more understood than I have in a long, long time.

Now, we're both adults, and we've been through counseling and have wide-open communication, and we've made the decision to try something out of the ordinary to address this issue. We actually made that decision about 3 weeks ago. And in that time I've dropped 10 pounds WITHOUT CHANGING MY FOOD AT ALL. Ghost in the machine, indeed.

Anyway, I'm sorry, so sorry to hijack this thread, I just have never heard anyone talk about this, and I was so thrilled I had to jump in.

Hey guys--
Sex is a part of who we are. We are sexual beings-- created with desires and needs. When those needs aren't being met, just like any of our needs, then we aren't balanced.

If you haven't done your 4th step yet, there's a part of the inventory set apart just for sex. We usually don't want to look at this part of our lives-- but it's important. As you can see from the other posts on here it's one of the things that affects our disease, our addiction, our compulsions, and how we feel.

Human touch, feeling desired, being sought after, and feeling connected are all a part of sex and a big part of how we feel about ourselves.