The big family reunion is coming up and I wasn't planning on going...but I found out an Aunt and Uncle that moved out of state are going,and I really really want to see them.So,I'm going to suck it up(hope that a cousin that really hurt me years ago due to teasing me about my weight doesn't show up.I hate how I'm 35 years old,but resort back to my teens when I even think of him )and hope to get through the day with some good memories.

Anyone else not like going to reunions? It wouldn't be so bad,but this is my dad's side(gossipers)and needless to say,I take after my mom's side(all overweight at some point).I'm not very comfortable to begin with(my dad died years ago and I've kinda lost touch with alot of his side),but the weight makes me feel even worse about going now

Thanks for just letting me ramble.I have until the beginning of next month to not have to dread about going.

I hate family reunions too. We had ours with DH's family last month. I didn't want to go, but DH's mom gets very offended if we skip it. I hope you go and enjoy seeing your Aunt and Uncle. Don't worry about the stupid cousin, he can't help it that he's stupid.

Sometimes I force myself to go to family reunion-type gatherings and sometimes I don't--it all depends on the gathering. I may have used up my 'I just can't go this time' w/ my husband, so the next gathering I will probably have to go to, for his sake.

The good news is, you will get to see your Aunt and Uncle that you really want to see. Do something nice for yourself before and after!

I saw much of my family in January at my Grandmother's funeral. I hadn't seen some of them in over 16 years, and many didn't recognize me at all. I felt very self conscious about my weight, but it was nice to see them.

In December we are having another get together for Christmas. I haven't told any of my family that I have been losing weight, so I can't wait to see them now. lol

You should go to your reunion with your head held high. You are taking steps for a healthier you, and you have even lost some pounds (and will lose more between now and then, I'd wager). It sounds like you and your cousin were younger when he teased you about your weight. I'm sure he's grown out of it by now (hopefully).

Hey... who knows... you could even show up and find that he has a few pounds to lose now.

None of my brothers have seen me since I started my healthy lifestyle changes in the middle of February. I want to shock and awe them when they see me next....which will either be at Thanksgiving or Christmas.

Don't miss out on seeing loved ones due to your weight. For the last two years I would conveniently be ill and unable to attend family functions. I was embarassed about my appearance. You are doing well on your weight loss and life is too short to not see people you love.

Show up, visit with your Aunt and Uncle and if the cousin says anything nasty, tell him to shut the F up. You're a grown-up, you don't have to take that kind of crap anymore.

(I'm feeling pretty feisty today. )

Right on!!! I feel the same way. Feisty is GOOD!!

Could you invite said Aunt and Uncle out to dinner without doing the whole reunion thing? I am one of those people who does not feel guilted into doing big family things. I love my family but in small doses (we're all a little wacky). So, many many times I skip the huge blowouts and keep my visits on the smaller scale.

I'm with you. I hate the family reunions and such. I would like to see none of them again until I am in better shape.

Thanks Ladies! I got in two good workouts today and that made me feel better,and I'll take the advice of above and go and enjoy myself.I'm glad that it's near my house this year,at least I can go for a bit and then leave early I'm also glad to see others who aren't fond of going.My sister doesn't get that I'd rather take my family in small doses too and the reunion coming up...not small at all.In fact,there are people there that I didn't know way back when I was little...and still wouldn't know them today.

OMG Tricia - we are alike in more ways than just body type!!!