i know that we should live life as we are today, right now but if you are like me then you have your life on hold while you lose weight.. ok so with so many topics about putting our life's on hold, what i want to know is why are you doing that?? whats your reason.. what are you wanting for.. let me explain, here is my example.

i have my life on hold right now so that when i finish losing weight i can do everything i want to do right now... BUT without the embarrasement.

I have some areas on hold (ie) there is a BBQ at my Brother's house tonight that I made an excuse not to go to. I just don't want to be exposed to his delicious food and be tempted - but really I'd love to see my family (sisters, parents) and they don't care that I'm overweight. I just wanted to stick to my routine.

My husband invite me out to golf with him and I just won't go until I lose weight, my daughter has a school picinic coming up, her Dad (my ex) will take her.

I feel badly about missing these things, but I feel good about not screwing up my routine or getting myself depressed about feeling awkward at the golf club.

So yeah, my life is on hold but I get up every morning, I work, I look after my house, my family, I eat well, I exercise - I make sacrifices but in time I'll reap the rewards

I won't go to amusement parks (unless I have a free pass ) because I don't fit in most seats!

That being said, I fit in the ride at Sea World and when I tried it last year I really liked it (it is mild and not too hard on my spine).

I basically only miss out on things that cause me physical discomfort due to my size. I still go to the beach with friends (not always during the day as I am very fair and hate too much sun!) even though I may wear more clothing than they do!

My life is not on hold for anything! I'm living every day!

Jay

My life was not and is still not on hold except for a tattoo I want a lower back one that goes to the hips so I want to wait until I see how much my skin tightens cause Iif I need surgery I don not want to ruin it and then have to pay a fortune to fix it.

I wouldn't say my life is on hold, I enjoy it every day. The only 2 things I have on hold is swimming (yeah those dang swimsuits!) and getting the tattoo around my belly button covered/redone, I don't think of either of these things as putting my life on hold though, I look at them more as minor things that I'll do as a reward when I'm at a healthier weight.

I definately don't think my life is on hold because of my weight...more because of my time, if anything. I feel alittle more comfortable having lost some weight, and can't wait to lose more. I hate when i go out to a club or something, all the girls there are like a size 2. I don't want to be a size 2 but a 6 might be nice!! :-)

My life is on hold so I can do all the things I'd like to do now but without the embarrassment, too. Haha.

I rarely shop unless it's for shoes or something I just HAVE to have. Besides the fact I don't want to buy fat clothes, I also look much better in clothes when thin and have more of a selection. Since my weight gain, I've yet to find a dress that looks good on me. I have love handles, and since dresses hug the entire body, I look so bad in them.

My life is on hold for casting calls, too. I used to act and even do print/commercial modeling, but I just don't feel comfortable doing it since my weight gain. See, I know I could do plus-sized modeling, since I'm within the size bracket (they usually want you to be between the sizes of 8 and 12, which isn't ACTUALLY plus-sized, but since when did models represent the truth??)... but... I'm not naturally supposed to be this big, and therefore, I look disproportionate.

AND my life is on hold for me to never eat junk, bad carbs, overly fattening foods, and a zillion other things... the day I reach my goal weight, I'm going to go out and CELEBRATE and eat something TASTY and FATTENING but DELICIOUS... and then, the next day, it's healthy lifestyle time again.

PS: I commend those of you who DON'T have your life on hold and are living it up every day AND shedding those pounds. Just because I have issues doesn't mean I don't commend those who don't.

I WAS waiting to get a new tattoo (an enhancement on an old one plus more added to it) until I was smaller, but I decided to just do it because I'm sick of waiting.

I wait to go out and socialise, because I feel very uncomfortable going out and trying to meet new people (though I seem to be ok and social at my new job; I realise my social phobia is my OWN projection of myself on other people).

I wait to buy new clothes because I'm absolutely SICK of buying larger sizes.

I got engaged on NYE and my DF wanted to get married THIS summer. I absolutely do NOT want to get married this size.

My entire sex life is pretty much on hold right now because I am ashamed of my body.

I would like it NOT to be this way (waiting for my life basically) and I'm working on these things

I most definitely have my life on hold. For years it's been waiting to be lived. In so many ways. It's depressing as ****. That's emabrassing to admit. But it's true. And each day I hold back, make excuses not to go somewhere or do something, makes me want to keep going with my new lifestyle (WW). I used to feel sorry for myself and just eat more and lay around and therefore gain more, but that's the old me - now I'm DOING something about it, I'm getting myself out of this mess that I (and only me) put myself in.
I'm dreaming of the day where I've lost all my weight and no longer have to hide, lie and delay joy. I think about it constantly, day and night. I cannot wait. I also commend those of you who live each day just as they are, as they want - good for you! That'll be me one day.

I just read the "social anxiety" thread and I think it is related to this one. I don't have to be fat to put things "on hold". I think it is part of my personality. I believe that, for me, I am fat because I "put off", or don't extend myself socially rather than the other way around.

I hope you gals keep coming up with this kind of topic. I feel like I learn about myself from thinking about what you are saying.

I am an old hippie and always wanted a tattoo on my butt. Maybe you all will inspire me. LOL!

My life isn't on hold. I still do all the things I want to do, but I feel scared,awkward, and uncomfortable doing them. *Back to My Camping Trip* We were all sitting around the campfire and it was ROASTING outside. I had just bought a new bathing suit (Two Piece Halter) and I decided that I was going in. I strut myself down to the lake like I was made for that suit (Hopefully they didn't see my legs shaking) I slowly edged myself in praying that they weren't looking at my fat legs and my arm jelly. I turned around and they all were clapping for me to go in. THEY DIDN'T CARE.. They weren't making gross faces or cat calling me. The truth is... I push myself into situations that I'm uncomfortable in because I still want a normal life. I want to be able to go boating without worrying that I wil tip it with my weight, I want to swim, I want to go to the bar and feel sexy.

Yes I still fee insecure and I would rather hide away from all the things my weight effects, however, when the time comes that I am skinny minnie. I don't want to look back and think "Wow, look at all the time I lost feeling sorry for myself"

I wouldn't say my life is on hold, but it did get a tune-up. Instead of so many social activities revolving around eating out (and usually heavy meals), now more of my meetings are active ones -- a game of tennis, a hike around a canyon, etc. and when I do eat out with friends, I plan for it by eating lighter for my other meals/snacks that day or squeezing in some extra exercise. And of course, making more careful & healthy choices at restaurants.

Yes, my life is on hold. I want to do a lot of physical things that I don't have the strength or endurance for. I'm taking baby steps to work toward those things. I want to hike, so I walk. I want to dance, so I shake my bootie when I vaccum.
I'm also living. I play with my kids, spend time with my hubby, enjoy friends and work in my garden. Life is good, but I want more.