Hi all!! Sorry been gone so long but went to my mothers for awhile. She has lonely spells since my stepfather died. Well I have no clue if I've lost any weight since the goal was met. Probably not. Being at her house sure doesn't help. But I got home and finally got this big old bedroom clean that i know hasn't seen that in about 4 weeks. Jacob (my boy) got his progress report and we have A's and B's. I'm so proud. He had a really rough time last year. He's 8. Well the DP has a court date finally!!
It's May 16th at 9:30. Cross your fingers everybody and say lots of prayers. I need my man home. On top of all this stuff tonight (2 weeks from DP to maybe come home) the ex husband calls. What a pain. It's I want to see my son and be in his life. Where has he been for 8 years? Is it just now hitting him? And where is the child support? Heck $50 a month isn't that much to come up with and I've never seen it except once. Now he's supposedly disabled and ss says his check can't be touched. How sad for the children out there that need that support. He sure wasn't disabled making all his kids...5 or 6 i think. Anyway he has the gall to tell me that he's coming here and bringing a DRUG TEST!! LOL Ain't that a hoot! He said he heard i was a crack queen!! Lord if i was i wouldn't be huge!! So i told him that was fine and that when i come out clean it would be his turn. Well that put a stop to that. Hopefully this is just his once a year call so i can't terminate his parental rights. Lord i wish i could. Don't really know how though. I hate thinking my son could go to this abusive lazy wretched little man. But anyway i did do some walking while i was gone. My pitbull is pregnant and needs the exercise too so we took her. I hope everyone is doing wonderful and keep up the good work!!!



I will fly...my wings may be broken...but they will mend...and I will fly!

Good Morning!!!
Nonrg--Men..what planet do they come from???(Excluding RX of course )My brother went through the same stuff until they finally got the dad's right terminated and he adopted his wife's little boy..Best thing that ever happened...

Ok..I called in yesterday..finished all my scrapbooks for the year 2006 except for the completion of the Disney trip --and this AM I feel like yuck...No voice and a sore throat..Hmmmm..now I am going to work really sick...What a mess..

Good MOrning to all..must get well for the weekend..We have the Movers on Saturday and Princesses on Ice for Sunday..(DH has no clue I have those tickets)
Ok..have a nice day
RR

Nonrg- I know what you mean about men - my ex called today and wanted to come with me to pick DS up from childcare - when he got there he made out that he was this real concerned dad- best thing was that my DS wanted nothing to do with daddy LOL- wouldnt say hello,cuddle him, acknowledge him at all, we have just started a new daycarer and I think she saw through him LOL

RR- you are good to finish your scrapbooks - I realised on Monday I hadnt scrapped for over 18 months- and I have a HUGE stash!! So I went to my 2 local scrapbook places and grabbed their May timetables - if my ex has DS I am going to take advantage of a class or free crop and scrap!!!! I need an interest and ME time again!

Well here's how my day went - I got my car rego check done today and my car failed - it needed 4 new tyres - Money is really tight at the moment- and I dont have money for one tyre let alone 4... so I bit my bottom lip and rang my sister to seek some advice - I was thinking about doing the interest free thing buy now and pay later, and she was at home and I wanted to check the internet and see which tyre companies offer interest free... well she did some searching and told me the name of a place and I started to drive there- well on the way she rang me back and offered to pay for them. I was crying as I drove to meet her at the bank. I am soooo grateful for her generousity, it has really helped me out.

Having felt soooo low and embarassed for asking for money - I cancelled my gym child care booking and just wanted to get home and curl up and cry... but after getting home I felt guilty for cancelling and after dinner I put some work out videos on - I did walk away the pounds and 10 minute abs... having worked out made me feel differently about the day - I was embarrassed and felt ashamed and sorry for myself that I havent got any money left in my account before my workout and now I feel so blessed that I have people in my life like my sister and this board that can help me through the rough patches. When I was feeling sorry for myself I indulged in a packet of M&M's and a Gloria Jeans iced white chocolate whilst waiting for the tyres to get fitted... I am going to think about today as the day that I realise there are other ways to cope with disappointments and look for support and comfort outside of food.

TGIF tomorrow - have a good Thursday! I'm off to bed - night!

Morning Girls,

Nonrg & mumtoliam ~ What a bummer for you girls ... My sister is divorced and she told me that she felt like she'd experienced a death; in herself and in her marriage. And, she, thankfully, didn't have kids with this guy. It has got to be soooooo hard at times. We're here for you! Keep up the exercise. Even just 10 minutes worth makes a difference.

RR ~ now your feeling sick is completely unfair! You finally take a day for yourself and this is what happens. Next time don't wait 4 years to take some "ME" time:-).

The new school is AMAZING!!! Our kids go to a really good school now but the new one looks to be even better. I'm so thrilled as this is just the icing on the cake. Got my butt out of bed again this morning to exercise. Feels great to have that accomplished *and* passing my favorite coffee shop w/o stopping. This place has the most amazing pastries... Instead, I ate a banana before dropping the older kids off at school and then came home and ate a luna bar with my coffee. Small feat but I feel good about it. A friend is giving me a belated b-day gift tonight. We're meeting at a local spa and getting pedicure. Can't wait! I haven't had one since last summer and these feet need some serious pampering ~ LOL. Happy Thursday ~ Joan

Joan: Good deal on getting pampered-you deserve it. Also, kudos to you for choosing the healthier options!

RR: Get better quick!

GG: Thanks for the virtual dew!

Non: Glad to see you back, sorry about the jerk ex.

Have a good day all. Melinda

Mum, I soooo know where you are coming from. I have been divorced for almost 3 yrs, and we were seperated for 6 mos prior. As soon as we seperated my tire blew. I didn't have the money, but knowing my ex I replaced all 4 with the 6 mo financing deal (luckily paid it off before the time ended). I moved back home with my parents shortly thereafter and have progressed quickly. Long story short ~ I am glad that you have people in your life who can be there and supportive for you. Sometimes it is hard to see that.

RR, Oh maybe you need more mental health days. Take care of yourself.

MJ, do you need more virtual MD??? You don't seem so peppy today. Are you not feeling well?

Karen, glad the kids slept in, don't remember if that was from yesterday or today. Hopefully they cooperate with you.

Lauren, Hows mom doing?

GG, sorry about the migraine, hope you're feeling better today. When I get them all I can do is sleep in a very dark room with no sound.

to all I missed.

Lisa

Everybody pray for my day. He called again this morning. Just to tell me he still loves me. It's been 6 years. 6 LONG YEARS that i have been blissfully happy without him. And 5 years that I have loved my jailbird. Before i could tell him that the voices in his head were active again he said "OMG she's home from work I gotta go bye!" He's been with this poor girl 3 years and because she's in some lawsuit with a coal company around here he's staying there. Lord thank you for not letting me stick with that! He's got to be joking! Now I don't wish death on anyone cuz that's not nice. But it would sure be nice if the earth opened up and swallowed him whole and put him in a nice big cavern where there would be food and drink and happiness for a troll like him. He could meet a trollett and they could have little trolls and be happy ever after!! But one condition he can never come out!! It's a dream. I hope this doesn't continue cuz if my honey comes home and troll psycho is still calling he's gonna be nervous. And I'm already nervous enough for the both of us. 13 days till court and hopefully my heart gets to come home. Pray hard!!! Hope everyone's day is going ok.

Roadrunner they don't come from a planet... it's underground far far underground....!!!

mum Ain't it wonderful when they show their butt and everyone knows it? Makes my day. Only thing is you have to put up with them for it to happen and i don't even want to do that!!

IrishYep it is a true letdown when the marriage ends and you are very lost. I was pregnant with Jacob when he left so I was really a mess in labor with MY son. Yep i said MY cuz I'VE raised him. ME. (think i'm a little angry? LOL) But you know what? That divorce was probably one of the best things i did with my life!! It just took a while to realize it!

GOOD MORNING MELINDA!!!!!

oh hey roadrunner....how did your brother go about doing that? I'm pretty sure that since trollboy hasn't seen his son in so long that i could do that. Just don't know how!

Non, as I was reading your post I started to remember how, when I first seperated, I wanted my ex to be hit by something big and deadly. He worked (and still does) for a city in NE Ohio as their traffic engineer. He had to go out and check on traffic lights and road stuff occasionally, and I was in a dark enough place where I wanted him run over with a semi. It isn't something that I am proud of, it's just the state I was in. Now I am happy to report that hes married to someone else and I wish them the best.

Lisa

Non ~ don't take this wrong way as I know that this is serious stuff but I'm LMAO about your troll story. He could meet a trollett, yada, yada, yada. I love how your mind works;-). Also, had to laugh at his calling to say that he still loves you but then had to quickly get off the phone when the girlfriend arrived home. What an idiot. Too funny.

Hi All!

Sheila, post your enchilada recipe in the recipe forum we have stickied up top!

Lisa & nonrg, I can totally see where you'd want something horrible to happen...

Mom's doing better. Went to the Dr. this AM and got her drain & staples out. She said that made her feel much better. She has to work on getting more protein in though. She's allowed soft foods now, like eggs, deli meat, etc.

Mel, what, no dew this AM...you're awfully sedate!

Joan, awesome that they're getting even better schools! The house we're considering right now is in a town with awesome schools too.

Vanessa, sorry about the tires, but how great that you have a sister that's willing to help you like that.

Hi to everyone else!

Lauren: Ok, here's the funny thing. I totally am feeling like a HUGE witch w/a CAPITAL BBBBBB! And, I only started feeling a little bit happier about 30 minutes ago. Coincidentally, that's when I started tappin' this giganto size dew-first one of the day. SEE, I HAVE AN ADDICTION to the dew ladies! It's not just caffeine, 'cause I had coffee AND lipton tea this morning. I'm also eating for the first time today (yea, I know it's bad....but work has been busy and I woke up late)-yummy egg salad and a pickle...ok, and chips. Ok, so I think the moral of the story is this-I CANNOT be denied my dew. It's traumatic. Glad to hear mom is doing good. Give her a big squeeze from her surrogate family here @ 3FC!

Ok, so I got my hair cut and I HATE IT. The first day is just awful. Of course, noone here @ work really noticed too much of a difference, but oh well. I got like 5 inches cut off in total (mostly in layers). Anyway, Kerri will enjoy this- I also colored it a light auburn-it was a new Revlon Color Glaze package that was on sale ($6 bucks off). Yeah, the friggin' color ended up looking EXACTLY THE SAME TOO! Grrrrr.....I wanted a new transformation to feel energized and ready to LOSE THIS DAGGONE WEIGHT! I am TIRED of being tired and I am TIRED of having cellulite and I am TIRED of being overweight and I am TIRED of not being selected as Publisher's Clearinghouse's winner!

Non: I'm with my little cucumber melon w/baby tangerine slices and grilled chicken breast salad buddie Joan- YOU CRACK ME UP! Maybe you could hunt down the guys that took care of Jimmy Hoffa and they could lose your ex like Big Jimmy!

Lisa: When I first started reading your post, I thought you were going to tell us he WAS hit by a semi during work. I think that's great of you to be able to wish him well in his new relationship, but what a dipwad to have screwed up with you! I mean, you're like one of the most wonderful people on the planet!

Ok, well now I'm tired again...time to take the B Vitamin supplement...don't really know if that works...but a lot of research about hypothyroids say it helps...so I'll keep tryin'. Heck if someone told me that tongue kissing an iguana would help, I'd be willing to do that too! Hmmm........

Love, Melinda

Vanessa: Sorry to hear about your situation. You know honestly there are some people who have no one. I know you are grateful, some day you will be able to pay it forward. I think people whether they are family, friends, or a stranger do things for others because at one point in their own lives someone has had to help them out. You will be fine.

Non: I have a parent in Daycare going through the same thing. She just documented non stop and guess what he lost his rights finally just this year it has taken her 7 years. Good Luck!

RR: Do you go to Disney land alot? It says you are from LA. Sounds like you are a great mom! Keep it up!

Joan: You enjoy that pedicure. You deserve it. Good job on passing the coffee shop I didn't today but I always get mine skinny and sugar free. Small steps are the best I think. You take care!

Melinda: What is up I am used to the wonderful concocktions you describe with food. How ya doing?

Hey Lisa; I am glad you have such a positive attitude about EX's I guess I always have wondered why people that want out get so jealous when the ex starts dating etc. Have a great day

GG: Hey lady hows the head today.

My night sucked! My DH and myself had to take away my sons truck, we then put his cell phone on vacation, They got out of school early yesterday and he asked to go to lunch. Now we are a rural community 5500 people ad 30 miles away is Thermopolis home of the hot springs, well that is where he ended up. I wasn't so upset about that b ut his over all attitude sucks I mean he really makes you want to reach out and touch him if you get my drift. Sassy, smartass attitude. I cosigned a small loan for him you know everyone needs a start in life and he tried saying that I have no rights to the truck and his dad he will call the cops on him etc. We told him you are a minor and not listening and if that is what you want to do then do it but we are not playing your game anymore. Tough Love now son. So anyway ya hopefully today will go better. This morning he wasn't as bad but you know have some respect. Just a little. I am not a hard mom to get along with but this stuff is just enough he will either figure it out or he will end up loosing weight from walking every where.

sheila

hey all...well first i'll report that my pounding headache has resolved..and i also think i may have an idea what caused it. I have really bad TMJ (the joint in your jaw)...and so it occasionally acts up. I think the night i got the migrane i was grinding my teeth bad...since my jaw is still killing me. So I think i need to suck it up and go to the dentist and get the mouth gaurde made that helps (insurance doesn't pay for it..but i really think i need it now).
So feel better today, even had a very slow day at work. I was home by 2 pm. Very nice. So plans for today are to go work out and then later tonight dh and i are going with friends to a the semi-pro baseball team that's local. it's call thirsty thursday night...cheep beer. YUM!!!!
non and mum - sorry its bee rough for you
rr - hope you feel better
joan - congrats on the pedi and on the great school
lauren - glad your mom is doing better
mj- glad to see you back..sorry you aren't totally feeling energetic..and sorry about the lack of new hair color
hang in there sheila

GG: Be careful of the beer............I was more hung over drinking beer than drinking tequilla lol seriously

lol at sheila...don't worry..i promise i won't drink too much. Don't want to undo the good i did today. Did 55 min of cardio...35 elliptical and 20 walk/run and even did some strength training after. God it felt great. I'm going to hop in the shower and then have dinner. Even though they serve food there, don't feel like eating the greasy food they sell there...so going to try to be good at least and eat something here before going. Alright all...talk to you probably tomorrow