hi fedup and all : )
fedup, I can tell you what worked for me! a bit of backround first. I am and generally have been, my whole life, a night-time person. My habits had become such that I would virtually not eat anything all day long!!!!!!! sometimes not until 10 p.m! It wasn't intentional, I had just become this way due to some bad habits. It got to the point where I would not eat all day (many times) until dinner time! then what? dinner whenever i got hungry, then leftovers (which basically meant dinner again) and then againnnnnnnnnn! sometimes up until 1 in the morning! my weight started spiraling up faster than i can describe in words. up, up, up it went.
My metabolism was so out of whack, by not eating for such long periods and then suddenly eating everything in sight at night ( when incidentally I am most sedentary) bammm!!!! Anyways, thats history now, old news
what i did to stop it? My first an primary focus was to eat dinner by a certain time every night! for example, initially, I would not go past 7:30 p.m. Second, no secondsssssss! when I got hungry after dinner, (and I did) I would eat watermelon. Next, I focused on eating during the day. I was so accustomed to not eating, I actually had to remind myself, gosh its 1 o'oclock, 2 even, I have to eat!!!!! SO i started eating during the day. Something healthy and light, for I couldn't handle anything else quite frankly.
Soon, within a week or 2, I started feeling automatic hunger during the day and then some! I would snack, (and still do) on healthy snacks between lunch and dinner (often 1 1/2 to 2 hours before dinner too). carrot sticks, cucumber sticks, etc. I nevre let myself get hungry and nibbled throughout the day whenever i felt that hunger coming on. by the time dinner rolled around (and at this stage of the game earlier , anywhere between 6 or 7), I was not famished anymore! I would, and do eat a substantial portion of dinner. I eat to the point I am not stuffed, but comfortably full!
I soon found that my need for after dinner snacking, even on such healthy low cal things as watermelon and carrot sticks had subsided!!! Actually, I was awed at the difference! how much of a difference it made, my eating many mini meals or snacks throughout the day and then a good substantial dinner.........how I was so much less hungry at dinner time and not only ate less but didnt feel hungry after! The turn around has been amazing for me! do give it a whirl!

and remember to eat whenever hungry, even after dinner! just have in your mind a few allowed things.......whether it be watermelon, cantoloupe, carrot sticks with low fat dip, even low fat popcorn! (thought i watch my carb intake). with me, after a while, I didnt feel the need to eat after dinner at all!
I feel so much better now........no more indigestion or tummy troubles ! anyhow this is how i did it and what helped me so I hope i was helpful in some way. Once I had my eating shedule in place, , I progressed to more strict meals, etc. good luck and keep at it

the first few days are the hardest, but it gets easier after that.