Hello,
Brief Intro, I am almost 44 ! ( found the smiley button) and weighing in at 200 pounds, that is great if I was taller than 5 Feet! I have 2 boys 12 & 14, 1 husband, Mr. Wonderful, he puts up with all of my critters, house and barn full dogs to horse & exotics. love me roos, teach dog obedience, have home business (homeschool project that got out of hand)professional volunteer.
I believe that one is only as good as their word and I am not afraid to speak about the white elephant in the room.
My first problem are my dear friends, they will be burying me in a soon if I don’t loose wieght and get healthy..... as I am told by almost eveyone around me~ that I do not need to loose weght! A ND acutally bring me comfort food just because they want to help me( must be an Italian thing, bring food) ALHOUGH MY HUSBAND, who is the only honest person in my life, said, “ Honey you are just well marbled”
MY second and biggest problem is me.... I AM A MAJOR STRESS EATER, will eat the entire house down if I am in a state....and I cannot seem to stick with any diet for any reason.. time always wins out..run here and there and no time to eat right.. NOT THAT I AM A FAN OF EATING HEALTHY FOODS, for me it is a chore. I LOVE REGULAR PEPSI AND M & Ms! ( holy cow you got one for Ms)

So yesterday I started to journal my journey and I am hoping that this version of eccumenical (sp?)l guilt may help me be accoutnable to write something down everyday… even if it is a sentence....

Because I have tried a bizzillion diets and most of them start out with the clieche of “If you fail to plan, then you plan to fail” ( which I believe in most parts of my life)... THIS time my official plan is “ no plan”.

I plan to start slow, I plan tmake better food choices (no M&Ms ) ano get up on the treadmill for 1 mile before noon. drink at least 32oz ( probably more, no probelm) by 2, no carbs int he AM at all, and eat 1 bite/ morsel of food at a time until full… as needed.. until dinner with the family… OK so that is the game plan, my goal is to maintian this schedule for ONE WEEK! and re evaluate!

I still have no idea how to navagate this post, so I hope this is the place to start..... this is a huge site truly amazing

GOOD LUCK TO ALL OF YOU ON YOUR ENDEVOURS

I LOVE THE COW,

Hi and

This site has been a great source of inspiration and support for me in losing weight and I'm sure it will be for you also. I attend Weight Watchers meetings weekly which is great for accountability. 3fatchicks is a wonderful place to be and you will meet many wonderful people here.

Wishing You All The Best
Denise

Thanks Denise!
I noticed your from Missouri... moving out that way in a few years! LOVE IT!

I am totally amazed by this forum... really don't if I will ever be able to connect with people again, this site is huge.. so I figured if I started a thread I wouldbe able to follow up and be accountable... I had been on weightwatchers ( at the discovery of the points system) I spent a lost of time and money driving to weekly meeting....45 minutes each way.... they are just too far away to go to for 1/2 hour meeting...

YOU my friend are doing a terrific job on journey!
I can see by your little foal guys... don;t know how that works yet.. but will get it soon!

Thanks for checking!

Hi and welcome to 3FC. Did I catch that right, are you 5 feet tall, cause that's exactly what I am. Only I ballooned up to 287 lbs. A scary, scary number. Yuck. And I'm 43 so we've got a bit in common. Oh yeah and I was/am/was a stress eater as well. And a boredom eater, frustrated, happy, sad and anything else you wanna throw in there.

I'm also not following any one's plan. I do count calories eating mostly low fat protein, low carbs and lots and lots of veggies. And I kinda rewired my brain. And finally realized the value of food in my life. It's not there for boredom, stess, lonliness or entertainment. It's there to provide me with nutrients and energy.

And this website has been an absolute blessing. The ladies here, are fantastic - supportive, encourage, witty and smart. Looking forward to getting to know you better. Good luck to you!!!!

Stress eater -- I just have to reply to you, my sister loves cows and I saw you ended with a little one!! I am a BIG stress eater, I usually can't even stop myself and have a really hard time getting back on track. I'm not a WW, etc. person, too much detail makes me crazy !! I just go by my general ideas -- cookies -- bad, fruits, vegs good!

I've been going to a nutritionist, who is so nonjudgemental when I "goof", it's great. We just have to start over, not the next day but immediately. I barter with her all the time -- can't stand vegs, but if I can dip them in salad dressing, I promise to eat them. We can't stop cold turkey, but little changes will make a big difference.

Good luck!!

HELLO ROCKINROBIN!
WOW you definatley sound like my kind of gal...... I identify with just about everything that you wrote... kind of creepy if you ask me......

SHELBY 897 HI!-
Have you ever wondered what your nutrionist is eating? I kind of laugh when I have to "deal" with those types.... age, kids, and gravity kicks in... they will be online with us too!


I agree with both of you about the vegetable thing... if you have to eat them how can you with out a little dip.... they are just too dry!

WELL I think in order to keep information going here... maybe I will find my post from the daily journal ( I am trying to keep) and repot it hear to see if we can become bette aquatinted.. THANK YOU ALL FOR CHECKING IN!

I am new here and am looking for extra support.
I feel as if I am my own worst enemy right now. The thing is I have gone from large to small before and it took a lot of work! And a big part of me hasn't been able to do all that and everything else I have to do. But now I am ready to throw myself into it. (this little icon is me fighting with myself!)

I am eating better and working out more. yoga, pilates and starting next week: swimming. I am also planning on dance dance revolution. I also want to start doing something when I come home at nights, but hubby is sick so, I am doing it all right now and am hitting the hay around 9. I feel for single mothers!

I also want to be able to be honest with someone about everything such as the weight and what I am feeling, but I am not really a touchy feely person and I think this will help. If I bare my soul I can't hide anymore and lie to myself because others will know, right?

Well, I need this support and hope I can be a support to to others in this quest and sleigh the dragon that has taken over me!

Stress eater -- I agree so much about the nutritionist -- who knows, she's probably shoveling M&M's after I leave!! Just a much better metabolism for her!! My regular doctor drives me crazy, she is probably a good 50 lbs heavier than I am, but tells me every year "lose weight, it's not healthy, etc.". I have such a hard time not saying "I will when you do"!!!

Worldsbestmom5 -- Welcome in -- I love it here and have only been on for a few days. Great support -- I don't think anyone can understand what we go through who hasn't been there - my husband and I don't discuss it -- he can't understand how I can eat a whole box of cookies!!! He quit smoking a few years ago and thinks when your ready, you just "do it". So, I'd like to see him smoke just three cigarettes a day and not want more. We have to eat every day, which leads us into our tempations -- no cold turkey for the overweight!! I have also been thin/not so thin. Unfortunately, my poor spouse met me during the 5 "think years" I've had, but they didn't last long. I think it helps to know we can do it and how great we felt/looked then too. You sound like you are doing excellent already. I think I get my most benefit from exercise -- 5 days a week YMCA - I think it makes you eat less because you feel good. Rambling (my worst quality!!). Have a great day!!!

Rockinrobin -- You know, I'm 5 feet 9 inches tall and it has no advantage when you are overweight!! I wouldn't mind being 5 feet tall -- I wouldn't look so obviously uncoordinated at the gym!!! I could not follow any diet, I obsess too much over it. Just have to drop the junk food and eat better -- but I've come to love junk food!! Do you stick to just three meals, or do you still snack a bit? If I'm busy, I don't even think about eating, so I obviously wasn't eating because I was hungry. Definitely bord/emotional eater. It's amazing to actually feel my stomach hungry lately, kind of exciting because I know I must be losing weight!! Have a great day.

Welcome Aboard Worldsbestmom5!

I LOVE THOSE CUTE ICONS.. aren't ya glad you found them too!

YOU have lots going on~ I hope that your husband feels better soon... that is a huge hit....and you are still managing to try and address your personal stuggles and challenges.... you are a stong lady

I know that alot of us gals are finghtin with ourselves daily ... always telling ourselves that we can do his and this time.....

I usually miserabley fail... perhaps it is because and we faill.. maybe because as the woman or 'mom' we need to take care of everybody and nobody is left to take care of us... so we must do it alone......we need to see out our support system...we try the gym and meet certain personalities that conflict with us, the unspoken comepition and gloating, (CAN YOU TELL I COME FROM A SMALL TOWN) BOTTOM line... I need to talk too and keep focused... and I need my privacy and privacy~ at least from the gossipy town... you know what I mean I hope!

I am way behind on my water and treadmill thing...and my journal... OH I almost forgot I was going to post my journal here.. to keep it rolling..

I think YOU are definately an inspiration to me... my goals are still evolving....Keep in touch,

As for nutritionists and others;

If they were blessed with a great metabolism and down handfuls of crap daily then its still not great for them. They all have a cardiovascular system that can get clogged up. And their metabolism will catch up with them and so will their bad habits.
What I can't stand are the food ****s. They look down their noses at you and show no compassion. They have never had a problem and have a "it is your own fault that you are fat" attitude. Life hasn't really happened to them.

What I wonder is what eating a meal is like with them? I love the noisy pass around the platter gather together end of the day meal. and the shove food in my face, talk about what is going to happen today, everybody eats what they want breakfast followed by kiss hug and a prayer out the door moment.

I picture the food ****s chewing every bite 100 times and no talking because you'll disrupt the digestive process. And of course they are having grey cardboard.

Ok, maybe I am a little harsh but you listen to them and you want to choke them. but you don't because 1. well it is wrong 2. you feel inferior due to your weight and one day you'll show them (evil laughter) you'll be back and you'll be thin and hot and in control! I say lets all stick it to the food ****'s!

Luckily we have people who really care. Maybe they live across the world and you just met them and you will never have a chance to meet face to face. This is real though with real people and real lives who really care and need to be cared for. Ok, I said I am not really touchy feelly and this is feeling very touchy feelly to me.

Alright enough from me already. I am happy with me and I want to be happy with me always.. I am just not happy about the weight. I think we can be happy and you all sound like you are.

by the way anybody want to join me I am planning a raid on the food ****s. just have to find there headquarters. jk! I have a weird sense of humor... sorry!

WBM.. you really should have had a warning about your food **** message..

Know you know I am drinking gallons of water a day... you almost made me pee! BUT on the plus side (no pun) I could have started to take up swimming.

You guys are TOO funny!! I had someone complain to me once about my weight, I shot back with the idea that I don't want to look this way, like I eat bags of chips, etc. just to be fat. On the off side -- I saw a news article once about a woman (beautiful too!!) who was eating and bulking up, she wanted to weigh 300 lbs -- I could have choked her! I've struggled my whole life to not gain and she is pushing for it -- I hope everyone of her arteries are clogged now! My sister is thin but struggles to be there just like I struggle to lose it, so I can relate to her. The food ****s -- I had a friend like that, she always feed her kids "organic", no cookies, etc. which I think is great, but to excess, if they were still hungry after 1/2 of a veggie dog -- too bad, but she was always complaining how short/little her kids were! Happy to say I have two handsome, tall boys -- feed well on donuts and chips!! Actually, I'm trying to back them up too -- they eat pretty well, but as all of us do could do better. My poor dad, who has always taken such good care of himself had a quad bypass this summer (he did great!!), he keeps complaining that my poor mother, in horrible shape and overweight is so healthy by no doing of her own -- maybe this bulk pads us from disease??

Stress eater -- I'm horrible at breakfast -- everyone says you have to eat it, but I'm not hungry then and could last until lunch with nothing. I swear it harms me, if I eat breakfast, I have to eat again by 10:00 a.m. Can we just skip it??? I promise I'll drink 10 glasses of water instead!!

WBM5 -- I promise your are safe here, even if you get emotional, this is the place to do it -- we'll never tell

Oh no, the husband and kids are back from the store, I guess I should try to look like I was doing something! Have a great night.

What a horrible night! I fell asleep on the couch and when I woke up, I finished off two pieces of pizza we had for dinner and a whole bunch of girl scout cookies. I'm so horrible when I'm tired, I should have just crawled into bed! I know I have to just start over today, but it stinks!! I'm so upset with myself and it's so hard to start out positive when I screwed up so bad! Hope you all have a great day (and do better than I did )

I wasn't going to admit this I mean if I don't type it in you will never know, but I will. I was bad. I don't know why. I was tired I was hungery I was lasy. I was off my game. I am human.

Where I went wrong .... Walmart...l. I bought 2 packages of egg rolls. one was shrimp the other chicken. Dh cooked them up . 6/pkg 12 all together. that meant I got 2, but I would eat one. He brought me 2: one chicken the other shrimp. I didn't say no thanks or I'll only have 1. I didn't eat anyhting else. nor drink water. But I did go into the kitchen and eat the 6 year olds second one! then I plopped my butt infront of the tv with sick hubby and watched blather. then by 10 I was in bed.

I will say I didn't buy any of the lovely chocolate things that always gets me. So I am not so bad right?

Then today I didn't get up until after 8 instead of making my usual breakfast egg whites and oatmeal no fat no sugar. i had bran flakes with a small amount of brown sugar and I poured milk all over it.

Now I am dreaming of making chikcken with cream cheese for the family, right.
I keep telling myself I won't eat it but I know I will. So I haven't done it yet. I need to make something tasty and and good for me. I am going to be strong. I do great at work but on the weekends I lose it. Pray for me to make it. I want to lose the weight I really do.

why? I have always said to be healthy but whatever. that really should be it, but that reason doesn't work. I want to wear cute clothes. I want to look good. I hate looking round. I want to see muscles. I don't care about being thin. I just want to be able to stop shopping in the large ladies sizes.

Thaks for letting me vent. Have you seen the Red green Show? At the end they recite the man's pledge... I could do better .....if I have to ....I guess!