I dread Valentine's Day. I have spent 1 of 3 Valentine's Days while married together with my husband. I know he will want to do something very special but I'm just not feeling that into it lately. When we lived in California we were always out doing stuff together, and we spent a lot of time at parks being active, and now we live in Pennsylvania, rainy and cold. It's far better than California (sorry! I'm a southern girl) but it's hard to get out when it's raining and I just can't get motivated inside. Anyone else feel my pain?

What can I do to get motivated inside when the weather just doesn't permit a walk or bike ride?

Dance! Clean your house (it burns more calories than you think)! Get a video you love! I'm SOOOO not an outdoorsy type of girl, so I live for the inside workouts.....And please don't worry about Valentines day...you still have a few more weeks to feel better about it!

I'm married and i still don't like valentines day...no matter what its always a dissapointment in some area. I also feel your pain regarding weather, I grew up in so cal, and am used to warm weather 365 days a year. Where i live now it snows and gets down to the single digits at night. I'm just learning to bundle up and get outside anyway! This morning I went for a 5 mile walk in 20 degree weather (eeek!) just talk yourself into it and you'll feel better after. Maybe you just need the right gear? a great rain coat? Just stick with it and find something you like to do in the rain Good luck.

hmm..it seems like everyone here complaining about valentine's day is married!!
i personally have loved valentine's day for the past 3 years b/c i was with a boy who always planned something special...
now though, i'm back to hating valentine's day, and am praising the lord that it falls in the middle of the week so i at least avoid the temptation to drink my sorrows away
here's to ignoring valentine's day!!

We're going to make people think marriage kills Valentine's Day! haha. It's not that it's disappointing in the couple way, it's just so depressing that I can't dress up in something that makes me feel good, and makes him glad he has me. Size 11 when we met, size 17 now...it makes me feel so blah

I second ignoring Valentine's Day, Michelle!! It's a greeting card holiday! I'm sorry all of you married/couply folks I'm just being cynical and unhappily single...

I do not like Valentine's Day. I'm single now, but I don't let that get me down. When I was with my ex for 4 years, we used to get each other gag gifts on V-Day and we'd just make a really nice dinner at home. It was always nice. One year, he got me hunting socks b/c my feet are always cold! He also got me new shoelaces for my bowling shoes b/c we went a lot and my strings were so short and frayed I could barely get them tied. It was fun!

I am personally excited for Valentine's day, because my guy is romantic. But I wanted to wear some sexy lingerie or something for him, and that's definitely out now! Hope you get to feeling more excited by the time V's Day rolls around. Maybe you guys just need to shake things up a little.

Valentine's Day! Bah! No such thing. The holiday you all are refering to is Single Awareness Day!The day that we singletons are most reminded of our single status.

What you said, Lisa.

I have a bf of 3 years, and we only half-observe V-day. When I was growing up, my dad was (well, still is) a pilot, which meant he missed a lot of "special" days. Thanksgiving, Easter, birthdays, recitals, sometimes even Christmas. So I learned to be flexible about *when* things got celebrated, which has kind of translated into my current mentality of "It's just another day. If we want to celebrate being together, let's do it in our own time and our own way instead of feeling pressured by the flowers/candy/cards/jewelry/restaurant industries to do it RIGHTTHEN."

Oy. My partner works at a florist. We don't get to celebrate valentines day, ever (think about it - those roses don't arrange themselves, ladies!)

I consider it "get chores done while my lovely partner works until midnight making dozen rose arrangements for everyone but me" day.

I had no idea so many people disliked Valentine's Day. I can see where most think it's a greeting card holiday, but I think it's just a nice day to have. It gives people an excuse to get dressed up and share an evening together out. Even if you don't do anything on that particular day, most couple's get so busy they don't think about taking the time with each other until Valentine's Day when you always tend to make time. It's always nice to do something extra special for the day. I guess when you are apart so much like we have been, you value anything you get. The one Valentine's Day we spent together wasn't even a big thing. He took me to Sea World and we went out to lunch. On another day we got a little dressed up and went to dinner at an italian place we liked. We were in San Diego at the time.

I guess I just get down about the fact that I can't dress up the way I used to with something a little more form fitting, or simply a smaller size, and I can't do the nice lingerie thing anymore. It's hard to feel sexy in something when part of it disappears under rolls...

I am pretty neutral on Valentine's Day. Even when I was dating someone, I don't even remember doing something special for it! What I do remember, though, is that my Mom always used to cook a special "breakfast for dinner" meal for us (heart shaped eggs for dinner, heart shaped waffles, heart shaped toast..and yes, a heart shaped cake!). She would buy everyone little chocolates and it was a big family event in my house. She used to say that Valentine's Day was a celebration of love, and the most important type of love was family love! My friends and I would usually do something fun for Valentine's Day. I'm going to be single this year, but I hope to take the time to celebrate all the people I love. The trick is to do it without chocolate and without wine...

And TracyFAdams, I def. understand what you are talking about in terms of not feeling sexy in clothes. I tried on a dress I bought over the summer that I looked good in because I wanted to dress up to go out to dinner. It didn't fit. That was not fun. But hang in there--soon you will be fitting into smaller sizes. Is there some way you can think of yourself as being sexy without it being related to your weight? Your voice, your eyes, your fabulous sense of style, your intelligence, or the way you walk?

He says I'm beautiful and sexy, and I'll say I'm fat and he says I'm not, but he doesn't know I weigh 20 pounds more than him. I just want to be closer to what I was when we met. I was more energetic, and we did more stuff because I felt like going out and doing things.

Me, my sister and my mom used to do special stuff like that. And my grandparents would buy us a tiny box of candy, usually about 6 to 8 pieces in it, and we were all just happy to know we had such a loving family. I totally agree that a family's love is the most important, and some people forget that marriage is a family too. My husband is my main family now, so we try to do things to celebrate. Going out to dinner is a way that we can spend more time together without me being in the kitchen cooking and him having to stay out of my way (haha he doesn't come in my kitchen ) and flowers, cards and other things like that are just a little way to say I love you in a different way. Dresses...I don't even try to buy a dress. The dress I'm wearing in my profile picture, I made it. I made a similar style dress with some small differences because it was multiple styles in the pattern package that is black so I'd have a black dress. Even the ball gown I wore to the last Marine Corps ball, I made. I think it helps me some because I can take in and let out the areas needed, and there's no number to make me feel bad. I mist say, to have something based on your own body makes you feel 100 times better wearing it.

I know how you feel.. .you want the awesome sexy dress, so you feel like you are the hottie in the room and his eyes could only be on you! We will get there!