Don't despair! I come to this site for the reinforcement I get from the other 'voices' of people struggling with the same issues, even if I'm just reading and not posting. Like you, I have a long way to go. Coming here keeps me from feeling so alone in my struggle.
Valentine's Day is just a month away. Most of the folks on this thread (the Newbie's Valentine Challenge) have set ambitious weight loss goals, but you can set any kind of goal for the next month: checking the site every day, taking a ten-minute walk every morning, keeping a food diary, etc. A journey of a thousand steps (you know the rest!).
I can relate to the issue of nibbling at night
I'm trying to teach myself to knit, which isn't going too well, but it's keeping my hands occupied. Also, I discovered a funny thing: if I sit in a different place in the evening, I'm less likely to think of food. So instead of parking my butt in my usual Archie Bunker chair, directly in front of the tube at night, I sit off to the side and read the paper, talk on the phone, or whatever. It's a little thing, but it's helping. For me, compulsive eating at night is about stress or unhappiness, so I'm also trying to meditate most days, and remember to other things that make me feel good--like music, bubble baths, and good friends.
Others can explain better than I can how to navigate this wonderful website. It's really intimidating at first. You might spend some time just looking around at the support groups, where you'll find others who are also coping with health issues, trying to lose over 100 pounds, etc.
I did pretty well with my eating today, although somehow a piece of candy jumped down my throat when I wasn't looking
The weather's supposed to take a turn for the worse tomorrow, so I've just slipped on my walking shoes and will try to get a 45-minute walk in tonight.
Keep losing, ladies!
judy