Shari - you are beautiful and wonderful - and becoming the person that you "see" on the inside is SCARY!!!! I Know that completely! Right now I'm at the smallest that I've ever been since I was in High school - and although i can "see" myself as an adorable size 6 - it scares me. What happens if I look foreign to myself... what happens if DBF doesn't find me attractive (he likes bigger girls) - what if I lose all the weight and then add it all back ON!?!!??

It often seems that we are SO afraid of failing - that we don't really work at reaching our goals. I mean - I already have a great job that I love, an AMAZING daughter - an INCREDIBLE boyfriend, that more then likely I'll be marrying in the next few years... why do i have to fight to look what society feels is beautiful? It's a constant struggle. My reasoning is this -

1. I don't want to die from a disease that was complicated by my obesity
2. I don't want my daughter to grow up with "the fat mom"
3. I want to be able to walk around with confidence - instead of the fake smile that I constantly have on now.
4. I WANT TO DO THIS FOR ME!!!

Think about how good it feels to have the scale go down - or to fit into the next size down... and really - really think about why YOU are doing this? Why is it important to fight the battle for yourself? Not for others - not for society - not to get the "perfect partner" - not for anything other then your health and happiness.

Find your motivation - that's the key.
and for us all!

Piggin ~ You're right, we have each other and we CAN do this!

Eny ~ You are so amazing! Thanks for the pep talk!

thanks Shari - I need that today. It's been a down day.

I'm weighing in tomorrow - and I won't be surprised if there's a gain. I just feel up this week. but I'm going away all weekend - so it's either tomorrow or Monday. ugh... just a rough day.

Eny ~ today is a new day!

This week I have eaten like a pig. This weekend I have a whole weekend off, no working, and I am going to spend the weekend getting re-focused and treating my body with respect. Its all about state of mind with me, so Im going to spring clean my house, go to the library, go swimming take some nice long walks and eat some nutritional food. There are also going to be lots of deep bubble baths with a good book thrown in for good measure!! Hope everyone has a good weekend, and see you all in the March thread!!

piggin! I completely am with you! While I haven't been horrible eating wise - I'm still not exercising like I should be. I set my weekly goals at 120 mins of cardio/aerobics and 60 mins of strength/resistence training.... I did mangage to do 60 mins of cardio... DUMB! I need to kick my metabolism into gear!

So this weekend - starting today (since I tool it off) I am doing a spring cleaning - going out of town w/ DBF - and refocusing on ME! We're going to a casino - which is a low stress thing for me - and they actually have pretty decent food choices there. I'm taking a couple of books and the blanket that I'm making and just chilling for the weekend. We also got a jacuzzi room - so that'll be nice too!

Alright - I did weigh in this morning and I'm down a bit - but I'm going to reweigh tomorrow - usually I weigh in on Sunday - but I'll be gone... and I thought we were going to leave tonight, but DBF got called into work - so we're going tomorrow.

Enjoy yourselves Piggin and Eny!

March thread:
http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showthread.php?t=135891

Hello everyone,

Great motivational words Enygirl!

I didn’t reach my goal. I ended the month pretty much as I started which is bobbing around between 157lbs and 160lbs. I am just happy I didn’t put on weight.

See you all in the March thread!