^Good advice. I am trying to keep her from being any kind of part in my weight loss, not letting her see me weigh myself or even knowing how much I weigh, etc. I'm hoping that she'll assume I gave up and just leave me alone! But I will certainly keep this in mind if it happens again (which, realistically, I'm sure it will).

I am really hoping that that's the case! It would be so great for someone to notice, heh.

I'm so sorry and sad about your mom's nasty treatment (to the rest who have experienced similar, also). I can't imagine thinking my daughter is anything less than the most beautiful, wonderful girl in the world. (Let alone saying it!)

Perhaps if you can't get the support you seek from your mom, it would be worth trying to cultivate a closer relationship with your dad. Some dads make awesome friends.

Not to take up for your mother, she may be just as you describe. However, sometimes parents don't always know when teasing has gone too far or how to respond when their children change.

She may be acting in this way because eating with you was her time to bond with you and now that you all are not eating in the same way, she may feel left out of your life. She may sincerely want you to succeed. However, when she sees you slipping, she may also secretly hope you gain the weight back and forget this dieting thing so she can get her old daughter back, the one who likes to go for ice cream after dinner.

You are not wrong to feel the way you do. However, sometimes when you know why someone is acting the way they are you feel differently. Maybe try to include her in the other areas of your life. Ask her to go bowling or on a hike. Maybe if she see she has not lost her daughter to dieting she will be more supportive.

Either way good luck.

*big hugs* That's terrible. My mom is such a supportive person, she's my friend, I can't even imagine how betrayed I would feel if she made comments like that. Turn it into motivation though and keep moving forward!

WOW..My mom was just as nasty.
Don't expect her to change at all.
My mom was nasty and rude until she died.

I learned at a very young age...10...to use my friends parents as role models, and not pay any attention to my own.
I could not count on either one of them for support.
So just get on with your life and keep your mom out of yours as much as possible. She will just leave you with bad memories. You want to limit those as much as possible.

My mothers rude comments never ended. She never in her life ever gave me a compliment. Never said she liked my hair, dress, shoes, or praised my accomplishments in school or in the workforce. I was successful and also a model until I gained weight with my kids birth.
She never commented positively about anything I did. Everything was a putdown.
She made negative statements about all her friends and relatives behind their backs. She never carried on a nice conversation with me.

I always wondered how I would react when she died. I did not shed a tear. It was a relief she was gone.
I cry during movies, reading sad stories, losing pets, funerals, weddings, and even reading Hallmark cards.

But when my parents died...nothing.
They created the situation. It took them years. They had a lot of time to think about how they were acting. They chose their poor behavior, and it didn't work out well for them.

I was in the hospital undergoing an emergency operation to save my life.
It took a couple of hours to fly in the blood I needed. They got tired of waiting, so they left to go shopping and never inquired until the next day about me.
The doctor was shocked. He never experienced something like that.
And they didn't drink or do drugs.

So it is best to ignore your mom for your own sanity. And make a decision to never be like her... and to treat your kids with respect and kindness.

You will lose weight and so will I. Love yourself because you are a precious and unique person.

It isn't your imagination. She IS way out of line. Try to put up a wall when you are around her... and try to make that as infrequent as possible. Imagine her comments hitting the wall and falling dead on the floor. Imagine that you hear nothing. Go outside and take a walk... anything to avoid her. TRY to respond to her with a pleasant tone of voice and LEAVE THE ROOM as quickly as you can.

I'm sorry you have to go through this.

Okay, this is a WAY old post. Confused the heck out of me!!

Yeah but apparently she lost 110 lbs!!!!

That's a good point!! It is really awesome to see someone who did not let someone else slow her down or stop her!

What an awesome thread!!! WTG OP!!! I am so glad you didnt let mom stop you!!

Wow - This thread is 3 years old!! I think I'll close it up to prevent more confusion. But she did go on to lose 110 lbs!!!!