Hi-

Jana- You mean the lady that had surgery and yet still gained weight??lol

I just catch parts here and there. Your hair do/highlights sound nice

I will call my sister. She doesn't live but 20 minutes away- she doesn't use it I am sure.

Gabrielle is keeping me company- otherwise I just don't feel up to par. I feel down and gloomy.I wasn't going to say that - try to be positive and all - but just feel close to tears--pms?? I wish the sun would come out!!!

Ok - training took all night - now I get to go get the Gabster- bring her home and snuggle up with her.

TTFN

Hello hello--

It's almost 9:30 here and I thought I would pop in before I head to bed.

Jana--I'm hoping to be a changed woman too!! My thought process now is "I don't want to get into worse shape than I already am" Improve myself before it's too late. And I'm hoping my weigh in Saturday will be ok. As long as there is no GAIN, I will be happy.

Susan--Hope the PMS goes away for ya...I just got rid of mine and it was no fun. Never is though is it?

So far my routine I've set up for me is working out good. I came home did the exercises, did the homework and then flat out relaxed. I'm still tired. I should have gone to bed earlier but...I want to spend time with James. (will be going here shortly though)

Question for you all:
On Tues. & Thurs. at school, I have a hour and half break in between classes, so after catching up on some homework I would sit and observe people....(yeah, I'm one of those freaks who watch people) anyway...last week I was in the cafeteria and I sat with a friend...and then a friend of hers sat down.....ok...here is what went on. The two ladies started talking about working out and eating healthy...(good topic) and the one woman who I didn't know was just going on and on and on about the benefits of exercise and healthy foods and such...yet she sat there with two...TWO I say...plates full of hashbrowns, bacon, and biscuits and gravy and heck I don't know what else and ate it all.( I had thought someone was joining her)

Now...I usually don't judge, but since she was just going on and on about weight loss, I was wondering what to even say!! (btw, she is not thin,,, she is overweight) So I just sat and pretty much said NOTHING. And they kept looking at me to say something.

So what's the question? Well, what should I have said? I felt so uncomfortable with the whole conversation while she sat and ate. I didn't want to sound judgmental to her and comment on what she had on her plate, especially since I didn't even know who she was, everything was just awkward for me. I guess I was pretty much thrown off with the whole thing.
I mean, everyone has the right to eat what they want ,when they want, and where they want and not have someone pick on you and judge you, it's none of our business. (IMO) But if you want to sit and talk about weighloss, exercise, and healthy eating while your pigging out.... Should you be prepared for what the person may say?

I'm very vocal on some things, and if I would have spoken I may have said something and it may have hurt her feelings (without meaning to)....and I wouldn't want that. So do you think it was right for me to just sit and say nothing at all? I feel so rude.

I must be tired because this happen last week sometime and I was just sitting here thinking about how rude I must have looked and it made me feel bad, and the girl probably has forgotten that I even exist!!

Ok I think I'll head off to bed. You're all probably thinking I'm nuts for even bringing this up.....I just wanted an opinion since I do sit with the woman every time I run into her in the cafeteria, and if her friend sat down I would want to know what I should say. (IF the same topic came up)

Alrighty ladies.......forgive me for rambling on.

Take Care
Marti

Morning,

Cristi - what'd the dr's office say about your MRI?

Susan - I think you are down in the dumps because of your visit with Alex and it may take a week or more to get over it. Maybe in your heart you were hoping for more of a connection to him, and the fact that he is still missing his ex bothers you a little. (it would bother me, too) Anyway, I hope you start feeling better today.

Marti - Wow, it would be hard to keep quiet in a situation like that, but you did the right thing, imho. If she really is knowledgeable about nutrition, she already is aware of her bad food choices. This way you didn't make an enemy of her, and I don't think you were rude at all. (I don't think you could EVER be rude, Marti!) And although it is very very doubtful, she may have saved all of her WW points for what she ate even though it wasn't heathy. But that sounds like a weeks worth of points, lol!! Since you will be seeing her again, if the situation comes up again, I would just look at the food then look at her with a questioning look on my face and let her take it for what she wants. That way you didn't accuse her of anything and she can respond or not. You might even ask innocently "wow, what program lets you eat that kind of food???"

Today my goal is to get all of my yard sale stuff into the living room so I can price it. I don't have a lot, but the proceeds will go toward our Disney trip, so every penny helps. The sale is Saturday over at my son's house in town.

I also have to either do the laundry or buy all new stuff.

I WILL drink all my water today, I will drink all my water today, I will drink all my water today, I will......

Jana

okies been reading the bio´s which has pulled me here to this thread...... ~waves and grinz~ Hi Ladies!! i promise to post a Formal bio soon. please keep in mind my concept of Time isnt all that great ~laughing~ so that could mean either right after i post this or tomorrow morning....... Time is a matter of perception and i have a hard time percieving it ~blush~

but reading about Susan and Alex i just hadda ~grinz n winks towards susan~ prolly because my DH-2-B is named Alex, and i met him over the internet almost 4 years ago. i am from Michigan and he from Austria. after a year he flew over to meet me. and we been bebopping back and forth up until last Thanksgiving when i made the move over. original plan was for him to move to me....... went and taught him all the words to " My Baby is American Made" and everything!! ~laughing~ best laid plans and all...... Hopefully in a few years we will move home again. oooooooo lookie there´s a bit of bio now ~smiling brightly~ this could be written sooner then i think.

anyway just wanted to leave a thought to ponder Susan and maybe a poem to pass when/ if the time is ever right. look forward to getting to know you all! and huge HIYA LUCKY!!! Wo bleibst Denn???? ( Where are Youuuuuuuu????)) <~~ sorry bout that but i have to get in some of german lessons my Alex and i are getting married in May and June. and it might be a pretty good idea ifn the guest could understand my vows eh ~laughing~


ponderable:

Forgetting

Forgetting someone you love
is like remembering someone
you never knew.

poem:

Lifetime lesson


After awhile you learn the subtle difference
between holding a hand and chaining a soul
And you learn that love doesnt mean
leaning and company,
and it doesnt mean security.

And you begin to learn that kisses arent contracts
and presents arent promises,
And you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes open
WIth the grace of an adult, not the grief of a child,
And you learn to build all your roads on today
Because you never know what will happen tommorrow.

And after awhile you learn that
even sunshine burns if you get to much.
And you learn to plant your own garden
and decorate your own soul,
Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure,
That you really are strong,
And you really do have worth.

-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------

sincerely,
sassy in more ways then 1.........shhhhhhhhhh ~wink~

Hi and WELCOME Sassy! Your post kind of threw me off guard, not sure why, but welcome and we look forward to getting to know you. Love the poem.

Jana~still no word from the doc, actually the nurse. We seem to be playing phone tag and this is getting very irritating. I called Monday evening and she said she would call me right back. Thinking beccause she said right back she would call that day, so I waited. She calls when I am out, I return her call only to get the voicemail. I just realized that the appointment to the ortho doc is not until June-I really don't want to go through the pain that much longer before something is done. You should take some pictures of your flowers-they sound gorgeous. The ones we have are Carefree Sunshine Roses-so pretty-I love the yellow. But they had some beautiful pink ones, not the carefree ones. I think I will get some of those for the backyard. Oh, and I say skip the laundry and go buy new stuff!

Marti~I too don't think you were rude at all by not saying anything. What do you say to someone you don't really know anyway who is talking all that and then eating enough food for 2 and fattening food at that? Of course me being me would have probably said "What kind of program/diet are you following?" Just to see what she would say because it sounds to me like she is BS'ing. Unless she takes a free day and eats what she wants all day but that would kind of be defeating the purpose.

Susan~yeah, it was the african american family I was talking about-all that fried food. Fried chicken, fried catfish, mac & cheese, BBQ ribs etc. A LOT of food for a cook-out! I hope you are feeling better today. You sound really down and I am wondering too if it is because of the Alex thing? Dating is hard! I have to totally agree with what Jana said, and it would bother me too, about the ex. But if it was his first love I think that is always harder. It doesn't mean though that he can never love again. Anyway, I do hope you get to feeling better.

And Jana I agree about the lady who had the surgery and is still eating terribly. I don't think she is serious about it either. But I had to giggle when Dr. Phil took her picture and put that phrase at the bottom, was it "If you see this lady, don't serve her or Don't serve this lady?" Can't remember the exact words but it made me giggle. I told Vince that's what he should do for me, then thought no, they may think it is because I am a criminal or something.

Hi Kathy, Rita, Katie, Kayecee, Shanna, Angie, Carree & Kat. Hope I didn't forget anyone.

Well, we finally got the trees, shrubs and such planted. Yippee! Not finished yet though. In between the roses I am going to put a ground cover and then we need to add the brick trim and bark. Oh and of course the grass. The guy was supposed to come over yesterday at 4, never showed, no call, no message. I told Vince I was kind of leary about the guy now because when we tried calling Monday, his phone had been disconnected. We got through to him on his cell phone. I would hate to pay him and then never see him. I think we should go with the other guy, he had a brand new extended cab truck and I told Vince he must be doing good because he has to pay for that thing. He is $100 more than the other guy. Now what??? Not much planned for today except cleaning the house and laundry. Didn't make my weekly trip to wally world. Thought since I have to be up early tomorrow for my mammogram I would go after that and I need to make a list. The last few times I have gone I didn't have a list and that is not good. Other than that not much planned for the day. You know I say not much, but housework is a lot.

Hope you all have a nice day today!

Good????

Afternoon.......lol

I had to look at the clock-

Hi Sassy!!! Loved the poem- when I took a class at the college a few years ago they gave us that poem at the end of the term-
Curious if you know who wrote it?? Anyway. will print it off and post it because it is very powerful and so true.

I feel better!! Thanks- I think it was a let down after meeting Alex- just so much focus and he seemed so nice. I don't think we are a match - I am not sure I ever felt that. Though he is sweet and a gentleman- certainly nothing wrong with him in anyway that I know- lol-
ummm.......communicating really poorly these last few days. Maybe because I am sorting out what I want......I think just because a person is nice and decent doesn't make them a *keeper* for you- just means they are nice and decent.
I think what I am looking for is someone that will accept me right where I am at- someone that appreciates how special I am as a person- someone that will be a best friend.....where I don't have to put on a face and hold back what my personality is.....cause I am really senstive and tender hearted- some people (men) don't like that....lol

Marti- Not sure about the lady at school. Kind of a firm believer that to change that answer has to come from within ypurself- also ....she knows what she needs to do- some will get sreious when they are tired of being tired-

Hi to Jana and Crist!!

Better go.......

TTFN

Hello girls--

Well I agree with you all about the woman at school. It is her choice for what she ate and the topic of conversation and I really shouldn't have judged all that in the first meeting. (I had said that I don't want to judge, but apparently I did) Me keeping quiet was probably the best thing to do.

I got a call today from my sister who lives in Florida. I haven't seen her or her girls in years and I miss them so much. Her husband works on the road construction and they move a lot. (almost as much as Military!) It was a great conversation. (we spoke for over an hour!!)

Then I decided to try and give my son's mom a call (I know that sounds weird to people who don't know what I'm talking about.....had him in highschool and gave him up for adoption) and she wasn't home. But I did talk to her husband for a few minutes......they just recently got married! How neat is that? (ok...maybe it wasn't as recent as mine) the fact that both mom's recently got married to wonderful men is amazing to me. (only because we also share the same birthday!) Anyway...I'm getting OT here, I called because my grandma asked if there would be a way to get a photo of him that she could see before she passes away. And I thought I should call and see if I could get them to come down and visit her. I hope I hear from her later on today...her husband said he'd have her call me back.

Oh my I almost forgot.... Welcome Sweetnsassy!!! I hope you enjoy our thread and are able to visit often. Don't worry about the time, we are all in different time zones, although I'm sure yours is very different from ours.

I really need to get off of here and finish my homework.....just wanted to pop in and say hello.

Talk to you girls later,

Marti

(I will do individuals later tonight)

Hiya ladies,

Sassy - Hi, and a big ol welcome to the Jaded Ladies!! German is a hard language to learn, I think. I lived in Kaiserslautern Germany for a while back in the 70's and only learned enough of it to get by, lol. Tell us about about your wedding plans for next month, if you don't mind sharing.

Cristi - I think I would go with the other guy, too, even if it will be a $100 more. If he has a working phone, he's more reliable, lol. I absolutely cannot shop for the week w/o a list. I make menus first, then the list, and have done it that way for ever so long! It helps me save $$ at the store, plus, then I know just what to write down in my food journal, lol. I do keep some frozen casseroles and other stuff on hand just in case I have to go to Plan B for one reason or another.

Susan - how's the training going? Maybe your sister knows a nice guy for you? My sister Katie introduced me to Neal. He played ball on her DHs ball team, and she knew is a nice guy. That's why when we had a child together, we named her Katie - after my sister.

Marti - awww, I hope you get the picture of your son for your grandma. She sounds like a real sweet person, must be where you get it.

Hi to the others...

Talking about judging people - I think it is part of human nature to judge people all the time. Good or bad, you know? Like, if you are standing in line behind a woman at Walmart who has, oh, let's see....pretty hair, a kid who's out of control, and a basket with 12 packs of hot dogs and buns you might think "wonder who does her hair... sheesh, I think that child needs a nap .....I bet she's having a weiner roast or else the hot dogs are on sale". Anytime we see anybody, we form opinions about them, how they look, and what they are doing. Am I getting too crazy here?? LOL

I got a bunch of stuff ready for the yard sale. Well, mostly videos, books and CDs. Tomorrow I'll go through the shed and see what else I need to get rid of. It's a lot of work to get ready for a sale!

Companys here..
Jana

Here is a link to photos of my flowers. The front porch flowers don't look like much yet, because they haven't grown, but I wanted you to see my angel statue.

http://f2.pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/janeprivate/my_photos

Evening-

I WILL get to work but wanted to catch up- goodness knows I am behind-lol

BEAUTIFUL angel statue - Jana.I love your porch and the swing.Looks so neat as a pin- so will taken care of-

Cristi- I agree with Jana- go with the guy with the connected phone!! lol- Even though it is more 0r perhapes get a 3rd opinion? Hope you are able to talk with the nurse soon- all that phone tagging would be frustrating- especially when it has to do with a medical issue.
Funny about asking the lady at Marti's college what diet she was following...lol.Some people just want to talk about losing weight- think it makes them feel better- less guilty perhapes?

Anyway- Marti. Perhapes if you see her alone sometime you can say that you have some weight you would like to lose and share what you are doing?? Or invite her here??

Jana- my sister?? lol
Ok- I have 3. One is 42 and never has dated,doesn't drive, very picky in men.Very snobby- the one with the computer!!! I don't think she knows any men-lol
Second one is married with 3 kids- marriage on the rocks- suffers with that Fibo??? can't spell- disabled anyway- she doesn't get out- wouldn't know any men-
Third is 22 and in college- a beauty...working towards law school.She is waaaay down south and busy-

My idea!!! .......we have a Breakfast Club at church- it is for single adults,most are in their 30-40-50's.....it is like a Sunday school and they have outside weekend activities besides meeting on Sunday mornings.I mean it would give me a chance to meet other singles in the church,perhapes other single mom's......and of course dad's.....but just wanting a pal to hang out with.

Also- when I start the extra hours at work I am going to be around all the maintenance men,,,,,lol.....oh, and the painters...lol....so, yahoooo.Things are looking up. Just had been 3 years since I had gone out- the last time was Gabys dad-and really haven't dated much at all- but I LOVED just driving the freeway and listening to music- was a highlight.
The other was when I picked up the Gabster from Grandma's and she came running half dressed saying "mommy!!!!" she was so excited to see me-

Cut Rebecca's bangs this morning - Rachel is still at outdoor school, miss her something terrible.Who would have thought?? lol She is a sweety, really need to get her picture posted.

Enjoyed my YARDI training last night- it is a software to do workorders- learned a lot. My boss is out until May due to an illness- so hope to start full time next week perhapes- get trained with the secretery who is leaving-

OK- best get. I had a can of lite peaches tonight for snack was really good-
breast of chicken with some pasta was dinner-also have been eating more almonds- heard they were good for you?? Anyway- think 20 are a serving.

Better go!!!

TTFN

Evening ladies--

My how beautiful it looks outside right now!! The sun is shining....after is raining hard ALL day! Hope the sun decides to shine tomorrow.

Speaking of rain, on my way home from school today it was pouring pretty good and I was driving at a respectable speed when all of a sudden the window wiper on the driver side decides to pop off!! OMG!! My heart about leapt out of my chest!! I drove until I got to a rest stop (thank god it wasn't far) and I had to get out and fix the darn thing. The wiper just pop out and kind of hung on under the arm.....sticking straight up and down. I could not see a thing!! And there were so many semi's out that the splash from the roads weren't helping. But I'm thankful that the rest area was near. If not I suppose I could have pulled off the side of the freeway, but I hate that.....traffic makes me nervous when it's raining hard....people just don't know how to slow down.

Frantic isn't it?

Jana....I love your house!! That front porch looks so cute! Love the swing. And the flowers are very pretty. I need to plant some next year in my yard. I really need to get rid of the tree thats in the front yard. It died last summer before we moved in and it's still all brown. (it's some kind of pine tree....shaped like a christmas tree) Next year will be the year my yard gets attention.

Susan....So you think that Alex isn't the one huh? That's too bad. Has he even e-mailed you since your meeting? He must have been right "the nice guy doesn't get the girl" You'll both find someone. And when you find that perfect love in your life, you just KNOW. With my first husband, I was in love with the idea of getting married. In fact, the day we got married I KNEW I shouldn't be doing it. But being young and stupid..........anyway, when I met James, we were good friends before we got together and something special just started developing. I didn't want it to happen, but it did and boy am I ever glad I did.

Probably didn't want to know all that did you?

Cristi....I can't believe you didn't hear the news yet. Phone tag is awful. Not that I ever experienced it for medical reasons, but for others....and I'm sure the wait is even worse when you want to know information on your health! As for making a list when you go shopping....James & I HAVE to make one or else we go in for one thing...and leave with fifty more!! Can get pretty costly doing that. Costco is the worst. So much stuff!!!

Well heck...James is calling me so I better get going. Hi to all the other girls.

Take Care
Marti

Oh Jana, those are such puuuuuurrrdy flowers. I love the angel and bird bath, oh and the flowers too of course! I had to laugh though at your angel. Okay, did you get it a t Wal-mart? Well, if not Wal-mart has the same angel and I almost bought it twice! Carrie (dd) said Oh mommy you don't need it. I know I don't need it, just want it-I have the perfect spot for it! and again, I am agreeing with you because I do think it is natural for others to judge.

And thank you ladies for your opinion on the grass guy. I too thought we should go with the second guy, or maybe get another estimate or two. But I thought I would let Vince give the guy the benefit of the doubt. I have already given up on him and am ready to go elsewhere. I am afraid to give the guy any money for fear of him not coming back.

Susan~you know when it is time for you to find the right person you will. I tried for a while and it seemed the more I tried the worse it got and it made me feel horrible. So I let it go for a while and tried a different approach but with the attitude if it happens it happens, and it did. Believe me I took it very sloooow.

Marti~I do hope you get a picture of your son for your grandma.

Okay, don't mean to cut this short. Thought I would get this posted before the storm starts. It is ugly outside. Oh, I finally got a hold of the nurse. She said all they saw was a touch of arthritis-great! They want to follow up with therapy and medicine, not sure what kind of meds as I tried Vioox (sp?) and it did nothing for me, can't take ibuprofen for long as it upsets my stomach so what else is there?? I will find out tomorrow. Just glad to finally know something, not happy to hear it is arthritis-I am too young! Okay, take care ladies-see ya tomorrow.

Hey-

Marti- glad you are safe!! It has been super nice up here.I think in the 70's before this weekend-

You are sweet Cristi- thanks.

Just popping in for a break.

Anyway- working on filing-- better go

TTFN

hello all
Just back from rehearsals...hilarious play. A play within a play.

Cristi,,,a bit of bursitis too perhaps...or is that the same as arthritis? cause I know bursitis can cause alot of pain,,,swelling and all.

Jana, the flowers look so pretty...can't wait to start planting.

Susan you know whats right and if Alex isn't right,,,move on. Keep him as a friend.

Marti,,,OMG I would of freaked. I once ran out of washer fluid and it was dirty roads and rain...not a good thing.

Welcome Sassy....

Have I missed anyone?

Monte and I went and checked the show home for the house we want...came away disappointed....lol I shouldn't laugh but I can't beleive we made plans and signed a contract all by looking at a paper showing us the house. It was so new it didn't even have a showhome for us to judge by. So now Im praying we don't sell this house...lol With my luck it will sell for sure now...lol
I went shopping today,,,bought 2 capris and a pair of sweats. And a pretty summery dress. The of course had to buy shoes to match...lol
Angelika made me laugh today,,,I had been hounding her to go walking with me...today she goes,,,ok Becky will walk with you one night and me the next. (geesh don't make me sound like a dog or anything...lol) Im just glad shes going to go with me...I could go,,,wear my walkman or something to keep me moving fast but I worry about people jumping me or something from behind...not that were I would go is not out in the open.
Well need to get to bed...
night...I started weaning myself into BFL drank most of my water and had a protein shake for lunch.
angie

Good morning ladies,

Susan - joining a church group for singles is a really good idea! Seems you won't be able to count on any of your sister for an introduction to anyone, lol. Have you ever had peaches on a salad? I take salad greens, cucumber, chicken breast, a little cheese, and any fruit, even orange chunks, and top it with lite ranch dressing.... mmmmmm.... very good! You get your veggies, dairy, protein and fruit that way.

Marti - glad you were able to pull off the road safely. Last spring, we had a teacher/mother of 2 (also the football coach's wife) stop to help someone with car trouble, and when she came around the van, a semi hit and killed her. One of her kids was in the car, but he was playing a Gameboy and didn't see her actually get hit. It was awful! She was only 30 and everybody in town knew and loved her. Anyway, glad you are safe!

Cristi - yes, I did get the statue at Walmart, and I didn't need it either, but isn't it so cool?? I love the way she has her legs crossed, and the baby angel on her lap is just too sweet. And it was only about $25.00! I've got arthritis in my wrists too, and carrying grocery bags really aggrivates it.
When it hurts really bad, I take generic Aleve and that helps a lot. But I'm not one for taking much meds at all.

Angie - what does the new dress look like? Glad you have someone to "walk" you, lol. Just so they don't put you on a leash, lol. Your friends sound fun!

Well ladies, I've got two things to crow about:

• I drank all the water yesterday, and
• I am now wearing the jeans I bought that were way too tight!!!!

I put the jeans on and danced around the kitchen to show Neal last night. He says I have a sexy a$$, lol. Is he a keeper, or what!?! I feel so good about what I've lost so far, and it reinforces my determination.

Better go, bbl,
Jana