Ok, I'm here and have a few minutes to really read and post. First off I want to say thank you. All of you have become real friends to me. This is the first thing I check in the morning, and the last thing I read before bed. I just want you all to know how much it means to me that you're here, supportive, caring, and it feels for all the world like we could all just meet at a little coffee shop someplace and have a blast chattering away. I hate to sound really mushy, but there are times when ya'll bring tears to my eyes because of how much you mean to me. So.. *snuffle*
Happy - My God, woman.. how could I possibly consider what you said "butting in?" I put my troubles out there for all the world to see, I can't expect anyone to keep their mouth shut about it!

Here's the scoop on my plans to move. They can't possibly happen immediately. I'm looking at 2 years, maybe more. I stand to come into a fair piece of money as soon as my SIL sells her house, because she's buying out my third of my father's house. That will go for catching me up completely on my credit, putting a down payment on a new (or new used) truck, getting my kids into an online educational program, taking us all to disney world (the dream vacation we've never had), getting my TUMMY TUCK (so yes, I really DO NEED to lose this weight), and putting the rest away till such a time as I am ready to look at land. I expect the house will sell at some point this year, the housing market is very seller friendly up in AK right now. OTOH, I'm not holding my breath, it will happen when it happens.

I think Richard is now regretting the day I stumbled into Rosa at PetCo. Because if I had not met her, there is little to no chance I would have gotten involved in horses - I'd given up completely on that. It didn't even enter my thought process any more. We'd still be plodding along doing what we always did, and I'd have had no big, warm, solid rock of a critter to lean on and cry into when I was trying to deal with my Dad's accident. I would still have that nagging feeling that something was missing, but I wouldn't know what. That feeling is gone now, and I have dreams again. I feel more in touch, more connected to me and reality, less depressed than I really ever have in my adult life. I know what I want to do now. Whether I actually get it all done or not -

That remains to be seen, but I have goals. Very cool feeling. And I know this is hard for Richard, and in some ways, I've changed the whole game plan on him. But - he's done the same to me, so... I won't feel too guilty. I do realize it's no one's fault, and if he chooses not to live with me once I buy my house, well .. I can't force him to be with me. I want him to, but can't force. I can't give up the most compelling and incredible motivation to DO something I think I've ever had in my life, however. So .. we shall see what the future holds, as it unfolds, one day at a time. And you're right. It's time for me to bite the bullet and really sit down with Richard and talk about a lot of things. Not in an accusatory way, just try to get both our cards on the table so we can move forward. We've made it through a lot of **** ('scuse) in the 8 plus years I've been down here with him, I think we can make it through this. One way or the other. Ok wow, that was really stupidly long.
Hippy - Feel free to step! I dumped that here because I needed perspective, and I was losing mine. I don't think PMS is helping.

Night time snacking. That used to be a real issue for me. I started out by keeping a huge tub of cut up fresh veggies - broccoli, carrots, cauliflower, etc. (I see you're already cleaning veggies, so there you go!) Then if I wanted a snack, I HAD to eat that. That was the rule. After a while I kind of got veggied out, and the need to snack seemed pretty much to dwindle. It still happens once in a while, in which case I'll drink two or three glasses of water and drowned it out.

And you know what? It's not petty crap. Things can get hard, and if you need someone to listen, that's what we're here for. I sure as heck dumped my stuff here, and I'm darn glad I had here to come to. I was feeling really lost and very alone. Perspective, you know? If we can help, even if it's just by reading it and giving you a virtual hug, you know we will. *hug*
Erin - Ouch... I truly hate big arguements. I hate the negativity, the exhaustion, the pain. Is there any chance you two can sit down and work things out without the blow up? Just like Happy and Hippy told me to do?

In any case, you know you can come here to dump, just like I did. That stamping thing sounds kind of cool! And yes... having something to do and concentrate on can really reduce the "need to feed," if you will.
Lucky -

I was awake this morning because my BF came in to tell me that Artemis is psychotic. *blink* Apparently she has decided he is the grand poobah of the household, and is the one to whom she must grovel. Sadly, her groveling includes submissive piddling. So I was up at 5 this morning cleaning up little piddle trails. I have to admit, he didn't fly off the handle. He was disgusted and peeved, but not overly angry. Or maybe he was just afraid I'd start bawling again.

And hey! I did go ride last night and it was a wonderful adventure. I'm starting to learn and use some John Lyons approaches to training, and the response from Arashi is really quite impressive. We had great fun last night! We'll be having fun tonight, too! Thankfully the weather has warmed up, so it's much more enjoyable being outside in the evening. *lol* Your husband wants snacks. Hand him a carrot!
Jolly - Both of your boys? Did I miss something? I'm assuming Chance banged himself up after his shenanigans at the barn the other day, eh? Good going on the workout! I know that can help with the stress level, too. I hope the bank issue isn't serious, and gets resolved ASAP!!
Tracy - Woo !! WTG on the working out! Sweetie.. you have been under SO much stress, it's no wonder you're feeling a little wrung out! Just make sure you don't drop your calories too low, that will drain you, make you weak, and throw your body into conservation mode. If you drop the protein too low, you risk feeling puny, as well. Soapy water!?? Gack! That sounds horrible! What new diet is that?
Ok. I started using fitday again yesterday because I really need to find out if I'm kidding myself on calorie intake. Now that some of the financial worries have lessened (or will be lessening, and there is hope), I do feel as though I'm much more capable of doing this. I was getting too focused on my job and money, and not enough time was really being spent on my eating and working out. I didn't do good on water yesterday, but food was pretty darn OP. I didn't get to bed till 11, which is BAD. Tonight might not be much better, because Rosa postponed Nickie's lesson to tonight.

But I'm feeling good. Yep. Yee haw.