I wanted to agree that for me, vanity only caused and fanned the flames of an eating disorder. I'm not sure why. Something about needing to look a certain way, especially as a teen and in my early 20s when I had a greater concern for what other people (peers) thought about my weight, really drove me to "get skinny" at
any cost. And I found that unhealthy ways usually lead to faster weight loss, but they also lead to frequent and faster regain.
When I switched my thinking to weight loss for bettering my health, for me, not for others, I realize that i was ok with a slower moving scale if that meant I was doing it the right way. Also, it was a motivator that never changed. I was always present around me. When vanity was the motivator, things like up coming events where I would see people I haven't seen n a long time would create presser to lose again/ But during a time when I wasn't around others as much, I would "fall off the bandwagon" of weight loss.
I realize not everyone is like this. But for me, I could live alone on a mountain top and I would still want to be healthy.
After baby #1, my weight came off the slowest when I was still driven by vanity. That's when I joined 3FC.
After baby #2 I waited the longest to start weight loss, nearly 8 months. But then I got into fitness and that's when my motivation changed.
I started exercising 2 week post partum (walking) after baby #3 and was back to running at 6 weeks. The weight melted off, because I wanted to lose for me, I wanted to get hte weight off because its harder to run heavier.
I worked out this whole pregnancy. Ran until 31 weeks and I'm cycling now. And I'm gaining gaining gaining!! I'm eating clean (70/30 while pregnant) but still too much, and gaining. If vanity was my motivation, I wouldn't be doing any of that, because I have still gained too much, but I'm focused on health.
And just to show the difference. I am about 215 lbs right now, much higher than I wanted to be. You can see its not too far from my other pre-pregnancy weights in my siggy, and there is a possibility I will be there when I deliver. I cant say that's not discouraging, but my sugar test with baby #3 was 138. 2 points below failing, and I ended up having a 9 pound 6 oz baby, probably because my sugar was high.
My sugar test this time was 86! (Just for comparison, my sugar test was 90 with my first 8 years ago. )
Because I have been gaining the weight with healthy, whole foods (just lots of them!) and regularly exercising, my sugar is better now at 34 than it was at 26 years old.
I still look fat right now, but I know inside I am healthier.
