Oh, bargoo, I'm so sorry! Wait. Cancel that. When my Mom had breast cancer she absolutely HATED people feeling sorry for her because she didn't feel sorry for herself. She actually got to the point where she wouldn't tell anyone what was going on because she didn't want to make them feel bad for her or feel uncomfortable being around her. She lived life to the fullest--as we all should do. I wish you well and you're right--you get up and go about your normal activities and do the best you can. a thousand times over. You will beat this.

Bargoo, strength to you! "The Big C" is still a scary thing, no doubt. I figure you are demanding the best from your team, and that soon you also will be among the Survivors. Thank you for entrusting us with the news. I have a lot of faith in the power of prayer and collective reality creation ... and I believe you will beat it.

Allison, the same sentiments to you and Chico. He's got a loving family, and is a strong young dog. We'll be in your corner the whole way!

I share your mother's motto. There are worse things that can happen just pick up the newspaper any day of the week.

I'm glad you've told us, Bargoo. That way we can send you all our good thoughts, and this cancer all of our bad thoughts, and kick its butt! Get outta there, cancer! Thank you for trusting us. I hope we can help to support you.

Same goes for Chico! Hang in there, Allison.

Any time you open your eyes you see someone worse off than yourself. Be strong!

To Chico ( I guess Allison will have to read it to you)
OK Chico, it's here, what are we gonna do about it ? Well, I plan to suit up and show up every day, and I expect the same from you.The next time the family comes home be at the door with a toy in your mouth. OK? If I didn't live so far from you I would have a treat for you. Do you like greenies ? I would have lots of greenies for you.

Not shocked to hear this news BARGOO..

but then again haven't we have been prayer warriors on this for about 5-6 years

always

Not that long, but you have definitely been on the prayer team.

SAEF....

my cabinet guy was supposed to be installed complete on the 17th of April...

along the way we had delays because of a change Angie made...finish not setting due to weather...our boss required him to work O.T. out of town one week-end...1 no show on his crew one day...switched to a night job for our company this week...red paint over spray on a glass pane for one cabinet that won't come out (our glass guy sent me a new one today)...his mistake of making our wine rack too big for the area...crown mold cut opposite...

so, last call he will finish (mostly) this Friday...

not holding my breath!

But I have to say they look *********

OK...red and white....

But, carpets in....vinyl too...doors...baseboard...all done with a few touch-ups required...

You will be in soon and, just like my goldens who have their familyroom back as of last night at 10pm....

a happy camper :-)

I think you shared this with me before our prayer warriors started.

It was Sept 2008.

Bargoo, I felt weirdly relieved after reading your post, as if a mystery finally had been solved. You had mentioned health issues, on and off -- most recently, when you talked about bingeing -- in such a vague way that actually, wondering at the vagueness, because you are usually more specific, it immediately crossed my mind that you were being reticent about something scary. (Or something to do with embarrassing body parts or functions.) But you know, I am so comfortable on this particular forum that I don't often get to other parts of this vast & busy site. (Only in the last few days have I been deliberately posting on other threads, trying to help & pay back a little more.) So I never saw any talk of your cancer until now.

Does it feel any more comfortable with you, now that you've told us?

I've been thinking about you a lot before finally sitting down and replying here.

When you wrote that you go about your normal activities and that you're feeling well, I'm glad to read that. The body seems to be functioning well. But the soul ... and the heart ... that is something else.

That, at least, is something we here **can** help with, at least a little. I am glad you felt you could be honest with us.

You are a very giving person. You ought to get something back in return for all you give here.

You probably already know I helped care for my father in his losing battle with stomach cancer. My mother was diagnosed with breast cancer right after the funeral. They found it quite early, it was tiny & contained, and she had very targeted radiation and is doing well. But that experience changed everything for me & my outlook on the world. Now I think cancer has become so common, everyone has to work out how they feel about it because eventually, they or someone they love (and quite possibly both) will be affected.

You know you have my sincerest best wishes in this.

bargoo I didn't have the right words yesterday when I saw your post. Still don't so I'll just send these . And any time you need one of these please let us know.

Dagmar

Can't wait to see the photos, Gary. And don't you just hate paint overspray? The vintage auto shop next to ours didn't have the right ventilation on their paint booth when they used it the first few times and DH and I got overspray on our cars--yeah, all over my cute red Jaguar! They had their guy remove it. NOT. He worked on my car for three hours and I could still see it on the windshield and feel it on the paint. We had our auto guy do it again and he spent another 3 hours working it. It's all gone except a small area on the windshield. Now I get a little freaked when I walk out to my car and I smell paint fumes, but we haven't had any overspray again.

Bargoo, still thinking good thoughts for you.

Thank you all for your kind words. I appreciate that . saef, you are so perceptive, this is not a new diagnosis , this has been with me awhile I, strangely, felt somewhat fraudulent , not saying anything, and at the same time it wan't really necessary that you need to know. This forum is so great I feel that we are friends that just haven't met. I did try some of the cancer forums but they were just too depressing. There are others on 3fc with health issues, some more difficult than mine. When Allison shared with us abourt Chico I just felt it was time to be honest. I am not looking for sympathy, Allison described her mother's feelings on that subject and that is how I feel, too. I really am OK or am in total denial, not sure, which . I told that to a friend and he said , if denial is working for you , stretch it out as long as you can.This was said in jest of course, but there may be some truth to it, I don't know. For now I do as much as I can for as long as I can, I do have a good support team at my former church.
Dagmar, I have friends with cancer or other serious issues and I never have the right words, either.
I am really, really, OK and glad to have such a supportive group of friends here at 3fc. Friends with problems of their own, different problems for each of us but something in our lives that needs to be dealt with on a daily basis.
For now, let's all have a great day.