For the Santa Parents: At what age did the kids find out there was no Santa?

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  • Quote: My friend said to her, "well, just to warn you--my 7 year old knows all about sex so don't be surprised with what your kids find out from him!" LOL--I LOVED THAT!
    Oh thats a great one bwaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah !!! What fast thinking on her part LOLOL.


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  • K8t, it was the NORAD site that got us in trouble last year. The Santa on it looks so fake, my oldest said, "Is that supposed to be the real Santa Claus?" and I told him it was just a computer generation of him, and not the real Santa. I said it was just showing where Santa was right now from outer space. lol
  • Quote: We have a family in our class that has never allowed their children to believe in Santa. Well, thats fine except that their kids went around last year and told everyone there was no Santa, no Easter Bunny, no tooth fairy, etc. A friend of mine called their mother and asked that she tell them to stop. The mother replied, "we are all about truth and I am not about to tell my kids to stop telling the truth!" My friend said to her, "well, just to warn you--my 7 year old knows all about sex so don't be surprised with what your kids find out from him!" LOL--I LOVED THAT!
    I don't think I'll do the whole Santa thing with my son. We wouldn't really do Christmas at all but if we end up having to do public school I don't want him to be ridiculed for not receiving any gifts.

    It is likely that I would explain that some people believe in things different than us and it isn't wrong, it's just their traditions and he shouldn't make fun of what they believe. How well this will work, I don't know but I don't want to be pressured into forcing him to believe something that isn't real as well as a myriad of other reasons.

    I was not heart broken when I found out Santa wasn't real (rather young) nor did I flock to Christmas morning like a moth to flame. My son is smart (sometimes too smart ) and have a feeling he would find out WAY early on his own.
  • Well, I'm not a mom.. but I remember when I found out Santa wasn't real. After watching Miracle on 34th Street (i think thats what its called?) when I was in like the 2nd grade, I asked my mom if Santa Clause was real and she said "What do you think?" After thinking a bit and deciding I thought he wasn't, my mom told me I was right. I guess deep down I really did still believe that he was real, because I was crushed, haha.

    The next year I tried to pretend like I didn't know he was fake..
  • I remember my own Santa experience vividly.
    Well, at least the part of it leading up to me finding out that he didn't exist.
    There was a girl in my class (either in the 4th or 5th grade) who went out of her way to tell me that Santa Claus wasn't real. We got into a huge arguement over it and I told her my mother would NEVER lie to me about such things, and she had the same view point of her parents, so we basically ended the conversation in fumes.
    Well, that Christmas, my sister and I got up sometime in the middle of the night and saw our mom bringing in our new television to put under the christmas tree. The next morning, we confronted her on it.
    She finally spilled the beans, and to this day I remember being SO MAD about only one thing after she told me. I was FURIOUS that she had lied to me, and that I had done everything I could to defend her. I didn't care that Santa wasn't real; all I cared about was that she had lied to me all of my life. LOL.

    Today, when asked if I believe in Santa, I say yes. I accept Santa as an idea, and if it needs more explaining, I accept Santa as my parents. So in my mind, if Santa doesn't exist, then neither do my parents.

    I'm completely undecided of what I will tell my kids, Santa or no. I'm all for magic, imagination, and the spirit of things, but... I was so scarred that she LIED to me.
    LOL
  • I've been wondering whether to have the 'there's no Santa' conversation with my 10 year old (11 in January). When she was 8 she tested the water and said she'd been told by someone at school that Santa wasn't real. I told her that what she believed was up to her and that beliefs belonged to individuals and no one could take those beliefs away from her. She liked that thought and she did believe. This year I'm not so sure.

    She didn't write her list for Santa this year (an almost ritualistic event in previous years), until this week after I'd asked her why she hadn't written it. The list she produced is much more realistic this year with only 6 or 7 things on it. She's my youngest and I don't think I can tell her outright that there's no Santa as much for myself as her.

    Kitty