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  • Hey There
    Hey Everybody...I had a nice weekend..
    Candice..A sexless marriage??? Not my Greek Husband..Me now I guess I am like a lot of women my age..I have other things on my mind,I just don't let him know.
    Serenity..It is hot and muggy here in florida. Very tropical right now.. I am looking for the cool air and so far it is coming from the air conditioner.
    Mima... I always thought that the working conditions were what made it worthwhile to go to work. When it was no longer true I decided to stay home and do my own thing.. I am much happier.
    Happy.. It looks like you will soon have winter again..
    Hello Meme. Ally...Bye...I have a load of wash to do and many more chores...Joanne
  • Hello
    Candice - I just wanted to make sure you were reading the posts Of course you are not an 'old hag'. A sexless marriage - I don't think so!!! Even I wouldn't want to stay!

    Mima - Good you got home. How far do you have to travel? Hope you don't get to tired.

    Joanne - Glad to hear you had a good time visiting your daughter. I think I will go tomorrow to visit with my daughter and visit some friends. Hubby is out of town for the night, so it is a good time to go. Just hope I get some energy before tomorrow - otherwise, I will have to wait until next week. It is a 2 hours drive and when I am fatigued, I just can't drive.

    Anagram - Hope you are still enjoying the cooler weather. It is starting to heat up again here, but it should just get to really comfortable and not really hot.

    Everyone have a good day.
  • Sure am enjoying! Dh and I took off today and went to a pretty park (amusement) almost 2 hours away. It was a lovely day to be there and we spent close to six hours walking around, sitting, walking around, sitting, people watching. Ate our lunch, rode a little train, and had a big double dip ice cream cone = I know, I know. But it was my DINNER. I'll have a little snack in a bit once I finish my e mails.

    Tomorrow I'll go to Mom's and take her to lunch and catch up her stuff (checks, etc. - nothing physical). It's an hour's drive each way so I too hope I'm not tired. But it should be a pleasant drive. Most of it is very rural.

    PLUS I lost a whole pound since last week... Ta Dee Da! I've broken through my first ten pound loss. But with ice cream cones and birthday cake (Sunday) I'd best be careful. I'll be back up again in a minute.

    Went through some smaller clothes to find some to share with baby sister who has lost 40 odd pounds since the beginning of the year. Tried on one outfit one size smaller and I could GET INTO IT. Wouldn't wear anything as tight as it was but I could get into it and that's more than I could say a few months ago.

    I feel almost like dancing. Once I sit down for a minute, I'll probably be snoring.

    Nite, Nite.
  • What I mean is what if it were medically impossible for one of you to have s e x?????? you know paralized or something..would your Dh or you still stay in the marriage know you could never do it again????????? The vows do say for better or worse


    anagram..way to go!!!!!!!!!!!

    Gotta tummy ache today.............all pooped out!

  • Hi Gals

    Sounds like we are all enjoying the cooler weather. Do not want to complain that it is this cool in Aug. But - we took a day off and ran away too. We went to Gimli, a small fishing town, but now a touristy town on the south basin of Lake Winnipeg.

    It was a wonderful day. Walked the beach and walked the dogs, no dogs allowed on beach. Cool breeze blowing, too cool for swimming, I can just imagine all those people paying high rent for a cottage for a week or two of holiday and then not being able to swim. Lots of whinney kids, building sand castles, not able to get into the water.


    We are considering a cottage in that area, but taking our time checking things out. Lots of people moving out there from the city, and staying year round. REally something to think about. It is only about 45 mins from the edge of the city.

    It would certainly be different, being able to walk to everything, including the beach.Lake Winnipeg is a very large lake, you feel you are looking out on the ocean.

    I weighed in yest. and was up just over 1 lb. I still think this is a result showing now of the prednisone, which I am no longer taking. I feel thinner, and have increased my exercise, and on the whole feel great.

    Bothered again with IBS but not too bad. A few days of pepermint tea and toast usually clears it up.

    A sexless marriage - well my dh would put up with anything that comes along. - remember the vaginal muscular pain? - well they are re-occuring off and on - likely forever, all just another part of the FM.

    You have to put some spice into life when you are at your best.

    We had hoped to go out to Gimli today but realized today is my respiritory clinic. I have severe asthma and allergies. So no go today.

    Anyway, it poured rain all nite and my grass that I seeded
    near the end of June is finally coming up YIPPEEE. I had watered it 3 times a day and nothing was happening.

    Looks like it will rain all day today, so will maybe get back to the lake on the weekend.

    BAck to the diet - I took a look at the site on Carbo's. Very interesting, but don't think that's me. Will take another read on it anyway.

    Hi to everyone, hope you are all having a good week.

    Serenity
  • Good Morning
    Candice - I read that article on RHG and I truly believe that is me. Now about staying in a sexless marriage - marriage is NOT only sex. I would never leave hubby because of that and I know the same is true for him. We have a LOT more going for us than sex. That is a part of a healthy life. Hope your stomach feels better soon.

    Serenity - I lived at Sylvan Lake, here in Alberta. It is also a fairly big lake, and gives you the feeling of being at the ocean. I loved living there, I don't have asthma problems, but I do have sinus problems, and the worst thing for me was the smoke from the camp fires. I have gotten so I can't tolerate it - yet I love the smell of camp fires. Just don't seem to be able to breath. At the lake, there are literally hundreds of campfires burning everyday. The small gain is probably due to meds, alright.

    Anagram - Good work on that weightloss. Sounds like you and hubby had a great day. Nice to be able to just get up and go.

    Hope you all have a nice day. I think I am off to the city to visit friends today. Just a couple hour drive away. Will stay at my daughters tonight. Be back tomorrow night. Hubby is out of town tonight, so I decided I would be too

    Hi Joanne. Hope you have a nice day.

    Where in the world has our baby Ally gotten too?
  • Something to make you smile
    Kids. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

    1. The math teacher saw that little Johnny wasn't

    paying attention in class.

    She called on him and said, "Johnny! What are 4,

    2, 28 and 44? "

    Little Johnny quickly replied, "NBC, CBS, HBO, and

    the Cartoon Network! "

    ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~

    2. When I stopped the bus to pick up Chris for

    preschool, I noticed an older woman hugging

    him as he left the house.

    "Is that your grandmother? " I asked.

    "Yes, "Chris said. "She's come to visit us for

    Christmas. "

    "How nice, " I said. "Where does she live? "

    "At the airport, " Chris replied. "Whenever we want

    her, we just go out there and get her, "

    ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~

    3. I didn't know if my granddaughter had learned her

    colors yet, so I decided to test her. I would point

    out something and ask what color it was. She

    would tell me and always she was correct. But it

    was fun for me, so I continued. At last, she headed

    for the door, saying sagely, "Grandma, I

    think you should try to figure out some of these

    yourself! "

    ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~

    4. When the mother returned from the grocery store,

    her small son pulled out the box of animal crackers

    he had begged for, then he spread the animal-shaped

    crackers all over the kitchen counter. "What are you

    doing? " his Mom asked.

    "The box says you can't eat them if the seal is

    broken, " the boy explained. "I'm looking for the seal. "

    ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~

    5. This little grandmother was surprised by her 7

    year old grandson one morning. He had made

    her coffee. She drank what was the worst cup of

    coffee in her life. When she got to the bottom,

    there were three of those little green army men

    in the cup. She said, "Honey, what are these army

    men doing in my coffee? "

    Her grandson said, "Grandma, it says on TV 'The

    best part of waking up is soldiers in your cup! '"

    ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~

    6. In the supermarket was a man pushing a cart that

    contained a screaming, bellowing baby. The

    gentleman kept repeating softly, "Don't get excited,

    Albert; don't scream, Albert; don't yell, Albert;

    keep calm, Albert. "

    A woman standing next to him said, "You certainly

    are to be commended for trying to soothe your son, Albert. " The

    man looked at her and said, "Lady, I'm Albert. "

    ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~

    7. A three-year-old boy went with his dad to see a

    new litter of kittens. On returning home, he breathlessly

    informed his mother, "There were two boy

    kittens and two girl kittens. "

    "How did you know that? " his mother asked.

    "Daddy picked them up and looked underneath, " he

    replied. "I think it's printed on the bottom. "

    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~~

    8. While working for an organization that delivers

    lunches to elderly shut-ins, I used to take my four-year-old

    daughter on my afternoon rounds.

    She was unfailingly intrigued by the various appliances

    of old age, particularly the canes, walkers and wheelchairs. One

    day I found her staring at a pair of false teeth soaking in a

    glass. As I braced myself for the inevitable barrage of questions,

    she merely turned and whispered,

    "The tooth fairy will never believe this! "

    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    9. A little girl was watching her parents dress for a party. When

    she saw her dad donning his tuxedo, she warned,

    "Daddy, you shouldn't wear that suit. "

    "And why not, darling? "

    "You know that it always gives you a headache the

    next morning. "

    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    10. While walking along the sidewalk in front of his

    church, our minister heard the intoning of a prayer

    that nearly made his collar wilt. Apparently, his

    five-year-old son and his playmates had found a

    dead robin. Feeling that proper burial should be

    performed, they had secured a small box and

    cotton batting, then dug a hole and made ready for

    the disposal of the deceased. The minister's son was

    chosen to say the appropriate prayers and with sonorous

    dignity intoned his version of what he thought his father

    always said: "Glory be unto the Faaaather. And

    unto the Soonnn. . . . . . . and into the hole he gooooes. "

    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    11. A little girl had just finished her first week of school. "I'm

    just wasting my time, " she said to her mother.

    "I can't read, I can't write, and they

    won't let me talk! "
  • Maybe Ally got lost in the wilds of Central PA.

    Sounds like a great day at the lake, Serenity. Loved both pictures you and Happy posted of the beautiful lakes.

    Til Death Do Us Part = we said it almost 44 years ago and that
    's the only way dh gets away from me.

    Hope your getaway trip was lots of fun, Happy. All went well on my trip yesterday but two days of runaround have left me achy and tired. DH and I going shopping today for birthday gifts for Amanda who'll be two Sunday. Will get to see both our kids and grandkids then = a five star day whenever that happens.

    How's that knee, Joanne? Still giving you grief?
  • Hey There
    Hello Everybody
    Happy -You are so right marriage is not just sex...My hubby and I have been together 49 years this christmas. Life changes through the decades. I was 16 yrs old when we met and 20 when we walked down and"jumped the broom". Have you ever heard of that? Truely we were married in the Greek Church.. Now we both are fighting the battal of the bulge
    Candice.. Medically impossible should be looked into and solved .. How are your flowers doing this year..
    Annagram..The knee has been giving me a lot of grief.. I will survive it till after the Holidays and then take care of the problem.. When we were at my daughters ,I got up from a chair to go to bed and couldn't walk. It just would not stay in place. I had taken off the support because the therapist told me it was not good to wear it all the time... Well he doesn't have to stand on it. Needlest to say my son had to help me to get to bed. How embarrasing is that? My daughter couln't believe her eyes..She thought I was being dramatic..Yeah...
    Hey Meme. Mima.Wheres Ally? Good weight loss Serenity. Now aren't you glad we help to talk you into going to WW. Sounds like you are losing inches. I had a pair of size 16 jeans in my closet for almost 15 years when I went to WW the last time.. It was a happy day when I put them on and they were too big..
    Got to get busy. My hose has got to get vacumned..Etc...Bye..Joanne
  • I'M BACK!

    The houseboat was wonderful (I'll have some pictures later). We had a great 5 days. It wasn't too hot most of the day. The morning and afternoons were wonderful. It got a little hot about 12 or so and stayed that way until about 3 or 4...we took naps! This is weird....but just sitting here at the computer...I feel like I'm moving still! The boat was at the pier and didn't really move that much. Tuesday, it was really windy and you could feel it moving most of the day. Especially if you were standing at the sink and leaning against the cabinet or something. Anytime you could look at the pier or another boat and see that it was moving some...but I didn't get 'sea sick' or even have much vertigo. I just didn't realize it made such a difference until a few minutes ago when it felt like the room was moving!

    It was a 3 bedroom, 2 bathroom, large livingroom, dinningroom and kitchen. All the conveniences of home. We caught a lot of fish, too. Some bass a couple of walleye and a couple of catfish. I caught a HUGE catfish...at least 10 pounds hubby said...and he let it jump back out of the net when he netted it. It broke my line and took my favorite lure with it!!! I have a great tan...I was really white and everybody told me I'd burn but I didn't! I'm really brown now! I weighed when I got home and DIDN'T GAIN ANY!!!

    What's this about a sexless marriage...who...my viagra man???
    If I was physically unable to have sex...he would not leave me! And if he was physically unable to have sex...I wouldn't leave him, either. Sex is just not as important to a relationship when you're in your 50s and have lived together for 37 years! Maybe you should ask that question to some younger couples! But...if they TRULY love each other...I think they'd work the sex thing out somehow! THERE ARE WAYS!

    Congrats to those of you diligent people who are still losing weight. I'm going to be joining you come Monday morning! It's back to the grinding (diet) stone!!!
  • Hi
    I'm home and happy. Last week was better-the food was better and probably they will get a different hotel. It's never going to be the same. Coming home in the middle sure helped. Maybe Brad can come out next time. He has some big jobs right now. I correct the MA teacher test and they bring teachers from all over the state to a central place=Hadley MA. It is the most gorgeous area. Last night we went to a dairy farm for a sandwich and home made ice cream.AS for sex-it's important to both of us but if there was something physically wrong , we have so much else in our relationship. The worst thing would be when one partner had totally different needs than the other. Worse than that-none !!I have been through that and it affects your image of yourself as a woman. You constantly feel rejected.Well enough about that. I am getting revived and Brad will be home soon. Mima
  • I hear you all and totally agree.....Dh brought it up and told me since I have been having pain lately and doing it makes the pain untolorable at times he told me no sex no marriage!!!! I was shocked and I told him to leave me then cause when I am hurting that bad and know it will make me worse he is not going to touch me! (he actually thought about it!!!!!!!!!Divorce I mean..I thought that was terrible!) After all, I put up with his problems and viagra is not the answer......... I think it is just the Fibro but will ask the doc in a few weeks when I get my yearly pap! I just do not want to go to a bounch of other docs and have a zillion painful tests run to be told there is nothing wrong but the fibro! This pelvic pain sucks!

    serenity..you have this too??????????????????????

    Meme..can't wait to see the pictures

    Yappy....that was a beautiful picture!

    Joanne..the flowers are just so so, the insects are really bad this year too! Mya rms are hurting from spraying. I have some pictures but couldn't et them to post.

    I had a 10 point dessert the last two days but counted it and planned for it..just wanted something rich! It was not even homemade but sounded so good and it was!

    My pain is still pretty bad overall right now but I have been doing body electric with Margarett Richards on PBS at 2pm for 20 minutes a day, might be why I hurt
  • Hi
    Candice-GO TO THE DOCTOR NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Everyone tell her that!!!!!!!!!That is not good-didn't realize you had it so bad. It could even be something else-I get stomache pain from diverticulosis but it still needs to be treated. Don't wait til your next appt. Go now!!!!! With love Mima
  • How awful for you, Candace. Bad enough to have the pain but lack of understanding is another pain in itself.

    The houseboat sounds positively luxurious, Meme. And it seems like you're really refreshed from the trip.

    Glad things were better this week, Mima. (Esp. the food part = bad food ruins everything but of course I'd like a nice place to stay too.)

    Dramatic - that's what I'd say the pain can be, Joanne. And very embarassing sometimes. Had one particularly bad one years ago. My son had just become engaged and we went to DC to take both our kids and our now kids in law to a very nice place to celebrate.
    Of course we sat a long time. When I got up I could not stand on my left foot. Had to hang on son and dh to get out, once outside restaurant (in huge lobby type area - still posh) I took my shoes off to see if it would help me walk, it didn't. Both fellows dragged me to car. As soon as we pulled out, the joint unlocked and I was fine as if nothing had happened. This did happen a lot then but never as intensely as that day. Of course I was afraid my dil would take this wrong (like I did it to divert attention from them). And I'm sure my dd was embarassed, don't know what sil thought either - probably that he was going to steer of that drama queen (they weren't yet engaged). I've since had lots of smaller embarassments like stumbling when the knee gives out, etc. Still cannot get up gracefully once I sit for a while. Occasionally walking like I'm drunk till I get my sealegs after I get up. It sounds like you know now that you are ready to have the surgery done. It does take time to get used to the idea, doesn't it?

    Should I start searching for Ally? I think I'll start at the outlets or maybe she's taking a chocolate bath in the Spa at the Hotel Hershey.

    Have a good one, ladies. Weather here still so fine, dh is off to the golf course and I've got to get some gifties wrapped. And of course, more than a few chores to do. Bleah! And I used to like doing that stuff.
  • Oh Guys I am so sorry.
    I have just been sort of out of it for a week. I did do Hershey last Mon, Tues Wed and by Saturday I was on the couch and out for the count.
    I am just getting some energy back.
    I am also doing digestive enzymes and Immune Pro. I suspect this "cleaning out" is also causing some energy loss.
    I will read all your old posts soon so I can catch up.
    The trip was .......... wierd. Too much driving. In the end,the kids on the trip did not want Hershey Park. It was too hot. They wanted the pool at the hotel. That was fine, but it is expensive there. In reality, I could drive ten miles and have the same experience right here. We went to the Chocolate World Tour and bought candy.....but again, way too long a drive to just do that.
    Plus my friend likes me along cause I am negotiable. That is me...the Giver. BUT, in the past few years I have examined that. We talked about what happens when you don't speak up for yourself. Well, this year I was determined to do that. It caused big ISSUES. Silences. Annoyance. Finally at the end of the trip, I blew. Said that I paid for half and drove too. I need to think that I have choices and options. I am not just a puppet. SO the trip back home was.....uncomfortable. Have to remember this before we plan the next one.
    Hard to travel with people if some just refuse to budge. Have to eat here and watch this on TV and get up at this time.....
    I think I should travel alone!!!!