I have to be honest... Cryers scare me! I never know what to say when someone I don't know very well- male or female- starts to cry, especially when it's that deep sobbing where they can't talk to tell you what's wrong. Since I have absolutely no poker face, I'm pretty sure my look of extreme discomfort once I've determined it's not a medical emergency doesn't make them feel better either!

On a similar subject, I've been eating very poorly (understatement of the year). My grandma has been very sick and she died Sunday morning. My siblings and I are doing fine but my mom and her siblings are pretty devastated. (Lots of crying but I know them so it's not so bad) I know I need to take care of myself, but coffee, cigarettes, donuts and chocolate are EVERYWHERE! I just ran out to buy healthy snacks so I have an alternative. I haven't darkened the door of the gym for a week either so I have plans to be back on that horse AGAIN this weekend. And forget the scale!

Lafayette, so sorry about your grandma, I know what it's like. I hope you can eat healthy and get back to the gym soon.
I wasn't not a good girl last night, but today is another day. I have to recognize that I am in this for life and there will be many weeks of gains that will be offset by weeks of losses. Vacations, visits, dinners out and things like that are all part of life. I could have made better choices last night, though.

Thanks, Linda!

The healthy snacks haven't gone over so well but at least I tried! I'm more worried about the fact that I've been smoking the occasional cigarette (maybe 6 total in the past week). I quit almost two years ago and it's too easy to think of the cigarettes as a pre-wedding diet, even though I know there's no guarantee replacing snacks with cigarettes will actually help me shed the pounds I've gained. I just can't shake the correlation- when I smoked, I was a size 4, now I'm a size 14 and growing!

Lafayette, I don't know what to say. Smoking damages your body in different ways from being overweight. I know you have lots going on, but is this really what you want to do? Think carefully.
But, I'm bad off too. I went to my meeting and I knew I'd gained and got on the scale anyway. I gained 2.4 pounds and I am so bummed out about it. So, we're both not doing well right now.
I think mine might be water weight? But, I was not awfully good over the weekend. I have to regain control.

Ladies, I'm sorry its been so tough for you as of late... Just keep telling yourselves...

And this too shall pass.

Life really is like a roller-coaster... One minute your up the next your down.

Wishing you both nothing but the very best this life has to offer.

sassy

Thanks, Sassy, life and my weight are like roller coasters, up and down!
I'll get the down part right, I know I will!
I had a great day on program yesterday and started today off going to the gym at 6:30 am. I'm determined to be back on track.
I wish I could just be better at all of this, but I am human.

Layfayette!!! DROP THAT CIGARETTE and turn around slowly!!!!! (((((HUGE HUGS))))) Sorry about your grandma. That is just awful. My deepest sympathies. This hard for you and also your mom losing a loved one. As for the cigarettes...please do not. I remember I started smoking about halfway through the WW journey and kept smoking for years. I was skinny yes, but I coughed and had bronchitis most times. I just substituted smoking for snacking. NOT WORTH IT!.

Linda! Glad to see that you got back on the bus! Give yourself lots of love! You WENT to the meeting. You could have stayed away and the next time you went it could have been a whole lot worse!

Sassypants!!! Girl! you are soooooooooo close! Keep us going in here will you! I am stuck in the 80's...but hey...2 more pounds and I'll be down in the 70's and THAT is VERY exciting! I have been drinking my water and really watching the number of calories that are going in. Trying to keep it down to about 1200. Found some great little ice cream treats that are only 50 cals..and low in fat, so that helps HUGE! Even less calories than the WW ones. Sorry. don't remember the name but will try again once I go shopping again!

Did the East Indian thing again today and LOVED it! Well worth every morsel. But we only do it once a month so I'm not all guilted out over it! It has been hotter than heck here...+ 30 celsius (and no....I don't know what it is in farenheit...HOT girls! HOT!!!! makes yah sweat!).

The dating has been interesting to say the least. I am discovering lots about myself and the things I am looking for. Ohyes...and btw... my ex saw me on the weekend and did the up and down looking thing. Was GREAT! ha ha!

Elan, how much have you lost so far? So, you think the X found it noticeable? Good!
I have my weigh in today and I'm thinking that I'll have a loss, at least I hope so. My weight fluctuates so very much that it is very hard to know from one hour to the next, but on my own scale I am down this morning.
Next week, by the way, we go on vacation. I'm hoping to not have a huge gain over that week, but there are some things that just seem to go along with vacation times and it's really hard to resist.
Any great coping ideas?

Oh Elan I'm not doing anything different or special. Just living life on life's terms.

I work at a wonderful restaurant ( Max & Erma's ) with wonderful people. Taking care of 3 fabulous children. Two daughters 14 and 12. And a wonderful snuggle bunny son who is 10. It looks like my hellacious custody battle is nearing an end, soon. And I may be reunited with my current husband whom I've been parted from for almost a year.

Thru the painful, been living the pleasures of birthday's, graduation's, holiday's, and baby showers! Been super motivated, slightly complacent, and on auto pilot... many times!

You never know what tomorrow will bring, so the best I can do is be is the best Me to meet it. Progress not perfection.

I come to read here everyday. This thread is my first stop before I peruse the rest of the site. I look forward to seeing how you ladies are doing and if quested, responding. You all help me so very much in varying ways to keep true to my course. Thank You!

and on that note... going back into lurk mode.

And I am obviously a conversation killer.

Sorry ladies.

I like your conversations Sassy, you have a great outlook on life. You have been through a lot. I admire you. I wish you all the best.

No way are you a conversation killer! I never got an e-mail thread notification that there was another post here until this evening!
How's things going?
I'm up at our cabin on a lake, for vacation, but have web access on my laptop. Do forgive spelling errors as I have no spellcheck on this laptop like on my computer at home. The keyboard is tiny and I have a hard time getting used to it.
I promised myself, my buddies here at 3FC as well as my WW leader that I would journal on vacation. I wonder if that might mean that I don't have the usual gain?
We arrived and I went out and did a bit of grocery shopping, my daughter and I cooked a WW recipe for supper and I journalled. So far so good!

email's about posts? How come no one told me???? ha ha!

Sassypants.....let me tell you -- 42 times in court with the x...ARGHHH!

To answer your question Linda..I found my old book from 2005 -- I have lost to date 30 pounds since that weigh in! I almost died when I saw it... From April of this year that was 15 pounds...it's slow, but sure. I am kicking it into high gear. I do have trouble with carbs. I love carbs -- but I have vowed to drink my water and have been doing a good job. So water, water, water.

I also vowed to walk with a friend at least 3 times a week. She has a route that takes an hour and I figure it's better than sitting her on the computer.

As for dating..it's taken a back seat. I am getting so tainted! lol...all men are horn dogs I tell you. They have a ONE TRACK mind!!! And you know where THAT is!!! What happened to romance? courting? getting to know one another? Are we in such a society that it's instant gratification (ok for them...I just can't see myself doing that!). So, I am taking a breather. I have met some nice people and we are still in touch. That's all the news I have!

Cheers ladies! have a great weekend!

Elan, isn't it sad that you are expected to "put out" so soon? I think those things should take time as well. Have you tried talking with these guys or are they not worth it? Such a shame.
Did you know that you can click on "thread tools" at the top of this page and ask to get e-mail notification each time someone makes a new posting to a thread? This way, you can keep up on a conversation.
Well, today's goal for me (taking this one day at a time) is to eat pretty much on program as best I can for vacation. I will journal. I will enjoy. I am almost ready to get off line and will take out paddleboat out for a morning exercise break.

Ok girls...down to 181.5 -- last year I was 210....so it's a start. I have to get moving!!!!!! this is ridiculous! so slow