I would cry if someone else wore white to my wedding But I always wear white after labour day - thats a stupid rule.

I honestly dont see what the big deal is. I wouldnt really give a crap if someone wore white to my wedding, especially if there were a lot of people (less noticeable) Its not like people's eyes are going to be on anyone but the bride. ****, some brides dont even wear white. My cousin wore a gorgeous red gown at her wedding, it was amazing.

But anyway, since some people have a problem with it, i wouldnt wear it, but you really should buy it anyway.

I'm with cardsfan on that - that no one will be paying attention to you, just to the couple... Unless you KNOW that the couple will personally be offended, then do whatever you want.

Actually, now that I think about it, no one wore white to my wedding reception (no one but my parents attended my wedding b/c it was a private ceremony - had a reception at a later date). Anyway, it wouldn't have mattered - my wedding dress is a BEAUTIFUL handmade renaissance style gown in burgandy and emerald green.

I personally think the idea of anything "white" at a wedding is completely cliched (yes, this includes the wedding dress, the cake, and anything else that might be white).

Cliche for you, perhaps, but white forms the basis for alot of other people's dreams. Personally, I haven't seen alot of Vera Wang renaissance burgundy gowns lately....
All brides are beautiful, INCLUDING those that choose white.

My mother and I had a massive argument before my wedding, she wanted to wear an ivory outfit, that looked pretty much the same as my wedding dress! She said that I was completely out of order and no other daughter would have minded.

Too bad we didn't know about this site then!

Hey, for someone living on the other side of the big pond, can someone kindly explain the white after labour day thing???

Wearing white to a wedding has traditionally been a no-no. I wouldn't wear it either. Usually I wouldn't care what others think about what I was wearing but in this case I would respect the bride, it is her day.

Maybe you could get away with it if you wore it with some coulour? Say a shawl or long scarf around the waist or your neck, or a hat with a coulourful band or flower and couloured shoes and bag?

A lady I saw at the bank the other day had a white pantsuit on with hot pink shoes and a hot pink pashmina shawl and she looked great.

I have been to a few weddings wear someone has worn a white dress and it did raise a few eyebrows and a few glares and tut-tuts.

Then I still believe in wearing black to funerals and recently saw someone wearing a bright red sundress with white polk a dots to one -

My opinion is that couples need to think outside of the box - do what feels right for them, create new traditions, and STOP trying to please parents/relatives/friends.
There are hardly any weddings that I have been to that I actually remember individually - they all blend together because they are ALL THE SAME. It doesn't matter how much or little money is spent.... a white wedding is a white wedding, if you've been to one, you've pretty much seen em all.
But for whatever reason, those of us who DO think outside of the box for a wedding are dubbed as weird, when really we want to stand out and make the day truly special and different from all the other "normal" weddings out there. And yes, I got plenty of nasty comments for not having a wedding like "everyone else" does.
Afterwards, I have actually had relatives and friends of the family (and my personal friends) tell us that they remember our reception specifically because it wasn't like the traditional wedding, that they were glad to see something so unique.

I would avoid wearing white or ivory to a wedding.

I'm not wearing an "official" wedding dress to my wedding. It is a light yellow floor length bridesmaids dress but looks very much like a wedding dress. I was actually surprised when I found it because if I was a bride wearing white or ivory, I wouldn't want the bridesmaids to wear a dress so similar. Not that I'm having bridesmaids but still

Anyway, whether the wedding is traditional or untraditional, I would just avoid a white or ivory dress entirely. A white dress would look good though during the summer (Not that I think you should avoid wearing it after labor day but white in summer is pretty cool)

I came too late because others already have my answer, but I would buy the dress and either dye it a different color or wear a scarf or colorful jacket over it. If the bride wants to get her knickers in a twist over it, she's not having enough fun at her own wedding.

Labor Day is the first Monday in September and is traditionally considered the end of summer. It was considered extremely gauche to wear white from Labor Day until Easter (sort of the official beginning of Springtime). I think that fashion rule is starting to die out but I have to admit, I would never ever wear white shoes from September to March-April time! Except for my Nike trainers, of course.

Bucketgirl, your wedding dress is lovely. I wore white satin and reems of organza for my first wedding, like some sort of virgin sacrifice, hehe. Second time around, I wore a form fitting black dress and my 7 months pregnant belly very proudly. Comparing pictures of the two, I look so much happier and self-assured in the black dress! Maybe that has more to do with switching grooms than switching dress colors!!

I think the worst case of this I have seen was a woman (a guest) wearing a white stretch mini-dress, everyone was eyeballing her because:

a) she wore a white dress to someone else's wedding;
b) it was too tight and too short;
c) she was known as the type of person to grandstand and try to steal someone else's thunder - in short = TACKY!!!!!!

Oh, did I forget to mention the visible panty lines to boot?

My wedding dress was ivory and when I was telling people about it they asked "Any particular reason that aren't going to wear white?" with a raised eyebrow. I would just say "Nope - I just look awful in white! It makes me look even paler than I am so I end up looking ill, ivory is a much more flattering choice for me." Which is the truth, me and white don't get along.

I didn't think it mattered what colour you wore these days. In fact wedding dresses weren't traditionally white to begin with and that is something that evolved over time.

One of my friends had a medieval theme wedding and her dress was champagne couloured with gold accents. Another friend was married in a red dress with gold toned sheer fabric overlays - it was gorgeous!

Wearing white to a wedding= bad!

My best friend just tied the knot about two weeks ago and her foster sister wore white to her wedding. She was in tears over it.

White is traditionally the bride's color and the day belongs to the couple. You never know how a bride, or the bridal party even, may take it.

Sounds like a lovely deal, though, and you can always wear white to something else.

No.
Some brides are picky and some are not so ask the bride!

Thank you for all of your advice. I am not going to wear the dress, don't want to make anyone mad. I doubt the bride would mind, but I don't want to risk it. I thought of adding a colorful jacket or scarf with it but it is still 100 degrees out here and the wedding is in two weeks and it is outside. I have some back up ideas though. Just had to ask though, because my sister is getting married next summer and she is wearing a pale pink dress and wants the bridesmaids (including me!) in white dresses. I thought this was odd but heck it is her wedding and she doesn't feel right in white when she has been living with her fiance for 5 years and they have a kid. Thanks Erika

I disagree that all "white" weddings are the same, in a big way. Just wearing a white dress doesn't make your wedding cookie-cutter...you can do all kinds of other things to make the ceremony and reception unique.

Just a thought...