Loser13 - Lol...I guess if I was to get an award it would be for elite yo-yo dieting

I do great at losing weight but I am terrible at maintaining so I have to figure long-term maintenance out but now I am in phase 1 and focused on that first.
All I can say is for me it is like a switch gets flipped. I can make terrible choices for weeks and then I feel sluggish and bloated and I just get sick of that feeling and I begin. And, once I begin then I have never had issues with not sticking to the plan. I guess because I am goal-oriented so I set up goals and because I know how damaging cheats can be on a low carb plan. I really do not have temptations when I'm doing this. What triggers going off is either having hit a target and not having a plan for afterwards which is why I always write about particular milestones and goals, etc or hitting my ultimate goal and getting complacent with maintenance.
I think setting the weigh-ins out like I do is a key for me because my goals are spread out and 4 weeks of just focus on hitting that target so I'm on a mission.
My favorite packets are the IP chicken soup and BBQ crisps. I do not worry about net carbs - I used to track it but that was when I was tweaking the program. I did keto for a while and I know the level of ketosis does not translate to more fat loss so I now don't worry about tracking if following IP protocol. However, remember I am only doing green, leafy vegetables so Net Carbs are not an issue. Plus, I consume the leanest meat you could eat so fat is not an issue - I now trust the fat my body is breaking down with the 2 tsp of olive oil is all I need so 99% fat free Jennie-O Extra Lean ground turkey is my dinner protein.
I typically have a pudding thrown in for third packet. I used to do the chocolate drink mix and make a cake out of it. I have only done that a few times in this cycle. I am trying new packets too - I had chocolate soy puffs and peanut bar - I never had used restricted items before but decided to do so last couple of weeks. I actually felt more satisfied without the restricted, just doing either the chocolate drink mix as a cake, chicken soup with 2 cups broccoli and BBQ crisps or chocolatey caramel mug cake eaten as like cookie dough vs cake.
I got the chocolate peanut butter bar and don't care for it.
I think from what you describe you are kind of in between mode - not fully ready to commit but working through the stages to get ready. You can't force it - you'll know when you are fully ready. For now, don't beat yourself up - you are at least keeping things from getting out of control by the good weeks - you'll just know when you are ready to commit longer term to hit your goal. You'll get to that point when ready!