Somuchfattitude I'm definitely stepping slowly, but surely!
Sunarie Congratulations!!! 5 years is plenty of time to save up some funds and really do what you want. I planned my first wedding in 2 months at a golf course/country club, and this one I started in November (getting married in June) and it's SO MUCH more hectic! Since we rented an island, there is nobody that's really going to take care of any decorating. We have to do everything ourselves, but we visited the other day and decided that minimal is best because the mountain and lake view is too pretty to distract from.
The mom/mother in law/aunt are much happier once they saw the "mansions" where we're housing people. They're just historic and gigantic, so we can sleep about 30 in one, and 15 in another, then anyone who wants to camp out, or stay in a cabin is more than welcome.
Archychick I hate when people assume that it's super easy for everyone. Some of us really do need to track/weigh/measure to make sure that we're staying on plan. Secret looks and eyerolls are never nice. My fiance decided last minute that my daughter should have a dinner out in celebration of her awesome report card last night. She chose an Asian buffet spot. I grabbed my plate and when I sat down I entered each item into MFP. My fiance smiled at me and said what a great job I'm doing - I've never had support like that in my life! In the end, I had about 500 calories and most of them were volumetric. A few pieces of sushi, a small steamed fish filet, a bit of broccoli in sauce, a bit of stir fried green beans, and 1/2 cup of two different soups. I was stuffed and it balanced out my very low calorie day.
flickety my weight loss is really slow too. I don't really seem to lose or gain much at all and then I'll weigh in after 6 months and realize I lost (or gained) 5lbs. Right now I've buckled down and cut out all snacks and almost all refined carbs, so I'm hoping to see or at least FEEL some changes over the next few months.
Dixiemom I reached goal about 7 years ago and slowly gained 5lbs and haven't lost it - In fact, I gained another 5! If I had continued going to meetings and weighing in, I'd probably not have this issue.
ispoons I really like the zucchini lasagna from
www.skinnytaste.com (along with ALL of her other recipes, haha).
Fae I cook and freeze just about everything. Every weekend I make at least 2-6 dishes depending on how much I feel like cooking. Then I either flash freeze or freeze into portion sizes depending on what the food is. It's the only way I've been able to feed my family healthy homemade foods in appropriate portions for the past 8 years. Weekdays are too busy to spend time in the kitchen!
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I'm doing pretty well, and feeling much more calm about everything. Yes, I'm stressed with work, child, and wedding, but it's not terrible. I finally told my fiance about two weeks ago that we had so much to do and I was terrified that we wouldn't finish. He asked me to make a list and has been gung-ho about completing everything ever since. I should have done this in the beginning!!
Dresses #2 and #3 should arrive within the next few days. I hope one of them looks good. A few weeks ago I tried on a similar style in the same brand and I left the dressing room beaming because it looked HOT! That's with no weight loss, so with maybe 5-10lbs lost it would be phenomenal.
My MIL seems to think I'm relapsing on an eating disorder (actually she wrote me a letter) because I declined nuts and pizza on our day together. It upset me much more than I let on. It's not like I didn't eat! I had breakfast in front of her (an egg and an oz of turkey), then I had a salad with chicken on it for a late lunch. She expressed concern that my dresses are fitted. They're fitted, but my problem areas are my arms, not my body, so the long sleeve fitted dress is so much better than the sleeveless "traditional" dress to me. I'm putting less pressure on myself by picking something that already looks great, but her words have me second guessing my own body. What bothers me most is that I don't think it's abnormal for a bride to "diet" close to her wedding day, and I was made to feel abnormal just because of the disordered eating that I suffered from as a child. I wish I never shared that, and I'll be sure not to say jokingly, "I have to fit into a wedding dress soon," which is exactly how it happened.
Therapy is going well. She's suggested that I begin more formal exercise including a yoga class for my anxiety. I really like this therapist. She's knowledgeable and seems to have a lot of experience in this. Slowly, but surely, I'm getting things done. Since I started therapy again, I've been 100% on track. Sometimes just sorting it out in my head with someone else makes everything a bit easier.