Well, I've been doing some research, and discovered that nicotine can be very harmful to sperm for men. My husband uses an e-cig (off cigarettes thankfully, it's been hard for him). I talked with him yesterday about how the nicotine can make men infertile and have abnormalities that can cause miscarriage, etc (obviously not that bluntly, sounds awful! I just showed him the studies I read and he read them himself). He agreed that he wanted to be as healthy as possible before we try to conceive, so now we are both on this journey together (just different). He is cutting back on his e-cig and is going to switch to 0 mg over the next few weeks. I'm going to continue my weight loss journey and we both are keeping up our healthy lifestyle. So we are going to wait at least 3 more months before trying to give the changes time to take effect. We're also both taking multi's with folic acid, omega 3s, etc. There's a part of me that's a little sad we have to wait longer, but also relieved, because it takes the pressure off deciding when to start. It gives me 3 more months to get healthy, and my husband too. Not a bad thing!

This sounds like a great plan!! 3 Months, while a goodly amount of time to begin making solid, sustainable changes, is still not THAT long to wait - I'm sure it'll fly by quickly.

I'm excited for you in your weight loss journey, your husband's agreement to pursue a healthier lifestyle, *and* your revisiting the trying to conceive in a few more months!

Thanks Bardess! I'm sure it will fly by too, I feel like this whole year did, I can't believe it's almost october. I'm just glad my husband has been so supportive throughout this whole process, it makes everything so much easier, and I can share this journey with him.

Claygirl, sounds like you guys are well on your way to having a good healthy pregnancy! And despite the fact that right now I feel like the next two weeks are going to last forever without end , I know that 3 months will actually fly by!

Good luck to you and your hubby!

Thanks 1yr2mkovr! I'm sure it will fly by too, and we might as well make good choices, because the time will pass anyway!

That's right!!

I would just take it slowly with your diet. My hubby is also a comfort eater and eats more via stress and anxiety. He was even diagnosed with a high blood pressure due to stress recently.

I always say when it comes to healthy eating and a healthy lifestyle to start in slow steps and thats why I reckon most people struggle with diets. You can't for example expect someone that is on 3000 calories a day to suddenly stick to 1200 a day and not binge.

It has to be gradual.

If you eat a lot and have big portion sizes start by swapping some of the unhealthy for healthy big portion sizes. Such as swapping butter for fat free spray when cooking and eating more veg than bad foods so that you are eating the rubbish in moderation.

If you are a chocolate addict try dark chocolate as its great for cravings!

Then once you've achieved that look at downsizing your portions if they are too big and calorie count too - regardless of whether you binge or not its good to get a true account of how many calories you're consuming.

And from the pregnancy point of view don't put too much pressure on yourself as I have been where you are now. I am currently 34 weeks pregnant. But I have been trying for a baby since my first was born in 2001 so I know how anxious it can make you. I also made the decision to lose weight and carry on being healthy during pregnancy and prior to this pregnancy I had lost 4 stone by eating healthy between feb 2013-xmas 2013 so it is possible. And prior to this I had a BMI of 34.

I have had 2 kids. I started both pregnancies with a BMI around 32. The first pregnancy I only gained 8 pounds but the baby was 7.5 pounds. I had no complications. I stayed active. I breastfed for a year and ended up 30 pounds under my start weight. However, I continued to eat the same way after I ceased bfing and gained all the weight back. I got pregnant with my second and had a very different experience including preeclampsia towards the end of my pregnancy (I put on 25 pounds with that pregnancy). I wasn't as fit and was dealing with a toddler during the pregnancy. I think if you have a good support system, knowledge about how to take care of yourself and the baby, and do not eat for two just eat healthier. If you have a BMI above 30 your body will take care of you and the baby. You already have enough reserves to give you both a head start.

I'm also trying to lose weight before getting pregnant with baby #2.

My husband has been bugging me for another baby (our son is 2 1/2) for the last couple of months. I just turned 34 and I want to have my baby in the next couple of years.

I am currently 230 pounds. My first pregnancy was horrible because I overate and gained 60 pounds. I hated being pregnant, didnt feel "cute"...it was just terrible. I dont want to do that again. I am planning on getting pregnant next fall and so for the next year want to lose 80 pounds.

I dont have much advice for you, OP, but I am right there with you and if you need support and a buddy, let me know!

I am in a similar situation. Thinking about having a baby, but would like to lose first.

I'm in the same boat. I'm at my heaviest weight ever (never thought i would let myself get this far). My husband and I plan to start trying to conceive in the Spring, but i want to try and drop ANY weight at this point.

I had a physical in the fall and was deemed very healthy aside from my weight. I have Endometriosis and ovarian cysts, but am being monitored by my GYN. He doesn't believe my conditions should interfere with conception.

I've just started the Whole30 program and am hoping a lifestyle change will be what finally helps me drop the weight.

I just wanted to say I was not a lightweight when I conceived both of my kids (around 180 or so). Sure, I was slightly uncomfortable, but it wasn't so bad. Maybe put less stress on the weightloss.....there will be lots of time afterwards for that!