Breanna, I have been there/done that more times than I care to count. When I was younger, I'd "try" diet after diet. Some would work well, some didn't. A few times I lost large amounts of weight, sometimes none. The key when they actually worked was my attitude and having that motivation "switch" turn on for me. Always, (until now) I ended up losing interest and the motivation would fade and I'd go back to my old ways and the weight would come back on effortlessly. Usually it wasn't some deep rooted emotional problem, or some internal drama, but more than anything, I didn't want to work at it anymore. For me, it was mostly pure laziness. It was eaiser to eat junk than to plan healthy meals, and slice and dice and so on.
When I'd "try" diets and they didn't work for me it was not because the diet didn't work, but because I was not really committed to do it. Sure I WANTED to lose weight, but I didn't want it badly enough to stick it out. These situations were when I didn't have that wonderful motivation switch turn on for me and I was just going through the motions because I knew I needed to lose, but I had no desire to really work at it.
This time around the motivation switch turned on, and to keep it on, I made some pretty hefty commitment promises to myself. I wish I knew the science into turning on that magic motivation switch, I'd be a millionaire if I held that secret. Anyway, I came to a point in my life where I was SICK AND TIRED of whining and complaining about being fat. I was tired of being fat and I was tired of blaming diets and other people. My family and friends were tired of listening to me announce I was "going to start" a new diet. EVERYONE including myself was tried of hearing about my weight-woes. To lose the weight it was going to be up to ME and only me. I had to chose a healthy way of eating and commit to sticking with it FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE. I could call it whatever I wanted, a "lifestyle change" a "journey" or any other flowery name, but the real truth is that a diet is still a diet by any other name. No matter what people say, losing weight is HARD. No matter what program or method you WORK, (not "try"... but WORK!) it's going to get hard. Some times I cried, I threw temper tantrums, I felt sorry for myself, I hated everyone who ate/drank/smoked in front of me. BUT I kept going. I just FORCED myself to keep going. Any reasonable diet plan will work, none will be easy, and all will suck at least for awhile, but the payoff is priceless.
You can do this, you just have to WANT it more than you want to want it.
