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Originally Posted by ncuneo
This is going to sound harsh and uneducated, but I find all these "studies" as just an excuse for people to throw hands up and say oh it's too hard to maintain, I'll just give up.
I think this is one of the biggest myths in weight loss. It implies that overweight people are all too lazy, crazy, or stupid to use information appropriately. We can't be trusted to use our brains, because we're all looking for excuses and ways to stay fat.
I don't think excuses find people. I think people find excuses only if they're looking for them (and if there isn't one handy, they make one up - they don't need science to hand them the excuses).
And even the people who are looking for excuses, aren't doing so out of laziness, craziness or stupidity, but out of desperation. They've failed so many times, and only gotten fatter for their efforts that they're terrified of trying again, because it's always meant gaining more than was lost. They know that quitting makes more sense than dieting the way they've been taught to, because what they learned has only made them fatter, and when given the choice between quitting the diets and staying fat or continuing the diets and continue getting fatter, staying fat seems the best choice.
My personal experience has been the exact opposite of the "excuse theory."
Until I realized that I was not fat because I was making excuses, I was fat because what I was taught wasn't working. My problem wasn't laziness, craziness, or stupidity - it was a lack of the right knowledge.
All my life, I've been told "weight loss is easy, you just have to stop making excuses and DO it."
And I believed that crap, swallowing it hook, line and sinker.
Until I started reading all the research that so many people believe "just gives people excuses." And I realized for the first time that my suspicions had been correct, I wasn't lazy, crazy, or stupid. There were legitimate reasons that I found weight loss more difficult. It didn't make me lazy, crazy, stupid, or "bad," the cards really were stacked against me. It didn't give me an excuse to give up, it gave me the inspiration and motivation to work even harder (and not just harder, but smarter).
The traditional view of dieting didn't work for me, because I wasn't working WITH the science, I was working against it (working against my body). I thought I could MAKE it about willpower. When I realized my problem wasn't willpower, I started looking for the real problem and how to resolve it.
I'm still finding answers (not excuses), but I wish I (and more importantly, my doctors) had this information when I was 12, rather than at 45.
The hardest for me was accepting the research that supported carb restriction, as I'd always believed that low-carb diets were unhealthy, unsustainable and even dangerous. When my doctor recommended low-carb, I was skeptical, specially since he warned not to go too low, but couldn't tell me what was too low. It felt like the blind leading the blind (especially when he often told me that if I find something that works well to let him know, so he could pass on the information and try it himself - even though he's only a little overweight).
"The End of Overeating" is a book often accused of "giving excuses," but for me it inspired an epiphany. It gave not only a plausible explanation for the demon I had always fought, it gave practical insight on how to fight the demon. Could weight loss really be as simple as learning to avoid the "addictive" flavor combination of fat/sweet/salty?
Of course not, but it gave me another tool in my arsenal.
And that's what the research really does. It just provides a tool. A tool that has power. People can use the tool for excuse building, but they can also use it as a tool for weight loss.
I think most people are smart enough to use the tools appropriately, especially if they have the opportunity to see other people doing so. But that's another serious problem with current weight loss culture. Obesity and even dieting are often considered taboo subjects that are inappropriate to discuss or demonstrate openly. It makes it very difficult for people to use the tools available, when they're not given many opportunities to see the tools put to use.
I don't think "excuses" are the biggest obstacle to weight loss. I think the biggest obstacle is the cult of silence - the fact that obesity is such a taboo subject that it so often can't be discussed openly and honesty (to the point that we're often supposed to pretend we don't see it in ourselves and others, and definitely aren't supposed to talk about it in polite conversation).