Doesn't sound shallow to me, just sounds like your being real about how you feel.
I am in the same boat, wanting to look good for my boyfriend. Like you, he says I'm so hot and he loves my body and blah blah, but I want to believe what he says you know?
He bought me something sexy from Victoria's Secret but instead of being excited, I've been scared to death it wont fit!!

He says he loves every bit of me espiecially my booty!!!! But I also catch him saying things like... you seam so confident or wow that looks hot... ibthink he loves me at any weight. But he want me happy and I am not happy at 220. I have had a few days were I can't say no... maninly around my tom!!!! But I don't let it discoutage me I just keep going...
I have been trying to force myself to love running....... but I HATE it. Sobi am bike riding to get my mind off running for a while. But I still want to learn to run.. I have never ran a whole mile in my whole life.. but I know I willl..

Sounds like your man really likes em thickk! Your weight is probably distributed nicely and evenly throughout your body, making you look thick, and not big, you know what I mean?
That's how I'd RATHER be
And running is soo stress relieving and relaxing, not gonna lie, I love running. Hope you get into it!

Fitness.

I know that may fall under "health", but it's very specific for me. I want to be more athletic. Maybe I won't ever run a marathon. Maybe I'll never end up in the Olympics, but activities were always a scary thing for me, because I was so big and figured I just couldn't do any of that stuff.

So walking... walking longer... jogging in intervals...running... starting to do body weight strength training...

Fitness, and being able to DO things that I normally shied away from is my goal. Who knows? Maybe one day I'll be brave enough to join some sort of group activity like a fitness class or karate!

I never even considered getting into sports or any athleticism, but that would be awesome if I could go out and play basketball with my guy friends.
I admire your reason.

For me it is to be happy with who I am. I feel lost; like the person in the mirror isn't the right reflection ya know? Plus many many health reasons. Diabetes, heart problems, high blood pressure all run in the family. I'm also under threat of going blind due to my weight.

Oh that is one of mine too! To be able to run with joy and almost effortlessly!


Do it now! Seriously! I don't think you should wait for the "perfect" time. The time is now Perfect or not. I really enjoy my classes (aerobics and yoga) and I am developing so much confidence from them. Confidence comes from doing not how we look when doing it. Seriously

I have a lot of reasons and they all feel equally important. For my kids, for my own self esteem, for my health, for my vanity... I don't feel like I'm really living my own life or that I ever really have. I've hated myself since I was a kid and as I got older my weight was a reflection on that. It also contributed to it. I'm looking forward to feeling graceful. Maybe not ballerina graceful, but anything would be an improvement.

Yea, i think all of us have more than one main reason. And yeah, I'm with you there. I'm just SO tired of my weight holding me back.

Number 1 reason? I've realized how much fun it is to LIVE MY LIFE!

I seriously never did before. I was shy, overweight and never thought I could do anything. I tried a new class at the gym tonight and I just kept thinking 'I love this! I love that I can do this!' Moments like this remind me exactly why I've worked so hard and why I will continue to work. I love adventure- I've seen some amazing things and been some amazing places and I would have NEVER considered going when I was heavier. As I've lost weight, I can't help but feel like the whole world is opening up to me. Or maybe it's me opening up to the world.

And to think this is only the beginning!

My main reason is to be able to keep up with my active 7 year old son, and longer term, to be here for him, and maybe those grandkids some day. I had gestational diabetes when I was pregnant, so that's a risk factor for getting it for real, plus there is a family history (parent and grandparent had it) and I want to do what is in my power to prevent that.

But I also want to feel and look better for myself and feel good about putting on clothing that is cute and flattering and not just what fits on my body.

Oh I feel you on this one! Fitness goals always keep me going, even when the weight loss stalled. Doing things... anything... it's just the best !

Lot's of reasons that all seem like they're number one reason's...
I'm only 23 and I have high blood pressure.
I'm in nursing school and I realized I will make a pretty crappy nurse if I don't lose some weight because my feet hurt so much after just a few hrs standing in the hospital.
I miss the confidence I used to have, I miss feeling beautiful, I miss the joy I used to get when I shopped for clothes.
And maybe most of all I think I miss my husband bragging about me. He used to show my picture to everyone he met at work or school... now I can't even remember the last time he tried to take a picture of me. He loves me very much but I've just noticed these little things that have changed and it bothers me so much :/

I was starting to get achy in the mornings...taking way too much Ibuprofen..three of my siblings were diagnosed with illnesses..serious ones...and yeah, I did want to look better too...

superficially, there was a small group of women that were always *****es to me..no matter what I always remained a lady...well, it sure felt good when I got close to goal to see them in passing and to catch them looking at me. Hehe..THERE I said it.

Maybe it's because you guys have been together so long. You can't expect him to show people your pics foreverrr