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Originally Posted by elisaannh
My husband and I also think very differently about food and eating. He will restrict his intake but allow lots of treats and still obsesses about food he wants to eat. He does NOT want to make the necessary changes to lose all of his excess weight and stay there. For him, the answer is in exercise, and firmly believes he can get thin and maintain his weight through running. He has not run in 7 years.
I believe in a strict diet and learning what I need to know to take the weight off and keep it off. I am willing to to accept the changes I must do. I do not obsess over what I can or cannot eat and I do not think that things will somehow fall into place when I am at goal. I will have to restrict and monitor my eating for the rest of my life. While we will become more physically active in the future, we are aging and that activity level will be geared towards our age and abilities.
He still thinks he can still attain what he was when young. I seek to find peace with the realities of aging and massive weight loss. It just isn't going to bring me youth and a gorgeous body. So we differ like night and day on all these issues.
I liked your husband's concept though. I have actually used this idea in my own changes, realizing that I can enjoy the smell or look of food without having to having to consume it each and every time I see it.
When I am invited to people's houses for a meal, I often compliment the hostess or cook on how lovely a food item they made is, how much work must have gone into making it and often there is no dismay in my not eating it if it does not fit into my plan. Appreciation can be enjoyed in any case.
I had to check and make sure I didn't write this! lol, oh my husband keeps saying he wants to lose weight, but doesn't want to take any of the steps to do so.
I think I am going to use it with all the Holiday parties coming up 
