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  •   #16  
    Eliana's AvatarEliana , 11-03-2010 07:48 PM
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    Originally Posted by xty
    - touch, any kind. I isolate myself when stressed. Women need another hormone called oxytocin and we produce it most when we do things focused around touching, loving, giving, helping, sharing, caring. Sounds totally not feminist, but its science and its true
    Sometimes a post just touches someone, ya know? (No pun intended, seriously.) I tend to isolate myself too, but on the rare occasion that I do let my husband hug me warmly and deeply, it just feels so freeing. I'm not sure why I resist it so much.

    I need a hug.
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    Eliana's AvatarEliana , 11-03-2010 07:50 PM
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    Originally Posted by Gale02
    So, what you're saying is that with a two year old and a newborn I'm pretty much screwed.
    Mmm, just smell that newborn's head. It's as good as meditation!
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    xty's Avatarxty , 11-03-2010 10:46 PM
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    Originally Posted by Eliana
    Sometimes a post just touches someone, ya know? (No pun intended, seriously.) I tend to isolate myself too, but on the rare occasion that I do let my husband hug me warmly and deeply, it just feels so freeing. I'm not sure why I resist it so much.

    I need a hug.

    Awww, *hugs*!

    I learned a great deal about the physical connection to my happiness and stress from the book below. To be honest, I always considered John Gray's work popsci stuff with no real value until I met him in person in a private setting. His newer book goes into the science of how men and women deal with stress on a biochemical level SO different and how to treat yourself and your partner differently in simple ways to meet each others needs. It is an easy ready and I highly suggest you pick it up (or just go to Borders and read it there in 45mins! hehe)

    http://www.amazon.com/Mars-Venus-Col.../dp/0061242977
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    Gale02's AvatarGale02 , 11-04-2010 02:02 PM
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    Originally Posted by Eliana
    Mmm, just smell that newborn's head. It's as good as meditation!
    Agreed! They do have a very special smell, I just love it. It can calm me so quickly.
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    Beverlyjoy's AvatarBeverlyjoy , 11-04-2010 02:10 PM
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    Originally Posted by xty
    In addition the suggestions in the book, here are some I have found very helpful:
    - meditation (there are many kinds, not just the think of nothing kind...and dont do it when you are stressed, try when you are calm...integrating 3 mins of meditation to my morning really, really helped)
    hypnotherapy (really this was guided meditation and visualization, it helped me work thru many issues)
    - touch, any kind. I isolate myself when stressed. Women need another hormone called oxytocin and we produce it most when we do things focused around touching, loving, giving, helping, sharing, caring. Sounds totally not feminist, but its science and its true
    Yes...meditation is very helpful. I have been feeling overwhelming stress of late and I 'made' myself meditate for 30 minutes. I listened to a relaxation cd. It was very helpful. I used to meditate every day. Today proves that I need to go back to it.

    I also agree hardily with touch of all kinds like mentioned above.

    Great post. Thanks!
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    Charms's AvatarCharms , 11-04-2010 07:29 PM
    Ten years ago I lost over 150 pounds and was doing great with maintaining for 5 years. Then my son joined the army and served 2 tours in Iraq. My youngest son was committed to a mental hospital during this time. And the company I was working for went bust. NOT a happy time in my life.

    My body could not handle all the cortisol I was producing (over 3x the usual) and I developed Cushings Syndrome. Let's just say they don't call it the Obesity Disease for nothing. Add some additional fun with GI issues that required abdominal surgery to fix and "whoooosh" I regained a ton of weight.

    I'm working my way to healthy again with a much greater appreciatation for my mental health as well. Plenty of good foods and exercse, yes. But also lots of sleep and taking care of me time.

    Don't let your stress take over your body. It's not pretty.
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    goal4agirl's Avatargoal4agirl , 11-05-2010 12:00 AM
    Thank you all for the information! I learned a lot from this thread and all the good advice you gave.
    I am going to find more ways to relax. The scale finally did move again so I was very happy today. I have been in a stall for a few weeks. I will be happy to make it to onederland I have not seen that for over 15 years.
    Charms- I did want to say Bless your heart! I wish you the greatest success with your weight loss. You deserve some peaceful happiness in your life.
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