It's been a while since I updated on this topic so I appreciate all of your replies! Yes, my husband could stand to lose some weight himself so he does need to learn about portion control and snacking. He's been cutting back the non-stop happy hours with his friends and that's helped a lot. But I'm still at a loss as to what is a good portion for him versus a portion for me. We're learning slowly. We cooked for Thanksgiving and he kept sneaking extra butter into every dish "because it's the holidays." Well the holidays are gone and we are stuck with the butter-ful leftovers sabotaging our diet efforts. Now he learned that maybe so much butter wasn't necessary since the dishes were tasty to begin with.
I don't mind if he makes me feel guilty for eating more because I have a hard time controlling myself sometimes. I've asked him to remind me and help me keep my portions and workouts in line. I've spent years dieting and sabotaging alone so I like that I have a buddy now. I need all the motivation I can get.

