We all have felt at one time or another, out of the loop. We all have had issues or posts that have gone ignored. Each of us here have. Did it hurt? Of course it did. I have received many e-mails regarding this issue. And afer we all talk about it..we realize, yes, this is a wonderful place for support, inspiration and encouragement. BUT the internet will never ever ever replace the support we need in our real lives. We all have made many friends, and we all have supported eachother. This is no place like no other. But maybe some of us (myself included) try to replace outside support with the support group here. Maybe that didn't come out right..but I hope some understood.
BA..I will say it again, I am sad to hear that you felt the way you did. And maybe am missing something. But I really didn't see, nor see now how you weren't being supported or encouraged. No, they didn't send out the dogs for you when you went MIA. You have gone MIA for a week here or there, for vacation or work or being ill..and then you pop back in for awhile and then leave for a bit again. Maybe we all just assumed you were okay. Whatever the reason was..doesn't matter. Honestly, I just don't see how you felt you weren't being supported. We all could name a post or thread that we didn't feel "got enough attention". But that's how life is. When something needs "special attention"..no one here hesitates to start their own thread, instead of sticking it in the dailies, only to be overlooked or lost. Maybe you should have done that. You know you have been a huge part of this group, ever since you came here in February. You know that everyone appreciates all the time you have dedicated to them and the site. You know that we all care. So...when you felt the way you did, you should have spoken up. No one tried to make you feel bad with these posts, but I have to admit, I agree.
You are not a terrible person because you tested out you're "theory" on us, as if we were a bunch a strangers and not you're friends. I just feel, in my OPINION...you went about it wrong.
Let's not let this turn into some huge saga. You felt hurt, you tested out you're theory and whatever that was, looks like you proved yourself right, or at least you think you did. I just don't think you're looking at this clearly. Perhaps, something is going on? You have had alot of stress in you're life for awhile now.
On behalf of the group, we would all be sad to see you go. We would also be sad if you're not receiving the support you need or want. Wishing you the best..
okay so maybe this whole thing is getting completely blown out of proportion by everyone.
So I say, lets let it go. Just forget about it. I'm sorry I even brought it up.
Jen , 10-09-2002 09:22 AM
BA I don't think that letting it go is the right thing either.
I really do believe that people were thinking of you but as Jenniffer has said you've been off for vacation, illness, or just being plain busy at work and not posted for a week or 2. Personally I thought maybe you were still sick as it seemed you were pretty ill from one of the previous posts I read.
I know that you have contributed HUGELY to this board. I think we were getting pretty stagnant and when you came along you really rev'ved the place up. I have to believe this was helping you as well as the rest of us.
There have been plenty of times I felt like no one would miss me either. Heck I think there are only 2 or 3 of us that have been with this group practically since the beginning so when I don't get replies to things I have posted, yeah I get a little po'd. I try to post regularly and then when I don't get noticed, well it hurts. But like everything else in this world you have to put it all into context. These people are spread across North America and have their own busy lives. Now that I'm back to work, working 12 hour shift, I only have about half the time I did before to go online. Also right now I am working on 2 distance education courses. Add a house, a husband and a baby to that mix and you're looking at someone who doens't get on the computer much anymore.
Believe me though that we will support you as much as we can.
I'm sorry if some of the other comments were hurtful to you. I think we all feel pretty close and when that happens and there is a dispute then some people say things that maybe they wouldn't say if they weren't upset. I'm sure this is the case here.
Anyway I hope that you will continue to post here, I'm sure that we will all get back together the same way we were before.
Beth Anne, I will tell you that your support has been greatly appreciated by me, and I am sure by many others. I am very sorry that I could not show you the same kind of support and encouragement that you have given me and others. And in all honesty, I am kind of hurt. I have tried to be as supportive for you that you have been for me. Beth Anne, I just think that I don't know what to say sometimes. I wish that I could go back, if that would make things better for you. I think that without your input this site is lacking a piece of the puzzle. I wish you the best in whatever you decide to do.
