Garstar sorry that you are feeling this way! Some friends will let us down..I suppose that is life. Make the best of the evening with whoever comes.

I have been feeling really down lately and sad about my friendships as well. I hate thinking that my bf is probably NOT my bf anymore and is letting me down. My bf and another friend of hers and myself..all go to Zumba in a nearby community. I live closest to bf but she goes with her other friend ( who lives near the other community and has to back track to get bf). I have even suggested carpooling..or picking up bf and meeting at her friends house and they've never offered. A few weeks ago, bf asked if she could go with me and I said fine...night before the class she said (online) "hey see you there" so I called and she said " No I am going with 'K'" now"...Thanks for letting me know! I said to her " well its nice to know I am available when its convenient for you". I am just tired of feeling like I am 2nd best or only good enough when she needs a ride somewhere. There have been a few incidents like this and I am trying to not to come off sounding jealous. I just feel like I am really not good enough for them. Also for the first time ever, we didn't spend New Year's Eve together this year. I called her a few times throughout the week and no answer. She calls me 5pm on New Year's Eve to say her and another friend were going to a club..I could go if i want...and casually mentioned that they already picked up there tickets. I was not going to go to a club and maybe not get in and I was a little put out that I wasn't called earlier in the day when they got tickets to see if I EVEN wanted to go.

Sorry..didn't mean to turn this into a rant. I have just come to the realization that I am going to spend more time with people who make an effort with friendships and who really do seem to care. I am tired of feeling 'down' and sad and no one needs friends who 'back out' of everything or have you around for convenience.

I think Calisa hit the nail on the head. What a wise group of women we have here. I wish we could all teleport and hang out sometimes. HAHAH

With that being said.... I know it sucks and it is lonely sometimes, but the best advice I can give you is to focus on yourself. Being from NC originally, I moved to Atlanta and lived there for a few years, moved back to NC and virtually had no one here. One of my dearest BFFs was here and we still hang out (and work together), my brother is here (whom I love dearly, but he lives 45 minutes away) but I really don't have a "CREW" like I did in Georgia.

I miss my friend DEARLY... sometimes I have really bad nights where I'm just downright depressed, but I took the first year I was back to really FOCUS on myself. That was one of the best things I could've done for myself.

Okay I'm done rambling. Point is.... like Calisa said, you've weeded people out. Quality is ALWAYS better than quantity. I would rather have one dear and true friend than a dozen. Focus on you and check out something like meetup.org. They have a LOT of very cool things listed. They also have some weird things listed, but you may see something you're interested in and be able to socialize there and make some NEW, better friends.

Either way, chin up doll and we're always here!!!!

I just read your thread -- I'm a couple of days late, AND from Minnesota! Darn!

Anyway, I hope you all had fun anyway -- where in MN are you from? Honestly, I feel like a lot of people lately have been flakey, and I guess maybe even myself. Just haven't had a lot of time or energy. Can I blame all this horrible cold?!?!

For real though, if you ever want to chat or even hang out and meet up for coffee or something, I'm totally game for it! I love meeting new people and making new friends -- especially those who have some of the same goals and interests as me. Let me know, k?