You are NOT a failure. A failure is someone who falls and doesn't get back up. Look at you! You recognized the issue, went to the doctor, and are already making huge strides by eating healthy and walking. I'm doing the slow and steady thing too - so we can do this together and take it one pound at a time!

Please try not to be so hard on yourself! We're all here for you and rooting for you!

Thank you all so much. I feel better already. My husband , we will have been married 34 years at the begining of December, told me that I would get help on here when we were looking for a good forum.
He's a smashing man. We lost 3 babies at the begining of our marriage and then had a beautiful baby girl, who looked like a little angel. She is still beautiful at age 30 but sadly so deeply autistic & epileptic she will never be able to live a so called normal life. We adore her to bits.
Its 8.45 am here in the UK and I must go and have my cereal and fruit for breakfast. I'm not a breakfast eater normally but have to say I feel better with having it this week.
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Aw good! Breakfast always gets me goin too...
I'm sorry to hear about the 3 children you lost . I can't imagine how hard that must be. Your daughter sounds like a blessing & you seem like you must be a wonderful mom!
So glad you're feeling better!!

You are all such lovely people.
I've just got in from walking the dog (daft labrador)
It is so nice doing this diet with my doctor and a dietician. They are so different to what I expected, have given me nothing but encouragement and support. And with a goal of 2-3 lbs a week and telling me to throw my scales away! I feel the pressure is off. They've even told me not to be discouraged if I only lose a pound this first week because, eating badly last week means the weight will still keep going on up to about yesterday. So to look on next week as the start

Welcome to 3fc's Dinky! Please don't ever think of yourself as a failure. I was shorter than you and heavier when I started to lose weight and if I can do this anyone can. I was morbidly obese for twenty years, but have struggled with weight my whole life.

Stick around and post often so we can support you! I wish you all the best.

Hi Dinky,

You are so not a failure! Just because the diets you've tried have failed doesn't mean you failed. There are so many "diets" out there, it's hard to decide which one you can follow.

I'm over 50 too, and post on the 50+ site. Great bunch of people, and so much support. Come on over and join us. I post there because I have more in common with someone who is closer to my age. Face it, we just don't lose as quickly as someone younger. Doesn't me we can't lose, just a little slower.

Come on over and check us out.

You're in good company, honey - we're all in your boat! We can do this, if we stick together.

Oh girls you are such an inspiration! There's folk on here exactly the same as me! I can't believe it. I've felt so alone for such a long time, and that there was no hope for me, I would just have to settle for fat. The stories on here are inspirational, really. I'll certainly try the over 50's forum slimme. Leeway you would give anyone confidence
I don't know if this is wishful thinking, because I'm not hoping to start a 2lb loss until next week, but my knees haven't been so creaky for the last couple of days.
My mum has demenia and I try to go and see her as often as I can, she's in a wonderful care home but I still feel guilty about it. She lived with us for as long as we could hold on to her, but our daughter started to feel frightened of her weird behaviour. Anyway! when I got out of the car in the carpark of the home (its only a couple of miles from our house) I didn't have any pain in my knees at all!

Hi Dinkey,

I'll look for you over on the +50 Golden Girls site. You are not alone, and there is help.

Getting out of the car and your knees not hurting is a none-scale-victory. You'll start getting a lot of them, the longer you stay on your diet.

Sorry to hear that your mom has dementia. Horrible disease. My mom is getting symptoms too.

Just checking in - I'm happy to hear you are doing well. That's good news about your knees - small changes can lead to noticeable results!
I can relate to your experience with your mother - I took care of mine for almost 20 years (11 of them, she was completely bedridden) - there are so many mixed emotions - unless someone has gone through it, it's hard to understand.

Keep reading the goal and mini goal stories - they are what help keep me on track - I'm glad you were inspired by them as well.
Take care - hope you and your family have a nice weekend!

Hi Dinky, I rejoined sw last week and one of the members recommended this forum. I'm nearly 46 and have lost and regained more times than I care to mention.

My starting weight is 258.5lbs. I'm going to take one step at a time.

Wish I'd found this forum sooner - everyone is so friendly and there is loads of helpful advice.

Good luck on your journey.

Hello veggie patch. We are roughly the same weight. I'm 59. I can't tell you how this forum has helped me. They are fantastic people. It doesn't matter what diet you are on, you get support and not preached at. I'm going across not to start a little thread on the 50+ one. Keep in touch