Yep! When my hubby switched from reg.coke to diet pepsi he lost 26lbs in the 1st 2 mths. He's now down 45lbs!

I believe the OP's husband drinks diet soda, so the calories wouldn't be an issue.

Jay

I agree with some of the post's. You have to let him make his own choices... EVENTUALLY he will have the "ah-ha" moment, like we have.
Until that, he's going to eat or drink whatever he wants probably.
Put all your energy into your weightloss. Maybe once he see's how great your doing he will change his ways.

Sorry for the delayed response - I don't get on the computer much after work.

Thanks for all your advice! I think I already knew that the best course of action is to just continue focusing on me and being a healthy influence. I will continue to keep my mouth shut and hopefully he will come to the point where he is serious about making a change.

I suppose sometimes you just need to hear what you already know from other people.

Michelle-

My husband and I have been together for almost 11 years. When we met, he smoked a pack a day, and had an extreme Mountain Dew addiction. His daily food intake was normally pizza of some sort, and Fruity Pebbles. I kid you not.


It most likely isn't going to happen in the next week, or the next month, or even the next year-as far as a FULL turn around in his habits. It happens very slowly.

10 years later my husband has a gym membership, lifts weights and runs 5K races, no longer smokes...and his 6 a day Mountain Dew habit is now 1 Coke a day...MUCH better. He still loves his pizza and bacon, but he eats mangoes and drinks acai juice, and other things now that he wouldn't have touched before.

It wasn't an "ah-ha" moment with my husband. It happened very slowly over a decade...and he still isn't perfect, but he doesn't NEED to eat perfect all of the time now, to maintain a good weight/body.

Thanks, Aphil. I think my husband may be more like yours. He also smoked when we first met (12 years ago) but eventually quit that and has dropped or changed some of his unhealthier habits (went from regular soda to diet).

Time will tell. We have a long life ahead of us still.

I tend to think it's a really beautiful thing, the influence that women can have on husbands, if we are calm and consistent and mostly quiet about issues. Many of us share the experience of just "leading by example" with them, and having it turn out very powerfully.

So cool.

(Funny thing is, I also think that if the situation were turned around, most women aren't that great at being led by example Too stubborn!)

I have to agree with what has been said thus far. He won't change until he's ready to do it for himself. I took me the past several years to start taking care of myself again and my hubby also needs to focus on his health. I can't force him to do anything. All I can do it to lead by example and hope that one of these he will join me on this journey to good health. He's definatetly starting to take notice that my energy level is increasing, my moods are better.... He has actually started asking questions about foods, calories... baby steps.

Good luck to you! Congrats on your loss!

I completely understand. My husband is the exact same way. The two things that are making it worse for him is that fact that he has type 1 diabetes and he has a really bad family history of heart problems. His father has had 4 heart attacks and he had 2 uncles die in their 30s of heart attacks. He is now 32 and it worries me everyday. I don't know what I can do. Really there is nothing I can do, but continue making healthy dinners and not buy any junk or diet sodas for the house. He does stop several times a day and buy the junk.

Ask him to get at least a million dollar life insurance policy if he wants to stay on the road he is on.

I noticed one person was saying to use the money you save eating healthier as motivation, but my food bill has doubled since I started this, I go out to eat usually only once a week instead of the 4-5 times like I use to and I buy all healthy foods and the grocery bill is OUTRAGEOUS.

Hi, Michelle, we might be married to the same man! Mine doesn't drink much soda but he's not the least bit interested in eating healthy foods. I've gone as far as replacing his half and half with fat-free (in his old container) and his mayo with low-fat (in his old container) and he never can tell the difference! Once I bought turkey pepperoni to replace his other one but he saw the container before I could do it. Darn! Anyway, I don't think there's much I can do to change his mind. I work on being healthy all the time (sometimes I'm successful and sometimes I'm not) but I feel like we owe it to each other to be as healthy as we can control. I just keep hoping he'll wake up one day and show an interest.

As for the soda, this page really had an impact on me. You might want to ask him to read it and see if it helps. I haven't given them up yet, but I cut way back and keep planning to give them up...http://www.easy-weightloss-tips.com/...weeteners.html Good luck!

He might not know that hamburger or chicken fried steak has as many calories as it does. When it comes to eating out, I'd take another poster's advise and say no because you "dont want to get off your diet." But when he's really insistant, go to the restaurant's website, pull up the menu so you can "see what you're able to eat" and when you come across his favorie dish, let him know the calorie count. In a friendly way. Maybe make it a game; "I'll bet you it's 800 calories!" "No way, it's only 600!" *page downloads* "Oh my goodness! 1500!!"
He prolly sees that burger and thinks to himself; "meat, tomato, lettuce, bread... doing good!"
Maybe he's just illinformed.