To be honest... I would go with my new motto... "let it go". You can only be concerned with yourself... You are doing a fantastic job...keep up the good work!! We, as good souls, want to save the world...especially our family but in the end we have to let them decide at their own time... The SIL is probably just having a hard time wrapping her mind around getting started on a diet and doesn't want to see your brother succeed.

Your SIL might not have time to cope with meal-planning, dieting right now....she (and your brother) have a NEWBORN in the house, disrupting their sleep, taking responsibility, and she probably still feels not quite herself after only a couple of weeks.

Give your brother the info. and then just sit back and take care of yourself, your results will speak for themselves! congrats.

Thanks guys! Many wise words here. I guess I have some serious issues with lack of forgiveness and understanding. I know that they have a newborn, and I was in that same boat a couple years back so I do understand. It's a little frustrating because I find myself saying over and over again, "This is a special time in your life. Let's talk about this later, after you have the baby. Or let's talk about this when the baby is older, and you guys are getting regular sleep." And there are some really outrageous things that are being said to me, so I have to keep giving them the "baby pass". But that's ok. I think maybe it's time to accept that things are not going to get any better. I can't make them like me. In fact, I think I gave up a long time ago and just resort to basic politeness and a remnant of decency when dealing with them. I just don't want our kids to be affected. I have literally told them, "Let's try to be more sensitive to each other and speak only positive things so that our kids will have the best opportunity to love each other and love their Uncle and Aunt. That's what I am thinking about now. I feel like I'm wasting my breath. But I told them there is no sense in upsetting each other intentionally because our kids will pick up on that and it will affect how they feel about family. We need to stop being jerks and let the kids have a chance to enjoy their family. I'm really really hoping that this will happen.

But yeah, this weight issue is the latest in a string of irritating situations. Control is the word of the day! Big time! I am allergic to controlling people. I'm meditating these days on whether I am controlling. If I am, I'd going to kick my own butt and make myself change that. Because it's nasty and ugly. Hate it!!!