It's not about motivation, unfortunately. It's about commitment.

I've said this in other threads, but for me, everything was easier once I realized that this is not something that I have to be rah-rah about all the time. It's just something that I have to *do*. It's one of those adult responsibilities like getting up in the morning and going to work, or paying the bills, or doing laundry.

You don't do it because you're motivated or you want to or it's fun. You do it because it's part of what you do when you become a responsible adult.

And truthfully, once I started looking at it that way, it made a huge difference in my ability to stick to plan and to go exercise and all those other things. Cause its not about me or my willpower any more. It just *is*.

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There are many, many times when that 'other voice' in my head whispers at me 'nah, don't exercise today. You need a break, you've been working hard, one day skipping won't hurt' or the other voice that says 'nah, you can go ahead and eat that snickers. You 've been working hard and doing great, one candy bar won't hurt. Go ahead, eat'.



That is soooo what happens....I will be like I can just eat this its just a little bit and then I will eat it and then comes in the well HEY you screwed up your day it doesnt matter what you have ate now go ahead and eat what you want now you screw up!!! thought I was the only one that fights with myself!!!

Maybe once he sees you making positive changes and that you are taking care of yourself, he'll come around. I do WW and there was a woman in my meeting who was telling us at the beginning of her weight loss journey, her husband was not supportive at all even tried to sabatage (sp)? her. But once the weight started coming off, he came around and he came to the meeting when she had lost over 100 lbs.

So hang in there and things will change.

I do WW and love the support. Hopefully you can find meetings near you, even if you can only go 1 time a month.
As for motivation, I took a picture of me at my fattest weight and stuck it on the fridge door...

i know how you feel. it happens to me too...alll the time. & it doesn't help that i don't have any support in losing weight from my family or friends. The best advice i can think of for you would be to keep the food out of sight. if you can't see it you don't need to think about it. That or try to keep active by doing something else to keep your mind off food.
i don't know if any of that helped. buut it usually works for me so i hope it helped you.

yes it does help to keep food out of site....if I keep it out of site and keep busy then I dont eat it...just when I get those munchies at night I go searching for something anything...and I hope my husband comes around!! ok thanks !!

Hey momof4 . . . I SO get like this too. It was worse when my kids where younger. I have three (17, 15, 11) and my middle child is special needs. Very, very tough kid, behavior problems and such. It was hard when he was littler (still hard but much better in many, many ways). Anyway, I always found myself getting them to bed , and I'd be exhausted and I'd end up plopping down and just diving into a bag of whatever. After my son (middle kid) was born, I gained 10 lbs by chowing down on bag after bag of sunchips. The crunchyness was a great stress reliever - - - and a great weight gaining tool!!

I know how overwelming being completley enmeshed in taking care of little kids can be. And while it will not always be like this (I once seriously considered buying stock in Fisher Price and Little Tykes I was so surrounded by little kidness - lol), its like this now and now is what you have to work around.

When the munchies strike at night here are some options that I use.

For salty/crunchy munchies:

hot air popped corn - I use some non-stick butter spray and sprinkle on some butter buds and salt. I get volume, fiber and low cals (about 200 for 4 tblspns unpopped kernels w/the stuff on it)
peeled baby carrots (already done - in the produce aisle) - I dip them in a tblspn or two of lite ranch dressing. LOTS of crunch and saltiness from the ranch dressing.
Quaker mini-rice cakes - I like the cheese flavored ones. I think a serving is 9 for 130 cals. I need to watch the portion but they do a good job for the crunchy/munchy part.
pretzel nuggets - 16 for 100 cals. I like to dip them in mustard and drink lots of water.
goldfish - 55 for 150 cals.
bagel chips - I forget the count but its a nice amount for the cals. I like the garlic ones.

For sweet munchies:

quaker rice cakes - caramel flavor. The big ones have 50 cals each. I'll have two and top them w/a little vanilla yogurt and maybe some fresh sliced strawberries or bananas. Sometimes sprinkle a little cinnamon sugar on top. Very sweet and crunchy and tasty!
hard candy - not so much when I want something sweet and crunchy but just something sweet. I like Werther's original (3 for 70 cals) and I'll drink a big glass of club soda while sucking on them.
ice cream - lol, don't get too excited. If I really want some I'll have a big tablespoon full and that's it. I'll eat it slowly (well, as slowly as one can eat a tblspn full of ice cream ) and it usually satisfies the urge for sweet. BUT, ice cream is not a trigger food for me; if it is for you do not try this at home!
oranges, bananas, apples - sometimes when I want something sweet, the craving isn't specific so I try to eat a navel orange or banana -- it works! Sweet craving is satisfied and I've kept cals way down.

I usually try to have 150-200 cals leftover at the end of the day because I frequently get these cravings. I like to think of them as 'buffer calories' Just in case!

Keep posting and letting us know how you're doing. Hey, excellent on the lb. lost! Keep up the good work -- you can and will do this!!!!!!!