I agree with Cheyenne, you are really pretty. And I think you can do this. You know what you want to be and who you want to be.
I think it took me about five years to really recover from my eating disorder. I did NOT have a natural relationship with food, and I resisted the urge to diet (and ended up gaining tons of weight) because I knew that if I started dieting I might go down that road again. And as I'm sure you can appreciate, I did not want to do that!
Hang in there. You might just have to give yourself time. Love yourself the way you are, and be patient with your body. If you treat it lovingly and respectfully, exercise it often, and feed it right (not too much, not too little, and with lots of good nutrients), then you will reach your goal.
*hugs* You can do it!

dont resort to the unhealthy ways. ya deserve better!