I know there are lots of moms here, and soon to be's, and TTC's. I need some female perspective from some of you who may have had to (or may soon have to) make this decision.....
When I had my daughter, Edie, she weighed 9 lb. 11 oz. at birth. Now, I know she's not like a world-record holder for being the biggest baby, or anything, but the Dr. who delivered her (NOT my regular OB/Gyn) told me that having another baby after the way she stretched by uterine wall could end up being deadly for both me and the baby.
When my regular Doc got to the hospital the next day, he told me that Doc who had delivered Edie was a bit over-reactive; that if I gave my body at least 3 years to heal before TTC again, both the baby and I SHOULD be fine (should). At that time, I was 34 years old, which would make me 37 @ TTC point.
Well, now I'm 35, will be 36 in January, and it's been two years. When I went in for my yearly exam, they had the "talk" with me--if you're my age, you know the "talk."--If you want to have a healthy baby and not take any chances blah, blah, blah......
I HAVE two healthy babies (thank God!), but I've always, deep-down, wanted a bigger family. Now I'm not so sure. I don't want to wait until I'm 37to TTC again, but I don't want to TTC NOW because I couldn't live with myself if I knowingly put one of my babies in danger, and, to me (no judgement calls meant here), the baby in my belly would be just as much loved & alive as the two I have on the ground. Plus, the Doc said MY life could be in jeopardy, as well, and I don't want to leave my babies with only their Pop & other family members to raise them--they're MINE MINE MINE
NOW--if you've gotten through all of that (1st of all BLESS YOU), here's the decision I'm facing: I feel like I need to get my tubes tied. I KNOW that there's always going to be a part of me that will want to carry a baby again. I also KNOW that I don't want to be 40-years-old and pregnant. BUT, there's this HUGE part of me that feels like if I get my tubes tied I'm giving up a major part of my life. I know that is an incredibly selfish statement to make, because there are many many women who would love to have babies, but who can't, for various reasons.
I guess I just need some feedback of some kind. You don't have to tell me if I'm right or if I'm wrong, just something to help me weigh the pros and cons of having/or not having another baby & the degree of permanancy of having a tubal. (If you feel compelled to tell me if I'm right or wrong or selfish or anything else, however, FEEL FREE!!--This ain't my first rodeo, and I know that asking for opinions and input generally garners opinions and input. I got my big girl panties on )