Dh got a Vasectomy last Wednesday. We still have to take precautions to not get pregnant till his doctor gives the go ahead that we're cleared. I know we're both done but I still have this weird sadness that it's over. I every now and then think that I'd like to have one more but then dealing with my 8 week old during the night makes me grateful that he's the last one. LOL
From what others have told me...this is normal. I guess I'll always wish I could have more even though I'm content with the ones we have already.
Dh has joked that we still have swimmers so we could try before they go away. LOL But even after joking about that we both shake our heads and say "No, I'm done." lol
my husband had the big snip about 8 years ago, we have three teenagers, two girls who'll be 18 in the next month or so and one 16 year old boy. Even now I catch myself feeling a little sad over it, but then I remember in the next ten years I'll probably have my first grandchild and let's be honest, grandkids are so much better. All the benefits, few of the headaches. Yes!!
And when it finally settles in that you and the dh can do what you want, where you want, when you want and not have to worry about pregnancy ...that's freedom baby and I wouldn't trade that now for the world.
Big hugs, Rachel!!! I know that must be really hard and confusing emotionally. So far, for me, a baby obsession has hit sometime between the age of 2-3 of my last baby. I really really hope I can get past it next time and feel done. My hubby will NOT be talked into another, I don't think. hehe! Damn those hormones!
boots , 09-18-2010 04:02 PM
I'm "done" for now, but I'm scared to make a permanent decision at this time. I think "What if I'm one of those people who decide to have kids again in my 40s?
But if I did do one of the "snips" I'd do the V on the man, because those are somewhat reversible :P
Right now I'm satisfied with the shot in the butt until I get out of school ^_^
Enjoy your baby now, and enjoy your ability to breath easy for the next ten years or so :P I think you can always re-analyze and change your mind again in the future if you so choose.
(hey, and theres always adoption, my parents had 6 and have now adopted 5 more, if you get the baby craze again there's lots of cute Chinese babies, African babies and even drug-brought-abandoned American babies that need mommies and daddies :P so don't look at this as a "sorta sad permanent" thing, but as a "stress reliever for the time being" thing ^_^)