I am so upset with people. I feel let down by society in general and non fat persons and especialy men.
Every guy i have been out with or whatever has always reverted back to the fact that i am big. I have had comments such as (and i'm sure we've all heard this one time and time again) 'your'e such a pretty girl, if only youd'e lose a bit of weight.....' and 'i really fancy you but make sure you don't put anymore weight on' and 'i just don't find women your size attractive'.
Then we have the question which i am compelled to ask 'if i was slim would you fancy me more?' (in this situation i am hoping for the answer to be....'of course not, i would feel exactly the same as i do now whatever size you were, it makes no difference') but instead comes 'i think i would be more attracted to you, yeah'.
I don't know if its just my bad luck but does every big girl have this problem? Why do men go out with us if we aren't what they want, only to hurt us by insensitive comments?
My boyfriend whom i thought was different and not shallow basicaly told me that he would be up for sex if i was slim (currently it seems to be non existent), i was so shocked and appaled by this that it upset me greatly and i feel even more self conscious than before. Although i was never self conscious around him i now feel 100% paranoid and feel i can't relax. I never had any problems being naked around him, now i feel that i don't even want to be touched.
Why does it always come down to size? I have had the piss ripped out of me and been treated badly in the past for being larger. Even as a size 14-16 I was laughed at, it seems I have to be a twig in order to fit in. I'm not ugly and stupid, i'm just a little large, that doesn't mean i have no feelings.
I am trying to lose weight and finding it to be a struggle, I have been trying for many years and have put on alot of weight in the process, i feel thouroghly depressed and dissapointed and have lost a bit of respect for my partner.
Has anyone else been through this? if so how did you handle it?