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Originally Posted by aphil
The first thought that comes to mind is noticing how the very overweight people seem to be taking this very, very personally:
"If they think that being 10 pounds overweight is fat...then what do they think of ME???!!!! How insensitive they are being to MY needs!"
Well, the person worried about their weight/size/gain is worried about THEMSELVES. They aren't thinking about everyone else's weight.
Photochick makes a good point. Why is it not sensitive to be worried about gaining 5 or 10 pounds...just because other people have gained and need to lose 40, 60, 100 or more? Should they not be concerned about their weight?
To me...that's like saying that no one should be concerned about themselves and their situation, until it is wildly out of control, and the situation is WORSE. Why not be worried when it is only a molehill...rather than waiting until you have a mountain to tackle?
Kind of goes to the old *being a human* thing - Most people find it nearly impossible to even understand, much less relate, to anything that is outside their realm of personal experience. Quite honestly (in my realm of personal experience
), 3FC is one of the few places I've seen this many people even try. So, if someone is heavier than they've ever been, they are going to imagine that they feel exactly the same as someone else who's at their heaviest - even if the first person is 100lbs lighter than the second. The other side of the coin is, like Julie said:
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Originally Posted by JulieJ08
I'd say a skinny person complaining about being fat can make me feel lucky - How awful to be thin but have no idea of the value of strength and nutrition. Much worse - How crazy awful to be thin and still think you're gross and disgusting. Seriously, I would choose to keep my present weight for a lifetime, and probably even my starting weight, before choosing to live my life at 120# and feeling disgusted with myself because I wasn't 115# and size 2.
How many of us would even come close to appreciating our current weights if we hadn't been even higher at some point? I know we are still all working towards even healtheir goals but golly, on the way up, I thought 150 was grossly enormous (well, except for this last time when I was in total denial and didn't weigh myself for years
) - from the new perspective of watching it go by on the way down, it's pretty darned exciting and at 150 I felt stronger and more confident (read: attractive) than I did at 120 many moons ago
It's so much a matter of personal perspective - wich is why the oh so wise queen chickies have divided the boards at 3FC so someone who has 100 or more lbs to work on doesn't have to be *annoyed* by the "featherweight" who has 10 or 15 lbs they want to get rid of.