Accepting Compliments
 

How funny, I LOVE to compliment others---I'll tell you all day long how I love your new haircut, your top, etc...But now that I'm losing the weight and everyone fusses all over ME (ME!) I get all weirded out, my voice changes and I do this strange "awwww" crazy noise thing or say, "oh STOP it" and I just can't smile and say "thank you". Will I just get better at it or what? I feel a little like I sell myself out if I don't just stand tall and say "Thank you, it has been a lot of hard work, but I feel so good now." Sometimes I just tell people thank you for saying something, because the comments keep me motivated to keep going. I'm getting better but I do still make the aforementioned noise. Sometimes I do this silly little shimmy shake and strike a model pose. Sometimes I actually PUT MYSELF DOWN and say, "well jeez, I still shop in plus sized stores, still have 70 pounds to go, I'm only halfway there", etc. etc. etc. WHY WHY WHY?! I am proud of myself dammit!

A huge landmark in my life happened this past weekend, a really good looking man HIT ON ME (ME!)! In my old life, I would have taken his interest for sarcasm or childish boys who used to pretend to like me as a joke. But he was really flirting with me---not considering doing anything about it, (we're both married and I kind of know his wife!) but all this emotion floods me, feeling new feelings, trying to let go of my insecurities. I barely even remember how to flirt back! How easy I must be, a little male attention just sends me LOL.

So how do you handle yourselves when others make such a big deal about how you look?

Well I sure as heck don't have any answers for you.

Whenever someone tells me how good I look with all of the weightloss, I just put myself down, "Oh, no I still have a looonnggg way to go" or "No, I won't be auditioning for America's Next Top Model anytime soon", My kids have noticed that I do this and they tell me why can't I just say thank you? I experienced some of the male attention this past weekend, and it was something I haven't had to deal with in a long, long time. So I just blushed, I felt my face go on fire - something you don't wanna do. I definitely need to work on that, don't ya think? But Michelle, I guess this should be the worst problem we ever have to deal with - dealing with compliments. Who woulda thunk it? :dunno:

I know what you mean! I still think of myself as the 240 lb. girl I used to be! I still FEEL unattractive... so when my DBF tells me I'm pretty, I still feel some doubts. I've had to make myself say "thank you" instead of "you've never seen me naked". lol I guess after years of self-doubt and dislike overall, it's hard to believe/accept the good things. However, it doesn't make the compliments any less true.