Haha sorry for sounding so angry in my reply.. I read it over and thought hmm I sound so bitter!! I am, a little I guess :D

But, point is.. don't let anyone's words stop you. You keep right on truckin!!

Cheers!! and smiles to everyone :dancer:

You just proved that you are so much of a better person inside and out than your mothers friend!
You are a great person with the best attitude that I have ever seen!
I am so glad that you posted this! Thank you!

You're very welcome Sli. And thank you too!! heheh.

Mine is similar! I laugh -- so I don't come across as rude as they are... and with a shocked "I can't believe you said that" expression, say "You're getting kind of personal, aren't you?"

It does make people think twice before they pop out with something like that again. Personally I don't want to be rude back so try to make it light-hearted.

The other day at work a co-worker (male) said "You have done a lot to improve your appaearance since you worked here, the weight loss, the haircut and color. In three years you'll be on the cover of a magazine." My response: "Three years? How much work do I need?" Point is, guys just don't get it. His comment was supposed to a compliment, we woman just find a way to make those comments an insult. About ten years ago a male friend said something along the lines of how good I would look if I lost some weight. At the time it kinda hurt my feelings but it also appeared to shock me into losing about 45 pounds. Take it as a catalyst to speed your weight loss and don't let it get you depressed.

Butterfly, you are awesome. I think I would have cried. Your attitude truly is inspirational!

Exactly, because if people keep saying stuff after a while it tends to get to you and you know that you have to do something about it. And then end up proving that rude person wrong.

But you're not changing for them, you are changing for you. Like Madea says "People are going to talk about you all your life, he** they talk about me, but it's what you answer to, you remember that." lol. I love Madea. (Diary of a Mad Black Women, Madea's Family Reunion)

Wow what an intelligent response. I would of told her to F*&K off and mind her own business. Grown ups should know better. Unfortunately my 7 year old daughter likes to tell people she doesn't know what she sees. Its getting more than embarrassing to take her out anywhere. She considers her 13 year old sister (5'5" and 135 well placed pounds) fat.

LOL that is great.. ive actually USED that one.. and let me tell you sister... it felt GREAT! ;)

Butterfly, you've got the best advice/responses here! Keep that attitude that you have and you'll be feeling great about yourself no matter what others have to say. There's sooooo much we can do to change our outside, but it's alot harder to change the inside, which is really the most important part!

Kim

Exactly!! I honestly don't like to mouth back or take revenge on the other person, so I just say something polite but stern to let them know that it was rude of what they said.

Butterfly,

YOU ARE THE WOMAN!!!!!!

I know you won't let people affect you in a negative way again, but this person crossed the line, it was plain mean and I would have let that person know they acted like a slug. It doesn't have to mean you were hurt by that comment, rather the fact that they even said it.

Anyway, you keep on with what you're doing! You're awesome!!!!

:hug:

Well thank ya, Carol. :)