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Well I hate to be a downer on such positive conversation, but I am not doing real well and need a little extra support I guess. I am in week 2 of Maintenance and not making real great choices. I think I am honestly overwhelmed with the freedoms and am feeling afraid right now. I feel sometimes limeys I am not as in control because I feel less restricted. My little sister has been recently diagnosed with breast cancer, so I am emotional on top of it all. A tough time...but I see myself making poor choices and get frustrated with my weakness then turn around and screw up again. I sure havent worked this hard to gain it all back...please help me. Any thoughts or words of wisdom
would be greatly appreciated right now.
Tami...
You need to stop and breathe and refocus... I don't know if you cheated lots during your diet challenge, but if you did, this may be why you feel like this.. I have found people that took liberties while dieting, had a heck of a time with maintenance... Sooooo.. I know what you are talking about Cancer in the family.. I have been flying back to California for a sister with Cancer, back to Florida to take care of my job here, and back and forth up North as my daughter has had a stroke in her young age, so it is easy to be apprehensive... But you can do this.. Remember this always .. Failure is always success if you learn from it.. You need to put yourself in charge of this diet thing and eat new items in MODERATION. If it is a trigger point and you think you cannot do it, let it go, and try it later on when your mind is stronger. Start focusing on what you feel you can handle on this diet with the new choices and go slow.. Remember, you are in charge and only you, and no one has this power other than you.. I never think about what I can add to the diet. I just add whatever I can in moderation and keep it healthy.
Portion control is the key.. I was trying one -two new foods a week, if I gained, let them go and tried later... When personal setbacks occur, deal with them, shake them off best you can and move on. Fill yourself with positive energy with this maintenance. Please do not be frightened or apprehensive, as you should not be.. Live for each day on the diet .
As far as personal family medical problems.. I decided for myself instead of
fearing or even fighting the changes , try to deal with them as best as possible. Put your energy into making good and meaningful choices in every thing you do , which includes your maintenance choices.
My success in maintenance was to stay away from my trigger points as honestly, if I know that I can not have a few chips but eat the whole bag, it is off my list. I want you to remember the future is yours to create as you wish with maintenance. I wish you the best and if at any time I can help you, please feel free to ask. Go slow with your new choices and you will be fine. Remember me saying so many times, I never said it would be easy, but I said it would be worth it.
Patzi
Thank you, Patzi...very helpful. I need to figure out the psychology behind what you said about cheating while on the diet...I did do plenty of that, but not understanding how that relates to now?? Maybe because I am allowing myself too much freedom too quickly..believing that now I can justify those previous "cheats" because I am on Maintenance now??Originally Posted by patzi
In answer to TAMI... On this quoteWell I hate to be a downer on such positive conversation, but I am not doing real well and need a little extra support I guess. I am in week 2 of Maintenance and not making real great choices. I think I am honestly overwhelmed with the freedoms and am feeling afraid right now. I feel sometimes limeys I am not as in control because I feel less restricted. My little sister has been recently diagnosed with breast cancer, so I am emotional on top of it all. A tough time...but I see myself making poor choices and get frustrated with my weakness then turn around and screw up again. I sure havent worked this hard to gain it all back...please help me. Any thoughts or words of wisdom
would be greatly appreciated right now.
Tami...
You need to stop and breathe and refocus... I don't know if you cheated lots during your diet challenge, but if you did, this may be why you feel like this.. I have found people that took liberties while dieting, had a heck of a time with maintenance... Sooooo.. I know what you are talking about Cancer in the family.. I have been flying back to California for a sister with Cancer, back to Florida to take care of my job here, and back and forth up North as my daughter has had a stroke in her young age, so it is easy to be apprehensive... But you can do this.. Remember this always .. Failure is always success if you learn from it.. You need to put yourself in charge of this diet thing and eat new items in MODERATION. If it is a trigger point and you think you cannot do it, let it go, and try it later on when your mind is stronger. Start focusing on what you feel you can handle on this diet with the new choices and go slow.. Remember, you are in charge and only you, and no one has this power other than you.. I never think about what I can add to the diet. I just add whatever I can in moderation and keep it healthy.
Portion control is the key.. I was trying one -two new foods a week, if I gained, let them go and tried later... When personal setbacks occur, deal with them, shake them off best you can and move on. Fill yourself with positive energy with this maintenance. Please do not be frightened or apprehensive, as you should not be.. Live for each day on the diet .
As far as personal family medical problems.. I decided for myself instead of
fearing or even fighting the changes , try to deal with them as best as possible. Put your energy into making good and meaningful choices in every thing you do , which includes your maintenance choices.
My success in maintenance was to stay away from my trigger points as honestly, if I know that I can not have a few chips but eat the whole bag, it is off my list. I want you to remember the future is yours to create as you wish with maintenance. I wish you the best and if at any time I can help you, please feel free to ask. Go slow with your new choices and you will be fine. Remember me saying so many times, I never said it would be easy, but I said it would be worth it.
Patzi
I NEED structure with this....I need a menu that lays it out exactly...like the Green did, otherwise I find myself all over the place. They give you a basic "schedule" of how many servings under each category per day, but this isn't enough for me at the moment. I will talk to my counselor. I guess until I am stronger where food temptations are concerned, I need more structure. I am humbly admitting that I am weak when it comes to food. I know in my head to avoid that homemade fudge in the kitchen, but can't seem to do it all of the time. I feel so weak and that is embarrassing.
I am still journaling. I am going to look into this book!
). It may sound trivial, but things like that is what helped me get back on track. Then, I'd add another habit back in and before I knew, I was OP again. Try not to beat yourself up to bad, life happens, but above all else, learn from it and get back in the game. 
