Seeking positive assistance to get back on track

  • To say I blew it would be an understatement. I not only have fallen off the wagon-the wagon has rolled over me. I am going to go weigh in tomorrow so that i can get my focus back. All of the celebrations are over and I am ready to get this weight off. I refuse to keep fighting myself on this. I could really use any tips to help me get back on track. I am just so disappointed in myself.
  • That is actually what I am doing-I thought perhaps if I find some new recipes I will be more encouraged-I get so tired of chicken! When I get bored, I go off program. I know I can do this! Thank you for your response....
  • Quote: To say I blew it would be an understatement. I not only have fallen off the wagon-the wagon has rolled over me. I am going to go weigh in tomorrow so that i can get my focus back. All of the celebrations are over and I am ready to get this weight off. I refuse to keep fighting myself on this. I could really use any tips to help me get back on track. I am just so disappointed in myself.

    Don't be so hard on yourself! Just start new again, and don't look back at what you did and beat yourself up. Tell yourself that you are good. Keep positive self talk "in your head". Negative thoughts will just set you back. Stay positive and it will keep you focused. My center taught me the "90 second rule"... if you feel you want to go off plan, give yourself 90 seconds before you choose something that is off plan. By the time 90 seconds is over, you end up not wanting the "bad " thing. It has totally worked for me. If I feel "snacky" I chew a piece of SF gum.

    You will get back on plan! Just stay positive! You can do it!
  • I believe the "I blew it" thoughts are perhaps the biggest threat to weight loss success. It often inspires the next thought to be "what's the use?"

    I've used this analogy to death, but if you trip climbing a staircase, you don't decide you "blew it," and as a result throw yourself to the bottom.

    Even if you've regained everthing you lost and some extra on top of it - you're not starting over. You've learned a lot about yourself and even your mistakes teach you something.

    Pick yourself up, where ever you have fallen, and keep going. Don't compare your progress to anyone else's - EVEN your past selves. It is what it is, learn from mistakes, but don't punish yourself for them, because punishment ultimately is not as effective as rewards. Reward yourself often, and not just for perfect success, but for the smallest indications of progress.

    If you NEVER beat yourself up again for mistakes, there's never a reason to ever give up. Most often, it seems that we give up because we feel like we are failing. If there is no failure, there's no reason to quit, no matter how slow progress is.

    Don't look at your past failings, and don't look at how far you have to go. Look only at the small steps you decide to take, and watch your feet as you take them (not literally of course, I mean only focus on one or two small changes you intend to make and only pay attention to those. Reward yourself, and then decide on another step or two).

    You may not be able to move a mountain, but you can move one stone at a time. Don't look at the mountain of rocks ahead of you, but only at the stone in your hand.
  • It always helps to think just how awful it makes you feel to revert back to your old eating habits. All that icky guilt! You (and you body!) deserve better than that
  • Hang in there. I don't have any words of wisdom, but just keep going, and don't beat yourself up.
  • Just think of today as a new day! Write down what you ate admit it and move on. You may see a jump in weight but then again sometimes our bodies need that jolt and we might even lose more! I can never quite predict what mine will do when I do that. Drink lots of water today and also up your HNS's. Good luck and hang in there. I do the same thing to myself. And believe me this has not been one of my best weekends! But it's hard when you are at someone else's house to not be rude and then all the eating out!
  • I've learned that, some days, I just have to keep my goals in mind from one minute to the next, one meal to the next. I don't look at the past, and I can't look at my ultimate goal because it gets too discouraging. I just say, "OK, I'll stay on program for this next meal." Then, "OK, I stayed on program for breakfast, now I need to make sure I drink 32 ounces of water before lunch." "OK, now I need to plan a program-happy meal for dinner." Sometimes I find I just have to break it down into those little moment-to-moment events. I can go to bed happy that I completed one day successfully. The next morning, before I get out of bed, before I get on the scale, I set the goals for that day. After a couple of days of that, I'm usually back on track.

    Hope this helps.
  • Thanks ya'll
    So, today I got up and went into town to weigh in-time to face the music. I was fully prepared to have gained. I was surprised that the scale stayed the same! I have gotten back on program today, planned a menu, went to the grocery store...I am so grateful for all of your kind words of encouragement...I am hoping that I can be of some help to others-and I am looking forward to using this site as encouragement along the way! I hope everyone has a wonderful New Year!
  • Quote: I believe the "I blew it" thoughts are perhaps the biggest threat to weight loss success. It often inspires the next thought to be "what's the use?"

    I've used this analogy to death, but if you trip climbing a staircase, you don't decide you "blew it," and as a result throw yourself to the bottom.

    Even if you've regained everthing you lost and some extra on top of it - you're not starting over. You've learned a lot about yourself and even your mistakes teach you something.

    Pick yourself up, where ever you have fallen, and keep going. Don't compare your progress to anyone else's - EVEN your past selves. It is what it is, learn from mistakes, but don't punish yourself for them, because punishment ultimately is not as effective as rewards. Reward yourself often, and not just for perfect success, but for the smallest indications of progress.

    If you NEVER beat yourself up again for mistakes, there's never a reason to ever give up. Most often, it seems that we give up because we feel like we are failing. If there is no failure, there's no reason to quit, no matter how slow progress is.

    Don't look at your past failings, and don't look at how far you have to go. Look only at the small steps you decide to take, and watch your feet as you take them (not literally of course, I mean only focus on one or two small changes you intend to make and only pay attention to those. Reward yourself, and then decide on another step or two).

    You may not be able to move a mountain, but you can move one stone at a time. Don't look at the mountain of rocks ahead of you, but only at the stone in your hand.
    Thanks...this is really well said!
  • Quote: I believe the "I blew it" thoughts are perhaps the biggest threat to weight loss success. It often inspires the next thought to be "what's the use?"

    I've used this analogy to death, but if you trip climbing a staircase, you don't decide you "blew it," and as a result throw yourself to the bottom.

    Even if you've regained everthing you lost and some extra on top of it - you're not starting over. You've learned a lot about yourself and even your mistakes teach you something.

    Pick yourself up, where ever you have fallen, and keep going. Don't compare your progress to anyone else's - EVEN your past selves. It is what it is, learn from mistakes, but don't punish yourself for them, because punishment ultimately is not as effective as rewards. Reward yourself often, and not just for perfect success, but for the smallest indications of progress.

    If you NEVER beat yourself up again for mistakes, there's never a reason to ever give up. Most often, it seems that we give up because we feel like we are failing. If there is no failure, there's no reason to quit, no matter how slow progress is.

    Don't look at your past failings, and don't look at how far you have to go. Look only at the small steps you decide to take, and watch your feet as you take them (not literally of course, I mean only focus on one or two small changes you intend to make and only pay attention to those. Reward yourself, and then decide on another step or two).

    You may not be able to move a mountain, but you can move one stone at a time. Don't look at the mountain of rocks ahead of you, but only at the stone in your hand.
    Goodness gracious! Those words were beautiful and poetic. Thank you!